What should i do?

LegacyUser

I am going unreged for this....

I hope i don't bore people with this story but this situation is wrecking my head and I need some advice.

I have been with my girlfriend a long time and things are mostly allways great between us. We have broken up several times over the years but allways keep getting back together, the peoblem is stuff that happened in between those times. I was with some other peple and so was she. This does not bother me but it seems to bother her.

I also find it very hard to trust her, she basically told me that its ok if she is with other people as long as she dosn't shag them. I flipped when she said this.

How can I trust a person like that and if I can't is there any point in us being together.

finbarrk

You don't trust her and she doesn't trust you, I don't think it will work out to be honest. Move on.

Lollipops23

yeah she's not ready for a committed relationship if she reckons it's ok to be with other people.....

star-pants

You need to set boundaries - if you want her as your exclusive GF - she seems to view this as an open relationship, and you don't. Ye need to both be on the same page or not at all.

Sleepy

Re-arrange this sentance:

the her to kick kerb.

AngryBadger

dty1000 wrote: »

I was with some other peple and so was she. This does not bother me but it seems to bother her...I also find it very hard to trust her...she...told me that its ok if she is with other people as long as she dosn't shag them.

What?

Dump her ass.

Wibbs

If you want this to work, you need to establish boundaries and fast. If you leave it to her she won't and why should she if you go along with it?

haff

not to mention STIs, just something to consider as a massively increased risk factor in an 'open relationship' if thats what you end up agreeing on.

skull_candy

either she's afraid of commitment, or just using you as her comfort zone, she wants the perks of the relationship, to know that you're practically hers, and you going nuts over her saying it's ok for her to be with other..etc..in her mind was great, means she can do what she wants yet you'll still be there waiting for her, as i say though thats a possibilty of her mind but i've seen it done before. then you've got the sorat worst case scenario i guess of you not completely satisfying her so she's gettin her jollies elsewhere...

Regardless, sit her down, tell it's not on, you're together or you're not. If she doesn't agree you're better off without.

Nerin

i was going to tell you me and my ex had similar problems and try help you out till i saw her with other people policy...thats too dodgey
i'd be inclined to break up due to lack of trust