Russian brides?

stek

Hiya,
Ive decided to investigate the possibilities of getting meself a Russian bride. I've been trying to find a decent Irish woman for the past decade or so and am giving up! Now that I'm into my thirties I find that most of the women in Ireland are either taken or not interested.
My question is, has anyone had any experience of the 'Russian Bride' web sites? I think Ive found a pretty good one and am tempted to take the next step( take a trip over).

If anyone has had any experience in this area (good or bad!) could you share it?
Thanks, appreciate any input.

PS: how is this not a PI???

Swampy

Well I've no experience but I think its a great idea. Go for it.

Sure, you're hardly going to get married straight away. If it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't. What have you got to lose.

Plus, they're pretty hot.

dudara

I'm going to be keeping a very close eye on this thread. No messing please posters.

Anyone with advice / experience of travelling abroad to meet / date non-Irish women, please feel free to comment.

The whole bride thing sounds a bit dodgy to be honest. If your going to go to a website, why not try a dating website. The whole getting married thing is going a bit too far, and you could get somebody who wants you for things other then yourself.
The other thing also is there is now a law in Ireland that will not guarantee she can stay here, even though she is married to you. One of my friends has a girlfriend from outside europe. It is costing them a fortune as they have tried everything for her to live here, even if they were to marry , she wil lstill be ilegal here.

Burnt Toast

What would your friends/family think of you finding a wife through a website?

These women aren't marrying for love either, would that be ok with you?

MattKid

I have a few friends that have met American girls over the internet and are now living over there and married, obviously this isn't the same as a mail order bride website.

I am also wondering what the personal issue is here.

If you have a thing for Russian women there are plenty of Russian and Polish about here.


Are you saying you are unable to attract someone that you'd like to have a relationship with and you have decided to take the option of buying a wife?

Sorry if that sounded blunt, I'm just curious of your position and thought process.

i_have donethis

I have done this and here is my advice

1) remember you will not automatically find a bride but find a lady who is 'marriage minded' so there is still the element of courtship and suitability. Some people will make snide remarks that you got your bride through the internet, but really these websites generally only facilitate first contact between you and a girl. The rest is up to you.

2) This is expensive! travelling to countries of the Former soviet union can cost a lot, when you also tie in visa costs etc. Also your intended may live far from an international airport.

3) Find a reputable website, I used a website years ago called 'a foreign affair' however I am not sure if it is still running. For a small fee you can browse the Ladies and then when you have made a choice they will send you the contact details for you and you can then write/email/phone them

4) Try to avoid ladies (this will sound terrible) who are divorcees, mothers etc Believe me the beauracracy will break your heart e.g. Former fathers have to sign release documents for their wives children to travel, I have heard plenty of stories that won't do this unless you pay them

5) Remember that you are meeting people of very different culture and of very different circumstance so be as open minded as possible. Especially be open minded to new ideas, food, the fact there may not be an indoor toilet in the house!

6) I was a member of a yahoo group that members who were doing this could discuss their experiences. Good tips and advice to be found, it was called UK-FSU yahoo group

7) When you do find a lady, be absolutely committed, as you must remember this is an absolute leap of faith for them too.

I met my wife 9 years ago, I visted her after 9 months of letter writing and after that we married 18 months later, I lived with her prior to our marriage in her country for 3 months to be absolutely sure that we were compatible. Before this she had visited Ireland twice and I had been to her country at least 6 times in that time. We are still married, very much still in love and have 2 beautiful children. We still travel a lot back to her home country to visit relatives and friends

I wish you all the best, and pm me if you need any further advice

Judes

Hi Stek!

The last post sounds sounds like perfect advice i.e. all the answers to your question.

I'm just curious about one thing - as you are so willing to find a bride from another country and begin your relationship over the internet - have you actually tried internet sites in Ireland to meet Irish women? There are hundreds of Irish women (and men) out there who may be a few counties away - why not try a national site first - starting with friendship and building up from there. It would also be a lot cheaper to just travel a county or two away, than a continent.

But best of luck Stek!!! J

Victor

Be aware that some will ask for money so they can buy a ticket to visit you. This is a scam and immensely common.

mikemac

Hmmmm,interesting thread and I've not much to add but I've see elderly Irish famers on the Late Late Show
"She loves me" says the farmer but everyone thinks the girl is attracted by the wealth of the Irish farmer. With the price of land these days many are millionarires even if they live in decripit bungalows.

OP, go for it and check it out but don't suprised to find a gold-digger!

Canis Lupus

As I work for a certain large money transfer company I'll simply tell you to not waste your time looking in Russia or say..... the Philippines.... or Thailand or... look don't do it.

Of course in my line of work my opinion is biased but sooner or later I reckon they'll ask you for cash and then more and then more......

Personally I'd say keep looking in Ireland. There are plenty of women there.

If nothing else and you do go ahead with it then once u get a name google it to see if it pops up on scam warning sites and do not send money to help her family, to get her a visa to visit, for air tickets, for her pet dogs kennel fees etc etc etc.

But then my experience has shown me that a high percentage of people looking for "russian brides" don't listen to this advice and then wonder why they sat all day in Dublin airport with a bunch of flowers and their bank balance a grand or two lighter for no reason.

bombidol

Didnt someone on boards get a russian wife at some stage? Who was it? I'm looking at you old schoolers

tolosenc

bombidol wrote: »

Didnt someone on boards get a russian wife at some stage? Who was it? I'm looking at you old schoolers

Bubbles.

dudara

bombidol and obl Stay on topic please

AARRRGH

I know quite a few Russians who would fit the "Russian Bride" category. I really think you should steer clear of Russians. I'm sorry, but the Russian Bride types are well dodgy.

If you are just looking for someone to start a family with, you should consider an Asian (Korean) as they are very traditional and look down on things like cheating.

Xiney

dublindude wrote: »

I know quite a few Russians who would fit the "Russian Bride" category. I really think you should steer clear of Russians. I'm sorry, but the Russian Bride types are well dodgy.

If you are just looking for someone to start a family with, you should consider an Asian (Korean) as they are very traditional and look down on things like cheating.

wow, talk about tarring everyone with the same brush!

I too think OP should give online dating in Ireland a try - if only for the fact that long-distance relationships are very expensive to maintain, and she might be very homesick in Ireland, leading to many expensive trips back home.

Canis Lupus

Canis Lupus wrote: »

But then my experience has shown me that a high percentage of people looking for "russian brides" don't listen to this advice and then wonder why they sat all day in Dublin airport with a bunch of flowers and their bank balance a grand or two lighter for no reason.

God thats a depressing image!

NortSoide

Victor did mention the scams.

So, I will send you the following link - although I do think the website is a little bit overdone on the negative side. There's quite a lot of information there.

And, of course, on the other hand, we don't hear the bull**** which some of the decent women get from Western types either.

http://agencyscams.com/Horror.html

MattKid

Actually I do know an English guy who has just married a russian girl, they met on the internet but not through one of those sites, she however was a girl with a good education (masters degree) and a good job over there. He went over a few times and she lived in England with him for a good few months before they got married.

So far so good.

Clytus

I did a years work experiance in Zurich many years ago...while there I used to buy the Hearld Tribune as it was one of the few english dailys I could get...but what I found most weird was the Last page. It had ads everyday for brides from the far east.

Lenina

To OP: why do you not try just ordinary internet dating? There are many women from Russian speaking countries or other Slavic countries who are in Dublin already and in general most of them are traditional and family orientated.
I found my fiance through internet dating, although I did not look for marriage at the beginning. It just worked out that way.

Lambsbread

To be honest, I don't think this is the right road to go down. I was going to write and say I feel after reading your post that I was insulted. But i think you don't mean any harm in it.

I have lived in Moscow for a year and have found it pretty incredible. The women are very friendly (and beautiful!). If you spend some time over here you will meet a girl.

I think that instead of just taking an easy option and just ordering from a "catalogue", you should maybe try and move to a different country for a few years where you have a better chance of meeting a girl. This would be a far better experience and probably more successful in the long run than just buying one!