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Cheating a**hole?

Miss Sunshine · 2008-01-10 01:26:56

I'm new to boards, and this is my first post. My boyfriend swears by it however and treats it like its the bible so I thought I'd get some advice from you guys. Just checked the history on our computer and found that my boyfriend has an account on a site called adult finders. Basically a way to have cyber sex. ON his…

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10-01-2008 2:26am

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Miss Sunshine

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I'm new to boards, and this is my first post. My boyfriend swears by it however and treats it like its the bible so I thought I'd get some advice from you guys.
Just checked the history on our computer and found that my boyfriend has an account on a site called adult finders. Basically a way to have cyber sex. ON his profile he has written that he is single and is looking for attractive woman to have 1-1 "chat" with or groups of 3 or more, he did also mention that he would like a discreet relationship.
We've been going out for over 5 and a half years and this has just devestated. I know when I approach him about it he'll say that its normal and all guys do it. So some advice from some guys and girls would be really appreciated.

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#2 10-01-2008 2:28am
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Grown adult men looking to cyber have to be just about the lamest of all losers.

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#3 10-01-2008 2:29am
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Well OP it aint the bible for sure ,you take from it what you want and you give in return .

If he is looking for cyber sex then perhaps he is trying to fill a gap of sorts in his life

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#4 10-01-2008 2:29am
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Take it to Personal Issues

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#5 10-01-2008 2:29am
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Prob better off in PI.

OT - have you spoken to him? It is not normal for a guy to have a adult profile wanting sex/sexy chats on the side imo.

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#6 10-01-2008 2:30am
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biko wrote: »

Prob better off in PI.

OT - have you spoken to him? It is not normal for a guy to have a adult profile wanting sex/sexy chats on the side imo.

You'd be surprised.
I know a fierce lot of guys cyber-cheating on their partners.

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#7 10-01-2008 2:30am
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Sucks to be you. Upgrade to a newer model.

(PI forum if you want serious answers by the way)

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#8 10-01-2008 2:32am
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The cyber porn I can get over but its that fact that he's gone out and searched for other woman and set this whole account dedicates to it. I' assuming, and maybe some guys out their can clarify this for me, that for a bf to this it shows that he really doesn't have much interest in his gf anymore?

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#9 10-01-2008 2:33am
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It's not normal and would make me think he's the type who'll cheat if offered the chance.

It doesn't necessarily mean he has lost interest in you.

Has he cheated on any ex's?

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#10 10-01-2008 2:33am
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OP this is the After Hours section of Boards.ie and you won't get serious answers here. Everyone so far has mentioned you should go to the Personal Issues section of the site which is here.

You'll get proper answers there.

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#11 10-01-2008 2:33am
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Well it's a bit sad and it's not nice, I'd be very annoyed to find out, but it's probably more like interactive porn than cheating.

Tell his friends he's sitting at home touching himself to the instruction of some fat hairy plumber pretending to be a sexy lady :eek:

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#12 10-01-2008 2:34am
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biko wrote: »

Prob better off in PI.

Sorry. like I said, first time using boards and don't know how to move it

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#13 10-01-2008 2:36am
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I've asked for it to be moved.

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#14 10-01-2008 2:37am
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Thanks for that. Have moved to PI

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A/s/l?

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#16 10-01-2008 2:46am
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The cyber-sex, shouldnt be a worry, the discreet relationship should

humbert wrote: »

Tell his friends he's sitting at home touching himself to the instruction of some fat hairy plumber pretending to be a sexy lady :eek:

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#17 10-01-2008 2:50am
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Just for future reference, we can move the thread for you, you don't have to create a new one. Closing this one, move all discussion to PI

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