Too big and sick of it..

LegacyUser

I don't mean fat...

I'm 6"7 and by all accounts a pretty big guy, hands like shovels etc etc..

Anyway my problem is my penis is just too large, I'm not bragging here this has guven me serious depression over the years. I'm 27 now. When erect my penis is 10 inches longs and looks like one of those jumbo salami things you get in tesco.

While i was growing up i got a lot of attention from girls, but once i started in college most of the I only had (successful) sex with one girl (due to the fact i think she liked the pain) But with other girls we pretty much didn't get past, digital stimulation, oral(me and the girl) but when he came to intercourse they all just said it was too painful (There was an ep of sex and the city about this!) I spent plenty of time with each girl on foreplay, used plenty of lub, tried a bookful of positions but only ever managed sex with one girl a few times.

Now I'm a bit older and have met a wonderful girl, the problem is she's 5"5 and tiny compared to me, We have fooled around a bit and I get the usual "gosh its so big I really want it" but its not long before that changes to "I'm not sure if I can take that" So basically I'm sick of losing girls over this, I'm not consider penis reduction, so I'm looking for some sexual advice so I dont lose another relationship to this...
thanks Mike

(no not the mod Mike)

Sherifu

You should also talk to your GP for help with this.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

I'm inclined to pay attention to the not-sexual side of the relationship, but I figure this has been done. How ablot lots of foreplay and non-penatrative sex? Not an expert, I hold my hands up, but if the girl's worth it, she'll stick around.

Mazeire

Lube lube and more lube. I don't actually think that there is any such thing as apenis reduction so you are stuck with what God gave you.

togster

Well i have seen some porn start take huge pipe before so i guess its physically possible. Like the poster above said , use lube. And also if this girl cares about you she will help you find a way.

Baudelaire

The biggest problem as regards pain is not how wide it is but how far in you go, get her to be on top, use plenty of lube, and let her control how far in it goes.

niceirishfella

geeez, if i had a slong like that, i'd be making a fortune as a porn star!:D

but i guess you've heard that all the time.

Loopy

If you take her from behind it will be a lot less painful for her..

Mazeire

looptheloop wrote: »

If you take her from behind it will be a lot less painful for her..

No actually if anything it would be worse...

Buzz Buzz

If their equipment is designed to push out a baby, surely with some maneuvering she can fit you in..!

Beruthiel

stanfan wrote: »

I'm looking for some sexual advice so I dont lose another relationship to this...

First off, why should you loose a relationship over this? imo anyone dumping you over this is not worth having in the first place.
I've said more than once, if you can get a baby through there, I think you can safely say your todger should have no problems.
Am I the only one who thinks penetration is a very small part of sex?
You know you can have fantastic sex without ever penetrating. Work on your oral sex techniques, use fingers. Practice on being a fantastic lover in every other way.

Nevyn

The same way blokes have a range of size of penis women also have a range of size of vagina there is no one size fits all for either gender.

With Lube and with time a woman's vagina will infact shape it's self to accomidate her regular lover. Maybe look at getting a sex toy that will help with this.

Certian posistions will help this as will certain types of differnt rythms and strokes.

I am a firm believer of where there is a willy there is a way.

angelicious

I was with my ex for 6 years and whilst he wasn't hugely endowded, I found penetration to be very painful and our sex life did suffer greatly. Being that I'm anatomically built to pop babies made no difference.

Anyway, after we split I went about sowing my proverbial wild oats (I have quite a high sex drive when flying solo!) and whilst sex wasn't painful with the majority of randomers I slept with, I still didn't enjoy it and I just couldn't relax. It's only now that I'm with my current partner that I'm actually able to enjoy sex - in fact he gave me my first penetrative orgasm and we haven't looked back since!

Before we slept together, I was open and honest about my sexual experiences, we took our time, didn't make sex THE priority and we allowed it to happen naturally. If this girl is as great as I hope for your sake she is, talk to her and express your concerns but don't make intercourse the be all and end all of your relationship. Also, when the time comes, let her take the driving seat on top - that way she can manouver herself to what feels comfortable and good for her. After all, we wimmin love to be in control

I hope this helps somewhat. Good luck!

Wibbs

niceirishfella wrote: »

geeez, if i had a slong like that, i'd be making a fortune as a porn star!:D

but i guess you've heard that all the time.

Im sure he has, so why did you think he needed to hear it again? No advice added either? Think before you post.

OP Certain positions should help, especially ones where the penetration is shallower. The "spoons" position would be one. Face to face on your sides would be another. Her on top could cause problems. Although she has more control, she could move in a way where the depth would be too much. Rear entry the same as when the bloods up, you may push too much.

Difficult one and although some say penetration is only a small part of it(Beruthiel for one:D), I personally consider it a big part of it. It certainly is when and if there are difficulties doing it. Then as in your case it becomes a very important part of it. Also while in an ideal world you wouldn't be dumped over this, in the real world it could happen.

Continue the lube and experimentation and good luck. Communicate your worries to your partner too. Make her part of it and she's more likely to feel part of the solution.

Aran61

Thaedydal wrote: »

With Lube and with time a woman's vagina will infact shape it's self to accomidate her regular lover. Maybe look at getting a sex toy that will help with this.

This is so true. I was with a guy for 6 months and he was huge. By the end of it I could take him no problem (and then some!). It was disappointing afterwards though when I went back to normal sized guys. Anyway, if your new girl sticks around long enough she'll adapt to take it all.

miles teg

you can get a doughnut type thing that goes on your lad which stops it going in too far. browse online for one

Ninja_scrotum

www.lpsg.org

MIN2511

OP, some women like big things!!! I know a guy that he's is nearly at his knees... And i am not exaggerating, it was depressing for him but he met a girl that can take it all.
Take things slowly, you don't have to put everything in at first. It's all about controlling, you can control how you penetrate.

WildIrishRose

women's muscles can adapt to the size after awhile....
If she's worth it then she'll wait around,
Good Luck:D

microgirl

looptheloop wrote: »

If you take her from behind it will be a lot less painful for her..

Sweet Jesus no!!! It's the complete opposite!

Entry from the rear is for *deeper* penetration; with 10 inches you don't bloody want that! My ovaries are hurting just thinking about it! (yes, you can hit the ovaries from the inside, and it hurts like Bejaysus, being gonads as they are)

OP - Baudelaire is right. It's not thickness that's the biggest problem, it's length and depth of penetration. Yes, thickness will present some issues, but these are the ones that can usually be overcome by taking it very slowly, going very gently, and using lots of lubricant. Ease yourself in a little, come back out again or perhaps hold the position, ease yourself in a little further - it's all doable.

The length is a different matter. While there may be porn out there showing girls taking 10+ inches, I don't know how they do it, whether they can be "eased" into it, or trained over time to take greater lengths, or whether it's do to with their natural inner size (we're not all the same size either ) Chances of you "training" this girl, even over time, to be able to take you all are slim to none, and I wouldn't even try. So your biggest challenge is going to be resisting the urge to really thrust, and limit yourself to 5"-7" penetration (and 7" would be pretty good). This will ultimately be a lot easier if you keep to a woman-on-top position and let *her* control how far in you go. It's incredibly difficuly for a guy to keep control when, well, when he's losing control It may mean you never climaxing through penetration, which is a big shame and something that could be a problem, but for the sake of keeping a healthy relationship with a girl you really care about, it's surmountable

Gyalist

OP, any woman would pick up on your lack of confidence and apparent self-hatred and it would cause them not to relax fully. I'm not surprised that they've found it painful.

Every partner that I've had, without exception, has remarked about my size but no one has ever complained about pain. Discomfort yes, but never pain. Some have had discomfort/soreness the day after and a few have said that they got cystitis but that didn't stop them looking for repeat performances.

A woman's height has absolutely nothing to do with whether she could accomodate you. I am very tall and I've had partners smaller than yours who have had absolutely no problem. It's all mostly in your head, a self-limiting belief that you've developed.

You will have to learn to accept yourself as you are because if you don't it will certainly impact on your relationships with others.

LegacyUser

Where's Marksie? He always has excellent advice on these sort of topics.

Zillah

microgirl wrote: »

yes, you can hit the ovaries from the inside

Have you ever looked at a biology book? There is no way whatsoever a penis can reach the ovaries.



As you can see, hitting the ovaries would require a penis to enter the vagina, pass through the top into the womb, right up through the womb, around a tight bend and through a tiny tube to finally poke them.

Clare_Guy

Zillah wrote: »

As you can see, hitting the ovaries would require a penis to enter the vagina, pass through the top into the womb, right up through the womb, around a tight bend and through a tiny tube to finally poke them.

but if he went in orally...?!

Bottle_of_Smoke

Perhaps your length is casing too much pain but surely you can just not go in the whole way.

I've found girls will be able to take more when they're aroused/enjoying themselves, so start off slowly & let them take control, the first few times anyway, until she's used to you.

I think its more liekly girls are leaving you over being unconfident/nervous about yourself rather than your size in itself.

Loopy

microgirl wrote: »

Sweet Jesus no!!! It's the complete opposite!

Entry from the rear is for *deeper* penetration; with 10 inches you don't bloody want that! My ovaries are hurting just thinking about it! (yes, you can hit the ovaries from the inside, and it hurts like Bejaysus, being gonads as they are)

OP - Baudelaire is right. It's not thickness that's the biggest problem, it's length and depth of penetration. Yes, thickness will present some issues, but these are the ones that can usually be overcome by taking it very slowly, going very gently, and using lots of lubricant. Ease yourself in a little, come back out again or perhaps hold the position, ease yourself in a little further - it's all doable.

The length is a different matter. While there may be porn out there showing girls taking 10+ inches, I don't know how they do it, whether they can be "eased" into it, or trained over time to take greater lengths, or whether it's do to with their natural inner size (we're not all the same size either ) Chances of you "training" this girl, even over time, to be able to take you all are slim to none, and I wouldn't even try. So your biggest challenge is going to be resisting the urge to really thrust, and limit yourself to 5"-7" penetration (and 7" would be pretty good). This will ultimately be a lot easier if you keep to a woman-on-top position and let *her* control how far in you go. It's incredibly difficuly for a guy to keep control when, well, when he's losing control It may mean you never climaxing through penetration, which is a big shame and something that could be a problem, but for the sake of keeping a healthy relationship with a girl you really care about, it's surmountable

I mean, speaking for myself here, when entered from behind you have more control over it i.e him not being on top humping away.. U can move if u are not comfortable..

LegacyUser

Well, if it makes you feel any better I went out with a guy for 2 years who had a penis thatn was huge when erect and i'm 5ft 4, sex was good while it was happening but always started to burn and become really sore towards the end...however, i loved him and i thought it was a small price to pay - he was very good at pleasuring me in other ways so although sex was a little uncomfortable at times his size wasn't his fault so i never would have held it against him.

Nevyn

A man can certainly bumb a woman's cervix if he is long enough or in certain positions.
Some women like that sensation and some women find it painful it depends.