Choose between women

LegacyUser

Right long story short.

I'm abroad at the moment and I met girl #1. Girl #1 is extremely intelligent (PhD), extremely nice, extremely interesting and I have a great time with her. Shes also very beautiful. Shes a good bit older then me though, 5 years-ish. Now she left the country for a few months and we're meant to meet up when she gets back. Calling her everyday etc etc yadda yadda you know the deal.

Problems with this girl is shes constantly changing her mind about everything. She has an excellent job in her home country waiting for her when she gets back but shes thinking about staying abroad for good/temporary basis.

Half the time shes 100% into me and trying things out, the other half shes thinking about everything from staying where she is and getting a permanent job to moving to ireland to moving to california to .... etc etc.

Met an absolutely stunning girl , girl #2 a couple weeks ago. She is a model, extremely beautiful. I mean so beautiful I feel like she shouldn't even be talking to me. Shes also very intelligent, no real qualifications as far as I know but still really intelligent. Get on well the little time we've had. Shes definately not just beautiful (although she could get away with it) shes into snow boarding and other things and takes care of herself (financially) very well.

Problems with this girl so far is that I don't know what her career plans are when age sets in and she can't model anymore and she KNOWS shes a stunner. i.e > She knows shes beautiful and knows shes treated differently because of it and sometimes she states it (which pisses me off cause i hate that kind of crap). Even though shes absolutely correct, theres no reason to flaunt it especially to friends. she says things like "everyones nice to me" (hinting at the fact most men would cut off their left testicle to get her in the sack) or "I'm beautiful" (Yes dear, I, you and everyone who knows you as well as everyone who seen you tonight knows that).

Shes also a little bit older then me (2-years-ish).

So ...thats my issue. Choose the absolute stunning beauty who ..well is just fantastically beautiful but whom I'm not sure what the relationship is yet (nothing more then intimate surroundings, hand holding and conversation .. but i have only met her 3 times) or the intelligent girl I have had a relationship with and are planning more.

Sherifu

I don't think anyone here can make the choice for you tbh. I was tempted to say just go with girl #2 because I hate indecisive people and career stuff wouldn't be important for me but that's just me. You'll have to weigh up what you like/dislike about both. I don't think you should be thinking about #2 while you're seeing #1 but that's a different matter.
Choice is yours.

dublinlawyer

What's the problem? I don't get it. Lol.

The_Conductor

Personally- people who know they are good looking and use it to their advantage, totally do my head in. But then again, indecisiveness can be one of the most frustrating things imagineable. I'd be inclined to advise towards girl #1 - but can you not find a nice sane girl somewhere? Its all well and good having beauty and intelligence- and personally I rate intelligence very highly- but having someone who doesn't do your head in and wants the same things in life as you are also factors that you really should take on board.

irish_boy90

i would have to say #1
but.... Relationships don't always work out so Why waste a shot at the hot model for a while

humanji

OP, maybe you should, instead about thinking about the persons future, think about who you want to be with. Who will make you happy? That's all that matters. F*ck the future. Think about now. The rest will fall into place, be it good or bad, it'll happen when it happens.

DangleDevil

From reading your post i don't think you deserve either of them... your obviously playing the two of them untill you make your decision. Plus if someone is career driven or not shouldn't even come into it.

Nevyn

If you can't choose between them then neither of them is right for you.

Loki1983

Whichever one you choose, can I have the leftovers?

Wibbs

I agree with Thaedydal. If you can't make up your mind, then there's not a lot going on with either of them. This is not like choosing a car. This stuff isn't rocket science.

Loki1983 keep on topic.

fuzzywiggle

Uncertainty is horrible and its more that likely what you will constantly face with girl #1 by the sounds of it. But if you're willing to put up with that then well and good.

Ok so the other girl is a cracker and knows it. There's no harm in her stating the obvious really. Why does it bother you?

You seem to be interested in their finances. Girl #1 seems independant and financially secure and girl #2 probably is aswell, but maybe not in the long term? Are you terrified you'd have to support her or something?

Love doesn't come with all these terms and conditions..have you got a check list with lists these women must comply with?

spinandscribble

i agree with the last poster. the check list? i dont think you care about either much otherwise the choice would be easy. it already sounds like girl 2 is annoying you already (after meeting her just 3 times; how sure can you be she actually wants a long term relationship?) and girl 1 doesnt seem too interested and has alot going on.

Nerin

If you can't choose between them then neither of them is right for you.

+1

Thaed,bottle that wisdom