Am I over it?

LegacyUser

Its been a good while since i broke up with my ex and after believing i had managed to get completely over her, this is what i've been asking myself lately. Am I really over her?

I did go through the whole process of grieving and getting myself back together. I managed to move on with my life. I was doing pretty fine. Guess I still am doing good enough. Though there have always been a few issues I've found myself hard to get over and i think they still keep haunting me. I can't seem to get over the fact that my ex is together with this other guy and the whole thought of them together makes me sick everytime.

I just can't seem to get her out of my head. I've tried a lot but she still stays there haunting me. Now i'm getting on fine with my life. Its not that i'm still depressed over her and constantly being bothered by her thoughts. But its just the occasional thoughts that bother me. I can't seem to get over the fact she is sleeping with her new guy. I know its none of my business anymore, neither do i care or love her anymore. Its just the thought really make me sick and it keeps bothering me every often. Thats pretty much it i guess. Its just these little things i wanna get out of my head. Once i manage to do that, i should be able to live much more peacefully and happily. I wanna get completely over my ex. I've been trying to do that for the past few months but nothing seems to be working. She's out of my life, i'm out of her's. We've got nothing to do with eachother anymore but she still bothers me. I don't know why. Any help or advise appreciated.

Placebo

Its just human nature, im pretty sure theres things that remind her of you. Although she has moved on, mentally she could be in the same state, not to give you any false hope but shes trying better to move on. Obviously not to get at you, you should do the same and remember time will slowly heal things. Ofcourse its hard to take such bland advice but look forward to your life and career and other women [wooooooooooo]

goodluck

Gyalist

Get yourself a new girlfriend.

LegacyUser

I've got an amazing girlfriend of over a year now, everything about her is perfect and i love her to bits but the odd time someone tells me my ex of three years was with someone the night before, i still feel jealous.. i'm just that type i think.

Don't worry about it, it'll get easier.

Jack B. Badd

maninthemess wrote: »

We've got nothing to do with eachother anymore but she still bothers me.

She doesn't still bother you. Your thoughts of her are what are bothering you.
I think you'll just have to give this time. Eventually you'll stop thinking about her. Try not to dwell.

Cathmandooo

Dont assume you can forget someone you once loved. Even if you don't love them anymore they were still once a (big) part of your life.

It's pretty natural to be honest. Don't beat yourself up over it. A new girlfriend would definitely help matters

AnonoBoy

I had a conversation about this sort of thing with a girl I have recently started seeing. We agreed that if you've loved someone (and it didn't end horribly) then there will always be a part of you that holds a place for them in your heart, there will always be a small twinge of jealousy when you see them or think about them with someone else.

I know that my last girlfriend, although she emphatically told me that we were finished still admitted to being jealous of the thought of me being with someone else.

It's all human nature - we are the sum of our experiences. Everything, good and bad, that's happened to you makes you who you are today. Your old girlfriend has had an effect on you but that effect may have changed you slightly - made you exactly who you are today - made you into the person that your current girlfriend loves.

Unfortunately there is no quick-fix way to banish someone from your head. Only time will do that - although I don't believe if they were important that they ever fully disappear.