Work or Love

LegacyUser

I have fallen in love with a girl i work with.

I was afraid if i told her how i felt she wouldn't feel the same way because we are very close friends.
Lately, she has been texting me alot and on nights out we would spend most of our time together talking.

It got to a stage were i couldn't hold my feelings anymore so last night on a work night out i told her how i felt and she said she feels the same way. We ended up kissing but after a few moments she pulled away and explained it can't happen because we work together and it would be awkward.

I have text her since and explained i can't hide my feelings. She says she likes me and wants to be with me but thinks it cant work.

I'm just wondering has anyone ever been in a similar situation and can it work???

Candyfloss

I don't understand why work would get in the way to be honest. I had long term relationships with guys that I haved worked with and work was never an issue. If anything it was better. We always had a good laugh at work and even when we did break up we remained close friends. People at work had no problem with our situation. Work shouldn't get in the way of something special that ye could have together. If it didnt work out then fair enough but give it a try at least. Talk to the girl in question and ask her exactly what she has a problem with. People in work can probably see or know about your attraction to each other, especially seeming as ye kissed on a work night out. People love that gossip. There is something else that the girl is telling you about, you need to talk to her and then look at your options.

Capt'n Midnight

It's like 30% of people meet their partner at work

LegacyUser

Thanks for your reply candyfloss. I have tried to speak to her about this but all she says is it would be awkward in work and then she will stop texting me and text me hours later with a totally different subject.

It just seems like she doesn't want to talk about it. I kinda just want a yes or no really but im just not getting anything. I have really fallen for her. I just don't know what i would do if she said no but at least i know she likes me.

estar

give her time and dont rush her if you really like her

she might want to see if you are really serious

as flings in work are disruptive, real long term relationships
arent as long as there isnt a conflict of interest - one of you
is the manager of the other etc

just say that your intentions are serious and you are willing
to wait and show her that. dont panic and start looking
for reassurances etc as that might drive her away

i know of several couples that worked together.

as long as you keep it low key until you know if it is viable
then it should be ok

also, if she cools off a little for a while, handle it professionally
dont talk about it in work, and give her space, that way she
will see that you could handle it maturely if you did go out
and for some reaon the relationship ended

bide your time, and just continue as you are

Overheal

Happiness is a fish - you need to be patient with it. Rush it, and you'll never catch it.

Mrs OBumble

"Don't screw the crew" is a really good principle for work, and for various other places too.

It's ok to date someone you work with for a short time, but sooner or later one of you really has to get another job, not necessarily in another company, but certainly in another work area.

IMHO, tell her that you're serious, and that if she is too, you're willing to look for a new job.