the end is nigh

LegacyUser

life is just so depressing at mo work home work home work home work home though i had turned a corner a few months back but no same old s**t same old story. friends bailing out not answering calls or txts nothing doing not able/dont want to meet, fedup with life why go on

i thought i was a normal guy but obviously there is something wrong when everyones suddenly discovers that the magical pixies have made them realise they have something better to be doing then meeting an old friend for a chat or a pint

TequilaMockingBird

http://www.samaritans.org/

Ring/email these guys. Its better than you think.

star-pants

Hey OP - don't let yourself feel worthless just because you feel you're in a rut. Perhaps some of your friends do genuinely have things that come up, if it's a case they cancel on X amount of times in a row, maybe give them a call and ask if somethings up.
On the other matter of 'work home work home' - maybe see if there's any hobbies out there you'd be interested in. Could be a sport / dance / social club, and maybe join, that will get you out of the work/house environment which everyone needs sometimes. And in joining /taking part in something you might meet new friends, who will meet you for a pint or chat.

The end is only nigh if you let it - so *don't* let it. It's up to you to change the monotony, and it's not easy to begin with but you need to put yourself out there to see what life has to offer.

the dee

It sounds like you're stuck in a bit of a rut, it can make you feel trapped and unhappy but there are ways out. Might I suggest doing some volunteer work? It'll get you out of the house, you'll meet some nice people, it will take up a few hours a week and you'll know you're doing some good in the world. It does wonders for your self esteem.

Toots

sueme wrote: »

http://www.samaritans.org/

Ring/email these guys. Its better than you think.

QFT, these guys really helped me when I was going through a tough time last year. It'd be well worth getting in touch with them. I hope things get better for you OP.

Overheal

Best thing to do is to set a new Goal or Course. New objectives freshen the mind.

AARRRGH

When you realise you are responsible for your happiness - not the people around you, not the friends you grew up with, not anything external at all - then you will discover happiness.

Stop looking for good emotions from others and start creating them inside youself.

Dakeyras

Unreg567 wrote: »

friends bailing out not answering calls or txts nothing doing not able/dont want to meet,

might i be so bold as to say they are not your friends. but on the flip side i know i can not answer my friends calls/texts for whatever reason and they wont get offended.

so if your 'friends' are continually not responding to your calls/texts then there be an issue, since you're posting about it i'm presuming its become common. time to move onwards....

oh and i meant to say dublindude is saying some fine things

theAwakening

Unreg567 wrote: »

life is just so depressing at mo work home work home work home work home though i had turned a corner a few months back but no same old s**t same old story. friends bailing out not answering calls or txts nothing doing not able/dont want to meet, fedup with life why go on

i thought i was a normal guy but obviously there is something wrong when everyones suddenly discovers that the magical pixies have made them realise they have something better to be doing then meeting an old friend for a chat or a pint

i felt sorry for myself one day, then i saw a tv programme about terminal cancer victims. then i didn't feel sorry for myself anymore, do you see?

Overheal

Depression is a very relative condition, Awakening.

I'll echo whats been said time and again: nobody is going to pick you up but yourself. Take some of your own initiative. If the friends aren't answering then pay them no heed.

If you're that bored though I strongly suggest a change: even if you go wandering off around the countryside for a weekend just to get away; it can give you a different perspective on things. Constantly going between Work Home and Tesco literally dulls the senses - the brain begins to crave new stimuli and if it doesnt get it your dopamine levels begin to plummet.

togster

dublindude wrote: »

When you realise you are responsible for your happiness - not the people around you, not the friends you grew up with, not anything external at all - then you will discover happiness.

Stop looking for good emotions from others and start creating them inside youself.

Exactly... good post! You alone are responsible for happiness. You can never be truly happy unless you are the one to nurture it.

estar

dublindude wrote: »

When you realise you are responsible for your happiness - not the people around you, not the friends you grew up with, not anything external at all - then you will discover happiness.

Stop looking for good emotions from others and start creating them inside youself.

hi the above is very true, athough very direct!!

the unfortunate thing is that people who are feeling
a bit down need support and sometimes people are selfish
and dont give it. perhaps seeking some therapy will help
you find answers as to why you feel like you do, leaving
you free-er in your friendships to be more positive

i personally find the more that i give generally
the more i get back - i try as far as possible
not to burden my friendships with too much negativity
and negative feelings - although i do reach out
when i have to.

i dont mean to make assumptions about how
you are with your friends as obviously i dont know you.
im just offering an insight based on personal experience.