What should i do?

annemarie13 · 02-02-2008 11:04am #1

my friend,lets say sam hates my other friend say,tina.they dont get on so im stuck in the middle.and i can only choose one of them each weekend to go out with cause i cant bring the other cause theyd kill each other.im best friends with both and i would like them to get on.wat should i do?

kittenkiller · 02-02-2008 11:06am

There are two days in most weekends!
They're probably not going to put their hatred aside for you, accept that you have two sets of friends rather than one and go with it.

Not much can be done if they really hate each other.

rainbowtrout · 02-02-2008 11:14am

you can't force them to like each other, so there's no point trying.

and even if you got them both to go out with you on the same night do you really want to be stuck in the middle having one sulk while you talk to the other?

spend time with each of them separately, the best you can do really is when you have made arrangements to meet the first one is to text the second and invite her along. not your problem if she refuses, at least you haven't been neglecting her. And vice versa the following weekend.

Not all of my friends get along, so i meet them separate nights. it's not a problem

Because they are both friends with you doesn't mean they have to like each other

slumped · 02-02-2008 11:17am

stop bitching about it behind their backs.

Sit them both down and get the the crux of the problem.

S

SarahSassy · 02-02-2008 11:18am

Meet them separately..... You cant expect people to conform to your requirements. They dont like each other (both sound immatiure tbh if they have a go at each other when they meet) so dont force them on each other.

annemarie13 · 02-02-2008 11:22am

thaks guys.
emm how am i bitching?

SarahSassy · 02-02-2008 11:32am

slumped wrote: »

stop bitching about it behind their backs.

Sit them both down and get the the crux of the problem.

S

She isnt bitching, she is asking for help....

dublad23 · 02-02-2008 3:51pm

She's a girl. She's Bitching

Marksie · 02-02-2008 4:06pm

dublad23: stop trying to arouse people's Ire or you are out of this forum

SarahSassy · 02-02-2008 4:09pm

Marksie wrote: »

dublad23: stop trying to arouse people's Ire or you are out of this forum

Yeah cos I am cranky today and you might get me banned

:D

annemarie13 · 02-02-2008 4:18pm

sory bitching is talking abot people behind there back.im not i just want advice on wat i should do.im not slagin them so im not bitching.wat would men no anyway.

Marksie · 02-02-2008 4:19pm

OP: I have warned him, just ignore him.

dublad23 · 02-02-2008 4:22pm

annemarie13 wrote: »

wat would men no anyway.

You are raising my Ire now :rolleyes:

Ah no I was messing and that was obvious I thought - It's not that serious of a personal issue (well I hope not) and I was only agreeing with another Moderator. I certainly didn't mean to upset you!

Why don't they get on? I don't get that with girls in all honesty!

Is it jealousy or something?

You never see this with guys really!

I think you should try and get them together somewhere that they will have fun together! Go Ice Skating or something.

Smack their heads together! They must have a common interest you can work on to get them to like each other.

annemarie13 · 02-02-2008 6:01pm

thanks dublad. your advice has been noted.

Oryx · 02-02-2008 6:17pm

Are these friends who never liked each other, or did they fall out over something? If theres a particular reason, maybe get the three of you together and talk it out. With you there hopefully they wont claw each other's eyes out.

If theyve just never seen eye to eye, maybe like dub says, just get them to do stuff together and see if they can hit it off better.

If that doesnt work you may have to resign yourself to having them as separate friends. Not ideal, but sometimes people grate against each other and it cant be helped.

G'luck anyway.

JuliusCaesar · 03-02-2008 2:31pm

KtK wrote: »

If theyve just never seen eye to eye, maybe like dub says, just get them to do stuff together and see if they can hit it off better.

If it's just a personality clash, there's nothing she can do. Much better not to force people together I find. I don't like all my friends' friends, and my friends don't all liek each other. Which is fine, cos we do different things/have different interests anyway

annemarie13 · 05-02-2008 11:03am

JuliusCaesar wrote: »

If it's just a personality clash, there's nothing she can do. Much better not to force people together I find. I don't like all my friends' friends, and my friends don't all liek each other. Which is fine, cos we do different things/have different interests anyway

thanks. ye i realise that now

thanks

What should i do?

Comments