What the hell is wrong with me

LegacyUser

Im sorry about this I have a problem that im not sure is normal. Basically when I think about a girl, any girl I might potentially see myself with, even if ive seen her for a few seconds, and then see a boyfriend or think about them having a boyfriend, and then flash them having sex, I fret. My head heats up, I have feelings of frustration and rejection, and I physically sweat for a few seconds. You know when you -almost- drop something in public or knock something over, well thats the feeling i get on my body. This lasts everytime i think about the details. What the hell is wrong with me!!I'm not allergic to sex? Do I have one of these sexual phobias you hear about? Sorry about this stupid problem. Thanks for any help.

denhaagenite

Sounds to me like you're having a panic attack- you should talk to a professional about it.

Otherwise give yourself a break, breathe deeply, drink some water, whatever you need to do to relax. Maybe other people's thoughts aren't exactly the same as yours but I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who have problems making the first move.

Wibbs

Sounds like a panic attack alright. The mechanism behind seems to be a self confidence issue. You see them having sex and you may feel that comparisons would be made. Throw in a touch of the sexual double standard and off you go. Now others may feel a little of the same, yours is an exaggeration of that. In the same way most would have some level of caution or nerves meeting new people, social phobics would have a response that was out of proportion to the situation. It's all about proportion. I would say ye, maybe some professional help would reduce the severity of the response.

__plec__

hey,certainly a panic attack. but it's what causes it thats the problem. i honestly dont think its anything sexual, i think you feel a little rejected or lonely and this is a great way of justifying these feeling by beating yourself up over seeing a girl you fancy and then picturing her with someone else.I might be way off ,either way id seek some professional help,just a question,if the girl hasnt a bf how do you feel,would you feel the same if you picture yourself with the girl?

JuliusCaesar

I have to say I disagree with the above posters, nor do I think it's a sexual phobia. It sounds to me like an intrusive thought. Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts which can cause anxiety. What do you think about these thoughts? Do you think they are sick/mad/insane? Do you feel responsible for them? Also, do you have a girlfriend? Do you have much sexual experience?
Thought for the day: thoughts are usually thrown up by brain activity. If you are not actually concentrating, your mind tends to go its own way. We've all had thoughts and dreams which shocked us.

denhaagenite

That's true, still should talk to a professional if it's come to this kind of problem. It is completely normal for some people to react in a similar way to all kinds of things- you kind of get an adrenaline rush.

King of Kings

will the people here stop jumping straight in to the "get professional help" line for minor stuff like this.
any other post tbh. it laughable.

OP you need to chillax that's all.

Hellm0

King of Kings wrote: »

will the people here stop jumping straight in to the "get professional help" line for minor stuff like this.
any other post tbh. it laughable.

OP you need to chillax that's all.

I concur.

Overheal

I know this feeling. Its the same feeling anyone might get, if say, they imagined their girlfriend/ex having sex with another guy (especially a known guy) - yeah I've imagined such things myself.

Sounds to me like a complete threat response/sexual attraction cocktail from hell. The shakes and accelerated heartbeat you get are the result of adrenaline being released into your system - its the flight/fight response. I've gotten this so often in the last few months I dont think anything of it anymore to be terribly honest with you: I'm at the stage where I continue to function normally even with the accelerated pulse and adrenaline. The frequency of it also decreases over time.

The easiest step is recognising it. I think all the sweating and such is just an addon effect of not recognising the other symptoms.

My head heats up, I have feelings of frustration and rejection, and I physically sweat for a few seconds. You know when you -almost- drop something in public or knock something over, well thats the feeling i get on my body.

So... embarassment; nerves; fear perhaps; and the shakes. The head heating up is news to me (hence I'm thinking the embarrassment, frustration and rejection) but the rest is very indicative of an adrenaline rush, or what some might consider a panic attack. Its a normal response.

I don't personally see it as anything you need to see a professional about: just whenever you feel like that you need to start training yourself to operate normally, and think about something else, or become accustomed/desensitised to the thought. Its up to you: its all in your head.

Time Magazine

barneygrape wrote: »

Im sorry about this I have a problem that im not sure is normal. Basically when I think about a girl, any girl I might potentially see myself with, even if ive seen her for a few seconds, and then see a boyfriend or think about them having a boyfriend, and then flash them having sex, I fret. My head heats up, I have feelings of frustration and rejection, and I physically sweat for a few seconds. You know when you -almost- drop something in public or knock something over, well thats the feeling i get on my body. This lasts everytime i think about the details. What the hell is wrong with me!!I'm not allergic to sex? Do I have one of these sexual phobias you hear about? Sorry about this stupid problem. Thanks for any help.

I get these now and again. It helps to get used to it, even become attached to it. Eventually you'll be able to fire a few off just at the thought of it.