Breaking up is hard to do

LegacyUser

I broke up with my boyfriend about a week and a half ago. Now we were texting and ringing since and he kept suggesting that we meet up for a chat about things so I never ruled out getting back with him. However, everyday he had something on and he couldn't meet me, even though it was his idea to meet in the first place. I told him that we didn't need to meet if he wanted things to remain finished but he still said we should meet up. On Saturday night he said he would meet me for an hour on Sunday, I have heard nothing since. What the F*ck like, I wanted things to end amicably and all he has done is f*ck with my head for the past week and now he is completely ignoring me!!!! What the hell do any of you think is going on? We were together for quite an intense 7mths.

estar

and be friendly, but is also unable to deal with the fact that you might be upset

its not healthy for you to be in touch with someone after a breakup
for a good few months as it stops you from moving on

let it go. if he does get in contact again ignore him.

plan some intersting nice fun things to do for spring.

hes just being a bit of a useless chicken, dont even waste your anger on him.

togster

Know the feeling OP Yawwwn.:rolleyes:

You need to cut ALL contact and be strong about it. Demand some time for yourself.

tbh

you have to be patient, it's only been a week. Don't meet up, if it's over, it's over.

Miss Fluff

togster wrote: »

You need to cut ALL contact and be strong about it. Demand some time for yourself.

+1. Not really fair to string you along, if its over its over so tell him to leave you alone and delete his number. And go and score.

LegacyUser

Typical he rang me at lunchtime, he left his phone somewhere on Sunday and only got it back this morning, we are meeting tomorrow night, and if that doesn't happen he can really f*ck off!!

evry1sm8

Yeah, dont let him mess you around anymore... You dont have to accept any s**t off him now that youre not going out!

TheDriver

Takes Time, don't have any contact for a while or else your emotions won't have time to figure things out properly

dar_cool

Yeah i agree best off just trying to forget about him and move on,plenty of other people out there! you'll probably find a much better person!! think of it as a positive!!!

Weidii

Break Up wrote: »

Typical he rang me at lunchtime, he left his phone somewhere on Sunday and only got it back this morning, we are meeting tomorrow night, and if that doesn't happen he can really f*ck off!!

I know exactly how you feel, I went through the same thing last year, but I'd been with the guy for -an intense- 2 years.

Here's my advice; do not meet up. Don't bother with him at all. You go your way and let him go his. He'll keep messing you around and you'll feel so angry with yourself for not just cutting contact.

It's not an easy thing to do, but it's the best thing to do in the long run.

evry1sm8

I agree with the above too. My ex broke up with me and it was heart breaking, but i decided to be strong and move on with my life, after a few weeks despite the usual missing him etc i was doing great!! I moved into a new place, i made new friends, everything was looking up for me. Then all of a sudden as soon as i was doing good, he came back and wanted a 2nd chance, i gave it to him because i still had feelings for him. This was a mistake. He told me when we got back together what an idiot he had been, that i was an amazing gf the best he ever had, that i was too good for him, that i was smart and gorgeous and kind and so on so on, that he'd NEVER hurt me again like he had done. He sent me a dozen red roses, he cooked for me, did lots of nice things that i didnt ask for, then completely out of the blue about 6 weeks later, he broke up with me again!!!
This time it was much harder for me to deal with, i was heartbroken x100!!
It took me a lot longer to get back on track with feeling good the way i had after the 1st break up, and also he wanted to remain friends as he didnt want to lose me from his life. I tried to remain friends with him even though i was so upset for the sake of both of us, but this was also a MISTAKE. It only held me back even more from moving on.

Seriously. Dont go back there, and dont stay in contact, at least for a month or so. If you want to be friends after that so be it, but trying to be friends now might ruin any friendship in the long run if youre too upset to be a "friend" which is the case in most break ups.

PS: Me and this ex never speak now, because we werent ready to be "friends" when we broke up the 2nd time.
He didnt let me go and do my mourning when i needed to because he didnt want to "lose" me.
I just couldnt be his friend, everytime we talked i got upset and he got angry, so it ended with us not being able to talk at all. We actually ruined things between us more when we were broke up than when we were together.

DONT make the same mistake.

LegacyUser

I finally met up with my ex, and his head is all over the place he doesn't know what he wants. I told him I was done waiting around for him to make up his mind. We left it on a good note, but I am absolutely gutted, I think in the back of my mind I thought we were getting back together last night. I am so depressed today in work, feel much worse than when we first broke up because I think I did that in the spur of the moment, but now it is breaking my heart to know that he doesn't want me back. Absolutely gutted, I don't want to move on and find somebody else, I just want him.