good idea or bad idea?

LegacyUser

Hi

dont know if this is a problem or not exactly..


but i want to do something for gfs birthday coming home.. ya see well obviously i find her attractive doh! but she is so self conscience.. i know i know every gal is..her bday is in a month and what i want to do is.. if its possible... go to a place where they will do make up , clothes etc and do a real cool photo shoot of her ..

i just want her to have these cool pictures of herself n then see how beautiful she is and maybe have a bit more faith in herself.. because when we go out for dinner or for drinks she always wears the safe bet rather wearing what she wants cause she is afraid it wont suit her or people be looking at her saying how does she think she can pull that off.. and please dont replying saying let her wear what she wants.. but i know deep down she wants to wear these clothes but is stopping herself..

my thinking is if i get her this 'photo shoot' thingy that maybe she will see photos and go hell ya i look good... i thus see what i see when i look at her..



thanks

chris

annemarie13

this is definitly a good idea chris.go for it. you are a great bf too her.

TequilaMockingBird

I look back at photos of myself when I was younger, and think "Oh I wish I'd known I was pretty" I was always so self conscious and uncomfortable in myself. If I looked like that now, I'd be flaunting it!

Show her my post. Tell her I said it has to be done!!*










*before its too late, sob, sob...

LegacyUser

ok who does this type of thing?.. search it online and alot of it is personal shoppers etc.. but its really just like for a half day n just a photoshoot not to go out buy her clothes etc..

if that makes sense

spinandscribble

god that would make me want the ground to eat me up.

Miss Fluff

If she is as self-conscious as you say then I wouldn't run with this idea OP.

confuddled

I think that's a lovely idea!

She doesn't sound like she's majorly shy - just like she needs a boost. I always went with the safe option too when I was younger - and still do to some extent. Now I wish I had dressed in all the crazy styles of the day when I was young enough to pull it off!

You know her best so I think you should go with it. Regarding where does it - I'm afraid I can't be of much help there BUT I do know that a friend got something like that done at the "off the rails" show at the RDS a few years ago. Just make-up and a photo - it wasn't too expensive and she looked amazing! She has that photo in her sitting room now and she loves it!

Buzz Buzz

Sensational idea!! I work in the modelling industry and can send some numbers etc your way if you want to PM me!

lezizi

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Santa Claus

Has she a mother or sister that you could ask about what they think her reaction would be ?

smiler26

I'd definitely ask one of her friends for advice on this one. If it were for me, I'd HATE it. Her friends/mum/sisters etc will be able to give you a good idea of how much she'd like it/her reaction etc.

Good luck!

Marksie

Hey OP:

Its a brilliant idea.
A few years ago i did exactly the same thing for an ex of mine.

She had major self esteem issues. So i thought along exactly the same lines as you.

I looked in the phonebook and found one of the eally good quality modelling photogrpahers and arranged a sitting.
Even ten years ago it was 248 pounds but it was well worth it cant remember the name of teh photographers though.
They allowed one or two large shots of teh best ones which i got framed properly. (the framers were cooing as well lol)

I wrapped the pcitures and placed a card with the note "this is how i see you "


Its a wonderful idea

and yes she was delighted

Edit: i didnt spring it as s surprise though. I told her beforehand and let her make the decision

TequilaMockingBird

Marksie wrote: »

I wrapped the pcitures and placed a card with the note "this is how i see you "

Thats very sweet.

Marksie

sueme wrote: »

Thats very sweet.

Not at all, it was the truth.

You can tell people and explain to them and they will not "see" it or understand it.

But by actually showing/sharing with them and letting them experience it then they understand.

Literally following the saying in this instance that a pciture is worth more than a thousand words

Follow that principle with lovers and you cant go far wrong in all yuo do

Chinafoot

spinandscribble wrote: »

god that would make me want the ground to eat me up.

+1

If she is very self-conscious this may not go down too well. The sentiment is wonderful and it's very sweet that you want her to see how beautiful you think she is, but if she has low self-esteem a photoshoot may make her feel very uncomfortable. She may also feel pressured to go through with it because you spent X amount of money and really want her to do it.

If you really want to do it you should, like Marksie did, suggest it to her before booking anything. Let her make the decision as it could be a big deal for her depending on how self-conscious she is.

Alternatively, you could organise a special day for her where you can book a hair appointment, then a make-up appointment and perhaps send her off with some female friends who'll help her get some nice clothes before you bring her out for a lovely meal just the two of you. Without the photoshoot. It'll make her feel special without the pressure and possible discomfort of a camera in her face.

Good luck with it

Miss Fluff

[QUOTE=Chinafoot;55217666Alternatively, you could organise a special day for her where you can book a hair appointment, then a make-up appointment and perhaps send her off with some female friends who'll help her get some nice clothes before you bring her out for a lovely meal just the two of you. Without the photoshoot. It'll make her feel special without the pressure and possible discomfort of a camera in her face.:)[/QUOTE]

+1, lovely idea

Marksie

Chinafoot wrote: »

possible discomfort of a camera in her face.

They dont jutus shove a camera in teh face. They have clothes and props and its done in a very easy and professional maner.

Sometimes, just sometimes, people should put aside the what ifs and just go for it.

Chinafoot

Marksie wrote: »

They dont jutus shove a camera in teh face. They have clothes and props and its done in a very easy and professional maner.

Sometimes, just sometimes, people should put aside the what ifs and just go for it.

Maybe they should, but that's very easy for people with high self-esteem to say. She may not find it so easy.

As someone who is very self-conscious I absolutely detest having my picture taken. I won't look at photographs of myself and I avoid the cameras on nights out (unless I'm hammered drunk). If my other half organised something like this for me I'd be mortified and I wouldn't go through with it. Others may not be able to understand why I would have such an issue with it but I'm not going to do something that makes me unbelievably uncomfortable, no matter how well intentioned the OH was.

(Also as an aside, the "camera in her face" wasn't meant to be taken literally, I know thats not how it's done, but she may find it overwhelming.)

But this is all speculation and perhaps the OP's gf isn't as self-conscious as all this. I do think she should be given the choice though.

fits

Chinafoot wrote: »

I won't look at photographs of myself and I avoid the cameras on nights out (unless I'm hammered drunk).

Theres a big difference between cameras on a night out, and a professional taking your picture though.

But this is all speculation and perhaps the OP's gf isn't as self-conscious as all this. I do think she should be given the choice though.

I agree with you, she should be given the choice. I suspect a lot of girls would go for it. If she doesnt appreciate it fully now, she will in a few years. I think its a very sweet idea from the OP tbh.

Chinafoot

fits wrote: »

Theres a big difference between cameras on a night out, and a professional taking your picture though.

Well for me, either is a no no. I still haven't seen any of my sister's wedding photographs that have me in it. That was by done by a professional, so for me it's not about who is takng the picture, but the fact that my picture is being taken. I don't want to see the end result regardless of how good the picture might be.

*shrug*

I'm not saying everyone is the same, rather that its something that should be considered.

jellie

i think you definitely need to discuss it with someone first, preferably her, but at least a friend/sister/mother.

i HATE photos. my bf thinks im beautiful (or so he tells me anyway!), i dont see it. i would absolutely hate if he did something like that for me. i can see where youre coming from & it IS a really sweet idea but it really depends on the girl. definitely check with someone.

how long have you been together? do you know her well enough yourself to know whether she'd like it?

marti101

hats a lovely idea and so original she will see a lot of thought went in to it and i bet she will be secretly pleased.it might give her the boost she needs.i would tell her though andlet her decide but she will probably go ror it.