broody but ridiculous!!!!

LegacyUser

I've been gettin broodier for the last few months or so....but it's absolutely stupid of me as i'm only 20,still in college AND still living with the folks. Yet every time i see a baby i can't help but think about having one myself......

I've been with my boyfriend for 6months ,we're quite serious(tho nowhere near the realm of baby-making!). Whenever i actually think about having a baby i obviously consider it way to soon,but just can't help clucking over every one i see.....does any other girl have this prob??

Mazeire

What do you think you would get from having a baby? How would you see it changing your life? How do you think your boyfriend would react?
YES I'm broody but i'm 29! When I was your age* my ultimate nightmare would have been to get pregnant!


*Oh my God I sound like my flamin mother!!!

Nevyn

It happens, I suggest making sure of your contraception of choice and seeing if there are any of your relatives with a baby that might like a sitter.

evry1sm8

Thaedydal wrote: »

It happens, I suggest making sure of your contraception of choice and seeing if there are any of your relatives with a baby that might like a sitter.

+1

LegacyUser

Mazeire wrote: »

What do you think you would get from having a baby? How would you see it changing your life? How do you think your boyfriend would react?
YES I'm broody but i'm 29! When I was your age* my ultimate nightmare would have been to get pregnant!


*Oh my God I sound like my flamin mother!!!

i don't actually want to BE pregnant(i've got college/no money/a life to lead!!) but the cluckiness is just getting out of hand!!

Dudess

cluckyhen wrote: »

I've been gettin broodier for the last few months or so....but it's absolutely stupid of me as i'm only 20,still in college AND still living with the folks. Yet every time i see a baby i can't help but think about having one myself

I get like that every time I see a baby too but the cuteness hides the reality - it's tough work. And I, like Mazeire, am 29.

PeakOutput

im 22 and my absolute worst nightmare is having a kid and iw ouldnt have to go threw the 9months of hell and painfull birth(what with being a bloke nd all) you are just stone cold crazy.

hang a picture or a note or something in front of your mirror that reminds you of wanting a baby then everytime your about to go on the piss you will see it and it SHOULD remind you that if you had one you would be staying in

Lux23

I didn't start getting broody till recently and at 25 I still think its far too soon for all this. Im assuming that the reason you are going to college is to get a great job and to travel the world. These things aren't impossible with a baby but they are much harder so just think very hard about how much your life will be about the child rather than you. You can't be ready for that at 20 and in a 6 month realtionship, its just your hormones teasing you.:)

LegacyUser

Lux23 wrote: »

You can't be ready for that at 20 and in a 6 month realtionship, its just your hormones teasing you.:)

I think that's hit the nail on the head for me,as logically i know that it's not smart or feasible. and as always, if in doubt blame the hormones!!!

greenkittie

This is only natural, you are at a prime age for childbirth. Even though our modern society has pushed back the average age people have babys at you cant change nature and the hormones are still going to be released. Unfortunatly you are just going to have to live with it. Also to the 29 year olds... tick tick tick...

angeldelight

Seriously if my bf sees this thread he'll think that was me posting!! We've been together a year and a half, I'm 21 he's 22 and I'm the exact same. I absolutely do not want to have a baby now, we both have a few months of our degrees left and then more training for me after that and it'd be a disaster.

However, I can't help it! Everytime I see a baby, or even baby clothes I get all clucky!! We have talked about kids in a few years, and that's what I want but still happens. It's not the end of the world, just annoying

Dudess

greenkittie wrote: »

Also to the 29 year olds... tick tick tick...

I'll take it that you're kidding - although there are undoubtedly people (females usually) who put pressure on women to bow down to society's narrowminded demands.

newestUser

Dudess wrote: »

I'll take it that you're kidding - although there are undoubtedly people (females usually) who put pressure on women to bow down to society's narrowminded demands.

Don't feed the troll. You've just given him/her what they wanted.

ergonomics

OP I am also 20 and also get very broody. My boyfriend is 26 though so he gets a bit freaked out by it!! Don't get worried about it or anything, it's completely normal. The best time for a woman to have a baby is in her early 20's which is why you're probably feeling broody. Once you don't go getting pregnant you'll be fine!

spinandscribble

im nearly 21 and im crazy about babies. theres no harm in as long as you realise its too soon. enjoy stareing at babies!

Ciara2008

I noticed the same thing that you are describing the last year or so, I am 26 but also, I have no intentions of having babies now, no way, but i get really really broody when i see them too.

Aved

I'm 20 and looking forward to starting a family but I envisage this happening in around 10 years. I feel I'm only realistically learning how to look after myself personally, financially, etc now. I can think/pretend to myself that I'd be capable of doing a good job or I can realize that's there's still a lot I need to learn.
If and when I have children I'd want them to give them the best opportunities in life which, at this current time am far from supplying.
Also for myself I'd like to gain a lot more life experience, establish a stable career and when the time comes be in a stable relationship.
I feel I'd be fine looking after a child however, bringing up a child and teaching it "correct" or "good" morals or values to live by is a completely different story.

Bottle_of_Smoke

greenkittie wrote: »

This is only natural, you are at a prime age for childbirth. Even though our modern society has pushed back the average age people have babys at you cant change nature and the hormones are still going to be released. Unfortunatly you are just going to have to live with it. Also to the 29 year olds... tick tick tick...

Was just about to say exactly this.

I'd suggest you finish college first.

I'm a guy & I sometimes get envious of a couple I'm friends with who accidently got pregnant. They're 22 & 20.

star-pants

OP I've always been broody (I'm 24) - I've babysat a good portion of my life, 3 girls next door from when the first one was 3. I've a younger brother and sister and I helped out a lot with them too. One thing I know I want out of life is a family of my own, but granted not yet! lol.
I wouldn't worry about the 'cluckiness' - I've had it since I was a teen and I don't see it passing anytime soon. And I've done the walking up in the night to take care of them /walking crying baby up and down/ cleaning up sick / helping with tasks/homework / dealing with tempers - and yet I'm not put off. But I want to be in the best position I can be, and be sure I'm in the right place to have a family. Make sure you are too

As Thaedydal said - maybe see if there's a friend/relative who needs a sitter, and that might keep you happy for now

embee

It is perfectly natural for women of childbearing age to be broody, OP. There is nothing wrong with it at all, and nothing wrong with you either.

If you don't want a baby right now (and you seem fairly certain on that) then I would reiterate what Thaed said - make sure you have a contraception plan in place and if you do have accidents, get the morning after pill.

Dudess

newestUser wrote: »

Don't feed the troll. You've just given him/her what they wanted.

Sadly, I don't think it IS a troll...