Jealous of others

LegacyUser

Hi. I get so jealous when I see pictures of my friends posted on facebook, bebo etc. Everyone is off doing different things, enjoying their live so much. A lot of people are traveling the world and posting pictures of them selves laughing, meeting new people, parties, sun shine etc.
Here I am almost 31 and lying in my bed on this cold winters night having to get up for crap work tomorrow. I would love to up and leave all this and do what others are doing but I just dont have the courage. I feel too old, as most of the people I talk about are in their mid 20's. I am in a long term relationship and she would be heart broken etc etc. The future looks very dark

LegacyUser

It may not always be as good as it looks! far away fields and all that. A lot of people on bebo use it as a way of convincing themselves that their own life is great

dr.bollocko

Upping and leaving everything behind can be freeing. Particularly in the lead up, you really feel that you are pulling yourself out of your rut, or changing everything that you perceive as bad in your current life.
But you have to realise that those pictures, bebo pages, people laughing etc. That is just a postcard memory. On that same day those people were laughing, they probably had a million arguments on the way to the beach in their car, had their flip-flops stolen when they were in the sea and ended up spending the night on the side of the road in a strange country with a flat tyre. You aren't seeing the full story of the pitfalls of doing something like prolonged travel, the blanks that exist between each smiling pictures, and that is the meat of travel and one that is very difficult to come to terms with.
But it really is an issue of faraway hills. The reality of travelling is often a lonely, difficult road, full of self doubt and second guessing yourself. I am sitting here right now in an office in Melbourne on a sunday afternoon wondering what the hell I am doing here.

And I tell you one thing, if you do have to leave, you will suddenly realise what is really important to you in life, and I will be glad to bet that a lot of what is important to you exists rather close to that cosy bed you have with your girlfriend on a cold winter's night in Ireland.

funloving

I know how you feel..I work mon-friday, 9am to 6 pm and when I come back home I study for my exams.
I am attending a masters in sciences of intercultural mediation and it's very difficult.
I feel as if I am missing out a lot,I don't have time to go out and have fun so I can very lonely sometimes...
It seems to me too that other people are making the most of their lives but I made a choice and hopefully this should lead me to a brighter future...
The grass is always greener on the other side

LegacyUser

face77 wrote: »

Hi. I get so jealous when I see pictures of my friends posted on facebook, bebo etc. Everyone is off doing different things, enjoying their live so much. A lot of people are traveling the world and posting pictures of them selves laughing, meeting new people, parties, sun shine etc.
Here I am almost 31 and lying in my bed on this cold winters night having to get up for crap work tomorrow. I would love to up and leave all this and do what others are doing but I just dont have the courage. I feel too old, as most of the people I talk about are in their mid 20's. I am in a long term relationship and she would be heart broken etc etc. The future looks very dark

Hey man dont be in bad mood, I am nearly 33 yrs old,the czech nat.,over here 3,5 yrs.Live is how u make it.Do same change.I have girl-friend over 8 yrs,here together.Sometimes up sometimes down.But u have big plus....your first language is english....so what's the fu.k ?!!!
Take some money and go explore some another country...just for 1year or so....if you are not lazy,u can find a job easily.
Just do it !!!

Miss Fluff

face77 wrote: »

Hi. I get so jealous ................Here I am almost 31 and lying in my bed on this cold winters night having to get up for crap work tomorrow.............I would love to up and leave all this and do what others are doing but I just dont have the courage. I feel too old, as most of the people I talk about are in their mid 20's. I am in a long term relationship and she would be heart broken etc etc. The future looks very dark

Languish all you want or go and do something about it. If you want to go and travel go and travel. Why would your GF be heartbroken? Can't you save and do it together? You don't intimate from your post that you have any babies to take care of so why not take a sabattical and go and actually live these experiences? Jealousy is a vile time-consuming exercise imo.

445279.ie

face77 wrote: »

Hi. I get so jealous when I see pictures of my friends posted on facebook, bebo etc. Everyone is off doing different things, enjoying their live so much. A lot of people are traveling the world and posting pictures of them selves laughing, meeting new people, parties, sun shine etc.
Here I am almost 31 and lying in my bed on this cold winters night having to get up for crap work tomorrow. I would love to up and leave all this and do what others are doing but I just dont have the courage. I feel too old, as most of the people I talk about are in their mid 20's. I am in a long term relationship and she would be heart broken etc etc. The future looks very dark

Follow your heart and go with your gut instinct.

Dudess

You're not at all too old. These days it's about ties, not age. And you have one tie - your girlfriend. BUT... you're feeling unhappy and you need to do something about it. She should understand. If she doesn't then you need to ask yourself whether you should be in this relationship. But maybe she'd like to go travelling too?