relationship trouble, help needed

liljenny

i dunno if this is in the right forum but just looking to see what advice anyone can give me, iv been going out with my boyfriend for 2 n a half years and recently we broke up, his answer was he was sick of me and that i never give him time to himself, i was left very shocked after hearing this because dont see him every day and when i do see hm its only for a few hours in the evening like, he doesnt really go out with his mates cos well he just doesnt i certainly dont stop him but he never organises a nite out with the lads, we broke up a week ago n we've been textin thru the week, we organised to meet up twice to talk and both times he's changed his mind, but what confuses the most is that some of his texts have been talking bout seein each other again n he still loves me n all this im totally confused n not getting many answers from him, can anyone please shed some light on the subject, should i keep texting him or am i better off ignoring him

WildIrishRose

dont text him untill he texts you...Give him time to miss you!

Femelade

WildIrishRose wrote: »

dont text him untill he texts you...Give him time to miss you!

QFT..
Let him be for a while...if its meant to be, its meant to be..

Overheal

Ive posted this so many times its almost become a science; which is disturbing: if theres confusion of any variety you probably need to distance yourself from the problem before you can hope to sort it out.

You're spending all your time trying to pursue how he feels: but have you given thought to how YOU feel yet?

Bob the Builder

Overheal wrote: »

Ive posted this so many times its almost become a science; which is disturbing: if theres confusion of any variety you probably need to distance yourself from the problem before you can hope to sort it out.

You're spending all your time trying to pursue how he feels: but have you given thought to how YOU feel yet?

Enjoy Life - Simple as.
Why do you care for him if he won't open up to you? Don't bother textin him until he texts you, and if he doesn't text you or ring you for three/four weeks, move on...
...It's time you began looking out for number 1.

I hope it all turns out well.
NevF

Miss Fluff

Cut contact for a while, if he said he needs space give it to him, by the bucketload. If he texts again just say you'd prefer to give him space and don't answer texts or calls again for a while.

bustertypsy

liljenny wrote: »

i dunno if this is in the right forum but just looking to see what advice anyone can give me, iv been going out with my boyfriend for 2 n a half years and recently we broke up, his answer was he was sick of me and that i never give him time to himself, i was left very shocked after hearing this because dont see him every day and when i do see hm its only for a few hours in the evening like, he doesnt really go out with his mates cos well he just doesnt i certainly dont stop him but he never organises a nite out with the lads, we broke up a week ago n we've been textin thru the week, we organised to meet up twice to talk and both times he's changed his mind, but what confuses the most is that some of his texts have been talking bout seein each other again n he still loves me n all this im totally confused n not getting many answers from him, can anyone please shed some light on the subject, should i keep texting him or am i better off ignoring him

Hi Liljenny and I am sorry you are going through an emotional hard time.I think the best thing you can do right now is leave him be for the moment.During this time try and work out what it is that is causing the problems you now face.Relationships are always two way,so both of you are responsible for making it work.All you can do is work on your side of things and hope he does the same.

It's important you don't bombard him,trying to fix things.This can have an opposite effect and drive him further away.

There is a fantastic place I discovered when I was in a similar position to you.You get free advice and support and everybody there knows how you are feeling.Why not visit it and you can talk to those going through the same or similar to you.
http://www.thelovelogic.com/

Bustertypsy

fuzzywiggle

Give him the ''time'' he needs. If he loves you he will want to be with you and if he doesn't, then he wont. Tell him if you're broke up then there's no point staying in contact..you'd prefer a clean break. Either way that should help him make up his mind.

mugginsgalore

give him lots,and lots of space for a long time !!