Worried about my sister

LegacyUser

I have a MASSIVE family, and my sister who is 28 is my best friend we are very close. My family range in age from 16- 70 (including parents) My mam died in 1988 and my father remarried, Im 22 myself.

My family are always fighting, ATM my brother is running his business into the ground from a drink prob, 2 of my sisters arent talking and cant be in the same room as each other, Last year it was a sister and a brother fighting all over stupid lil things.

Was talking to my sister the other night(the 1 im close to) and she informed me our great granaunt had died(My mams dads sister) two weeks ago and that my dad hadnt bothered to tell anyone and didnt even go to her funeral. She was very pissed off and started crying saying it was a joke that no one in this family gives a **** about anyone but themselves and that were always fighting and she is sick of taking sides.

Her fiances family adore her and ive met them they are lovely- they are a real family ya know they sit down for meals and call each other every few days to see how things are, Our dad never calls us- Ever. My sister says its no wonder she feels more at home with her fiances family.

She told me she is gonna cut the family outta her life(except me , one sis and one brother who shes close with)She said us three are the only ones who even act like her family and that she hates the rest of them, that they only call when they want something and that she doesnt even feel confortable in their houses.

Im worried about her she seems pretty set on this I donno what to say to her

CrazyNoob

newsflash OP most families fight
in reality they're not the white picket fence brady bunch TV family of perfection

In fact haromious families are very rare
Most have one 'black Sheep' at the very least

I think your sister is right

biko

cmkijij wrote: »

Im worried about her she seems pretty set on this I donno what to say to her

Do you not want her to leave? Perhaps a time out from the family is just what's needed.

Sherifu

If they're the bunch of <insert expletive here> you say they are then why not let her break ties, it's her call tbh.

monkeyfudge

Yeah... I don't talk to 3 of my siblings... I really don't think I'm any worse off. Just because someone is family doesn't mean it's okay for them to be a jerk to you.

kittensoft1984

i agree.

it might be the best thing for her.

i dont talk to my brother and to be honest im better off not.

depends on the situation i suppose.

DinoBot

I think a time comes in everyones life where you have to make a decision on who you spend time with. Sometime when families dont work its time to wake up to it and deal with it rather than pretending. That said, it could change in the future for her. I think its a good move to limit your time with negative people, even if thats your family.
If I were you Id support your sister in this.

AngryBadger

If she finds them difficult to be around then she should limit contact with them. But I wouldn't be inclined to cut them out altogether, burning your bridges after you like that could prove disastrous down the line.

However, there's no reason she can't limit herself to being in touch once a month or less. Whatever she's most comfortable with.