Another Boy Girl dont know what to do

LegacyUser

Sorry for posting this. I know every day there seems to be a thread like this. But here it goes. My Friend has been going out with a girl for 4 years. 8 months ago here sister moved back from the UK
(Lets call her sally) Since she has moved back Sally has been askin her sis about me.
Both my friend, his girlfriend and Sallys other Sis have been trying to get me to ask sally out. I like sally but I very very shy.

I asked her out in Nov. We has a fantastic time which she still talk about. We met up at a party in my friends house and kissed, touched but did not have sex.

I ve been busy trying to get a promopion in work so have really had time to bring her out again whioch she understands. But she has been texting me and askin me to call down when she baybysits her other sister kids.

I sent her a text asking her out last weekend. But wrotye back saying she had to work that day. I asked her would she like to do something the next day and she said she had a night planned with the girls. Yes I know this is getting pathetic but I asked her out the following night after that and she sent me a message saying thanking me but saying I dont think she.
I went to ring her after reciving the final text but her phone was off.

I know what the answer is but I cant understand it, New years she was all over me. 5 weeks ago she was tring to get me to come down to cork for the weekend. Now as far as I can see she's not intrested in me.

Its been a week now and I havent spoken to her, I have to ring her today to know what has changed. But I know this is a really bad idea. But I have to hear her tell me straight out she's not intrested in me anymore.

Should I ring

star-pants

Hi OP
I hate to say it but it does sound like she's no longer interested. You said it took a while to ask her out but you did, that was in November. It's now February - she's waited a long time for a second date. She kept trying by inviting you over etc but you kept turning her down-now I know you were busy with work but from her POV she was trying but you weren't responding.
And perhaps she just thought to herself 'I've waited long enough' and let go. Now you try asking her out - and she's decided she's no longer interested.

There is a slight chance she is doing to you what you did to her, keep blowing you off to see if you're really interested. But considering she turned her phone off after saying no the third time - I doubt it.

If you really really want to know - you can try ringing her, but I would say it's the simple fact she's moved on and didn't want to wait around anymore. There's no major harm in ringing though.

Rob_l

OP when in situations with the opposite sex, time is your enemy when your both in the mood things are happening a whole chemical bag of tricks is at play in both your minds and bodies use this to your advantage.

When you let time to start to dull those feelings as you have you face an uphill struggle to recreate them, move on, a million girls or more live in planet Ireland, go out talk to them find your confidence!

BaZmO*

You've blown it mate. You've had several chances and you haven't taken them. Would you wait around for someone if they kept on telling you that they were too busy to meet up?

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I ve been busy trying to get a promopion in work so have really had time to bring her out again whioch she understands. But she has been texting me and askin me to call down when she baybysits her other sister kids.

So busy that you couldn't reply and say that you'll be over after work or that you'll meet her the next day?

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I have to ring her today to know what has changed. But I know this is a really bad idea. But I have to hear her tell me straight out she's not intrested in me anymore.

Should I ring

I'll save you the expense of the call by saying that she's obviously not interested any more and tbh why would she be? You've had numerous chances to meet her and didn't bother.
Ringing her to ask if she's still interested will just seem pathetic.