She wants it dirty

LegacyUser

Guys, please excuse the "adult" content of this email. I would have posted it in the sex & sexuality section, but I can't. And as you can see, I've gone unregged for this question.

Basically, the gf wants to try sex but not in the normal way. She wants to try the backdoor kind. I've never tried this before and I'm a bit worried about it. In fact, and not being a prude about it, I've never even thought about it before. I've put her on hold for the moment, but I haven't got a clue what to do.

Are girls usually into this as I haven't come across a girl who requested this? Does it hurt either of us? Seriously, I'm a bit weirded out by it all. Help me please.

funloving

I can't speak for all the girls but from my experience and that of my female friends I would say it's really usual and common to have "backdoor" sex...
Sometimes it can be sore,some others it's not but depends on many things like how relaxed your muscles are,if you're lubrificated,maybe the size of him and the elasticity of the girl's....

I can't see it as something weird or dirty...so don't worry about this girl's wishes...think of it in terms of trying something new for both of you...

IamBeowulf

what do i do wrote: »

Guys, please excuse the "adult" content of this email. I would have posted it in the sex & sexuality section, but I can't. And as you can see, I've gone unregged for this question.

Basically, the gf wants to try sex but not in the normal way. She wants to try the backdoor kind. I've never tried this before and I'm a bit worried about it. In fact, and not being a prude about it, I've never even thought about it before. I've put her on hold for the moment, but I haven't got a clue what to do.

Are girls usually into this as I haven't come across a girl who requested this? Does it hurt either of us? Seriously, I'm a bit weirded out by it all. Help me please.

First, don't be weirded out. Alot of girls (and guys) enjoy anal stimulation. Some don't. Some would but deny themselves the opportunity. I imagine you're fairly young so the girls you've been with were probably only beginning to explore their sexual interests. This girl is openminded, a good thing my friend!

Second, don't just jump in there! Take the time t relax her from head t toe. it helps to relax her muscles so that it'll be as easy to kick things off as possible.

Thirdly, lubrication. lots of it!

Enjoy, my friend. Take it slow. And relish every moment

aidan24326

what do i do wrote: »

Guys, please excuse the "adult" content of this email. I would have posted it in the sex & sexuality section, but I can't. And as you can see, I've gone unregged for this question.

Basically, the gf wants to try sex but not in the normal way. She wants to try the backdoor kind. I've never tried this before and I'm a bit worried about it. In fact, and not being a prude about it, I've never even thought about it before. I've put her on hold for the moment, but I haven't got a clue what to do.

Are girls usually into this as I haven't come across a girl who requested this? Does it hurt either of us? Seriously, I'm a bit weirded out by it all. Help me please.

Just be grateful that your girlfriend is open-minded enough to want to try it. Like above poster said lots of lube and be gentle to begin with. Probably best to use a condom too I would think.

cowzerp

Give it a go and if ya's like it great, if not dont do it again!!

LadyJ

Use a LOT of lube. It's gonna be a tight squeeze. It will more than likely be quite painful for her so the trick is to ease in bit by bit. Don't try to get it all in at once. Put a bit in and rest there for a minute, then a little more until you're in reasonably deep.

When she gets used to it then you can start to move a little more freely. Just be gentle and relax. It's not that unusual for couples to try this sort of thing and any guys I know who have tried it have really enjoyed it so hopefully you will too. However, it's possible that your girlfriend might be less enthusiastic to do it again because it certainly isn't something that every girl enjoys.

Baudelaire

It's not weird at all, lots of girls like it if it's done properly, firstly use a condom and lots of lube, the most comfortable way to do it if it's her first time is to begin with alot of foreplay to help her relax then have her lie on her belly and use a vibrator to keep herself stimulated and slowly put it in little by little, don't force it or you could tear her. The first few attempts may fail so it's really a case of gradually getting there which may take a few weeks and I can't stress this enough lots of lube. Don't try "Doggie style" on the first attempt, it'll just hurt her, she needs to get use to it being there first before you can experiment with other positions.

funloving

It's important that you're gentle and don't put it all at once...
I don't know,maybe it happened only to me but when I brought lube and used it there it was sore more than when I did it without any lube at all...
Maybe instead of using lube you can lick her there...it would be better for her than the impersonal thing of using lube..

Marksie

OK using lube is a muts.
Also try the tingue and use a lubed finger to explore the outside and insde first to begin to condition her to teh sensation and feel.

It is important that she is highly aroused, it will hurt if you juts go for it.

Communicate and be aware.
Frequently if its unexpected the muscles may clench so if you feel excessive resistance, dont panic but allow the muscles to relax before going deeper.
Its not a race and not like the vagina, allow her to become accustomed to teh feel.

Also move slowly, no pounding like the movies.

On her part, she can begin to explore herself, but if she can go to the loo 30 minutes to an hour before hand that may also help.

SingingCherry

Definitely give it a go. I know in my marriage I initiated it between my husband and I and in the end I didn't like it but we were both open for something new. You'll never know until you try!

Ninja_scrotum

It shouldn't be too painful. Have you seen the size of what can be sqwez out a bum?

But you probably wont be able to fit it all in on the first try.

denashpot

your thinking bout this go for it and if the 2 of ye dont like it stop and dont do it again. simple as. :rolleyes:

Marksie

Ninja_scrotum wrote: »

It shouldn't be too painful. Have you seen the size of what can be sqwez out a bum?
.

Your pushing aginst two sphincters designeed for opposite movement.

denashpot wrote: »

your thinking bout this go for it and if the 2 of ye dont like it stop and dont do it again. simple as. :rolleyes:

It always pays to show consideration