looking for girls through msn

half_life_man

hey guys what do you think of getting girls over msn. i find it much easier talking to girls than at a party. do you think this is sad? its not like im bad looking or anything i have been told im very good looking. i just never get girls when im out at parties. im 18 and never had a girlfriend and im at the point of pure desperation! what do u guys think?

LegacyUser

Your only 18...wat are you freaking out over?

But personally speaking, i think it is stupid to go looking for girls over msn...

geminilady

well if that works for u..then do it! but i'd say there is lots of guys out there without a girlfriend either, so dont put urself under too much pressure...sure ya never know ya might even find that girl on boards!!! Best of luck!

Bob the Builder

I wouldn't be too bothered really. If you find a girl on msn, dont even think of going otu with her until you've had a conversation in real life, msn has a lot of freaks on it. Just be careful. Also, you'll find that girls are more trouble than their worth. I was at desperation point myself because I was too scared to ask girls to go out with me, now I'm confident enough, but I just dont want to, because I am happy to say I have yet to find someone "compatible", and wait until you have to start buying presents, etc.

Good Luck OP
nev

Drift

Hey OP I used to chat in chatrooms quite a bit and I found it was quite good at building up my self confidence with regard to talking ****e to random people. This is a very useful skill to have when it comes to getting a girlfriend in real life. If you can just chat away to a girl about whatever you want. Be careful though - you can push conversation topics a bit further in a chatroom than you could get away with in a bar with a girl you hardly know!

I don't think you should be using msn as a way of finding a girlfriend though the reasons I have for this are hard to explain without sounding like I'm some sort of old fart relationship "expert" (trust me I'm neither old nor an expert, whether I'm a fart or not is a personal opinion!). So here it goes. 18 is very young in terms of development of relationships. You're still finding your feet and regardless of what it seems like at your age most people don't really know what they're looking for in a mate - they have broad opinions but are feeling their way around so to speak . This can make things awkward in real life but it's all part of learning. However, if you start looking for love on the internet you add in more obstacles such as the lack body language, lack of physical contact, potentially large distances and quite a few less than truthful people. I think these internet obstacles combined with your relative inexperience in relationships could lead to a lot of conflicting and difficult to handle emotions (personal experience here).

So basically I think while it is possible to find love online it's something that people should only be doing when they're quite emotionally mature and are going into it with their eyes open from previous relationships. I know you'll hate hearing this but you're not THAT emotionally mature yet. It's impossible to be at 18. By all means use msn to practise your conversational and flirting skills but then go out and use them on some real girls! The big advantage for teenagers is that any guy who can hold a half decent conversation with a girl he likes without stumbling all over himself is already in the top 20%.

pete4130

my ex housemate was a social network fiend. Had girls flying from Lebanon, Venezuala, Colombia, America, Canada, Spain, Italy, France, Germany, Czech Republic, Brazil just to come spend 2 weeks with him. Get to know them better over msn and things would happen. Some seriously hot ones too. He actually brought one to the airport to catch her flight home but at the same time was at the airport waiting for another to arrive!

It's not sad at all in my opinion. Whats the difference about meeting someone online. People say its weird and they could be lying to you, leading you along, bull****ting you, messing with you.....no more so than a stranger you meet at a party. At least building up a relationship online lets you know that person better whn you finally do meet them. It cuts out on the awkwardness of getting to know people in person. alot of people kow its a good way to have some fun with someone they get on with without worrying if things dont work out.

NADA

I've met a girl online before! Was a bit different though! I had a girlfriend when we first got chatting but we broke up. A later year this girl came to Dublin and invited me to a concert. I didn't plan on getting with her or anything before hand as I was curious to meet her rather than get with a girl ,it just kinda happen naturally. And I was expecting an obsese girl with a beard because I met her on XboxLive but she is easily the sexiest thing on two legs!