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07-01-2008 6:04pm#1
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Hello! I have 2 grown sons that I have always loved to brag about. Our oldest son has made his own spending money since he was 8 years old. (paper routs and cutting laws est.)
When he graduated high school he received a couple small bursaries but did a few Joe jobs for a couple of years.
After that he took out a $32.000 student loan and took a baking chief coarse. Nowadays he is still paying down that loan but he is a baker at a German bakery and this
Christmas one of the best gifts he gave us was a big bag full of dark ryes and soft pretzels that he had made.
Our youngest son didn’t start making his own spending money until he was 17. How he made money was by putting his hat down and doing a little juggling or brake dancing for the tourists. He was also a MVP and the team goon (he took out opposing players when things got ruff) on a lacrosse team.
He dropped out of school with an incomplete grade 8 and is now working in Alberta at a meat plant. His job is cutting the legs and heads off cattle. He and his gal both make a good wage with a good benefits but I hope some day I can up-date this post with the news that my son went back to school and got his diploma. Anyway I would love to hear some bragging about your kids. Cheers!
WOW! That is really different. Its the first time Ive ever heard someone bragging about their son dropping out of school at grade 8 and begging for awhile and then getting the great job of "cutting the legs and heads off cattle" :eek:
Can you imagine if he got a job as a top executive of a bank, I think your head would explode
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Development in the early stages of life is directly related to the amount of stimulation a child receives. It's an inconvenient truth that one parent providing dedicated 24/7 love, attention, care and stimulation to their own child/children will result in more and better stimulation for those children than an unrelated child minder with less emotional attachment and responsible for 5 or 6 other kids.
It's surely better to be a happy loving parent that works than a reluctant resentful parent at home with the kids.
Di11on - As usual, I agree with your post. I understand that constant parental care and guidance is the best, however as you also point out, sometimes being a parent 24/7 with no breaks can eventually work against you. In that case, I can't see how a worn out parent offers better stimulation and care than a team of dedicated and energetic creche employees who chose to be where they are and are paid to provide a very professional and constant service.
I think the best case is for children to be surrounded by love and happiness no matter where they are or who they are with. In our particular case, we dote constantly on our 13 mo. old DD while she's at home, then we know she receives *a lot* of attention in her creche (there are 6 babies and 2 workers), then she is with us and our extended family each evening. She is very social, well behaved and happy (she'd take on Jaden's brilliant & perfect prodgeny anyday).
But that's just my 2cents worth - I think this thread is asking for a lot of "mine are better than yours" posts. 0 -
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Both my kids (7 months and 26 months), are cuter, more advanced, and better behaved than anyone else's of the same age.
This is due to both a) better breeding and b) the sensible decision not to abandon either in a creche/child-minder and have one parent at home with them full time.
LOL, and if they grow up with a chip on their shoulder and are socially inept, we'll know who to blame.
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I expect he was being humorous.
Yes, if you were to understand the comment literally, it would mean that because her and her partner come from superior genetic stock, their children are of consistently superior genetic calibre. :-) I think most of the people espousing these kinds of beliefs were hung in 1945
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I got the impression that the initial post was a piss take on the fact that parents will find positives in their children to brag about.
Now some geniuses have decided to turn it into a stay at home/creche debate. If you want to do this then I suggest you start a new thread and allow the rest of us to brag about our children.
In my case my daughter takes off her own dirty nappy and wipes the mess off the floor with her hands. She obviously has a career in politics ahead of her - cleaning up messes and don't a crap job of it 0 -
I also thought that the first post was a bit tongue in cheek...
My brag.... We're so proud of our son 27 mths, last Friday we gave up breastfeeding and he accepted it with not too much protest and now goes to bed for Daddy, who has never put him to bed before. He can speak two languages, he can also climb great heights :eek: , fall from great heights :eek: and get up and dust himself off and try again :eek: He also helps me and Daddy cook and he tastes everything.... right, I'll stop now coz I have a feeling I'm getting glazed expressions from you all now 0 -
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Well, are y'all ready for this?
My fabulous daughter has been producing the most glorious streams of snot for the last month and,
wait for it.............she has finally learnt to blow her own nose!!!!!! Yippee!
(And it only took 4 years to master that trick!) :cool:0 -
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Well, are y'all ready for this?
My fabulous daughter has been producing the most glorious streams of snot for the last month and,
wait for it.............she has finally learnt to blow her own nose!!!!!! Yippee!
(And it only took 4 years to master that trick!) :cool:
God, I wish the nose-blowing would twig in my wee ones mind... she's too little though
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To me, it would simply be an admission (however slight), of failure as a parent.
Oh well, we're one big forum full of failures then, aren't we. :rolleyes:
I agree with High&Low & Ludo.
There's another argument to this thing too. Some women have few or no qualifications, a dead-end job with little satisfaction and no real prospects of promotion. Some of these women see a life of staying at home to mind their kids as a salvation from this. Basically, they would have a very small income anyway and hate their jobs, so of course they will be dying to have kids and give up work and will even plan for years to be able to do this. On the other hand, some women are very well-educated and make a valuable contribution to society through the fulfilling work that they do. They would go up the walls from lack of stimulation if they were to stay at home minding their kids for years on end (although they would be delighted to stay at home for the first year or two of their child's life), and the country would suffer from a lack of these talented professional women. In other words, some women have nothing else in their lives that makes them feel they have any worth, other than being a mother and having their every waking moment revolve around their kids and home.
You're not the only one who can ****-stir Jaden! 0 -
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The OP read like one of those incredibly annoying letters written by American relatives where they go on and on about the grades their child got, the sporting achievements of their children, competitions their children won etc.
Oh, and my parents' son is amazing; extremely intelligent, good looking and well rounded. He did a brilliant Leaving Cert and is doing wonderfully in college.
you are right about the OP..but thought it was mainly a tounge- in -cheek post as well. I am guessing you are the parent's son?:) good thing you've firgured that sometimes you have to blow your own trumpet!
I don't know what jaden's post about creche Vs. stay-at-home care was supposed to mean. that sort of statement just ends up raising a lot of backs. to add my own two cents.....my own son is in creche, but he only went in when he was three. this is mostly due to the way I was raised. the child stays at home for the early (baby) years , but my mother always said to appreciate the need for social interaction and to curb selfish tendencies so that
a) the child understands what it means to share and the concept of ownership
b)the parents,mostly mummy, can get some time to herself in case she wants to work, or if there is another child around (my mother stuck religiously to 3 years between babies)
I am lucky in that my husband supported me, but money really put a strain on things.
all the same, my son seems to be really coping and I'm proud to say he has never wet the bed once since he was trained, and he's pretty good-looking. Amazing since his daddy and I never thought our combined genes would turn out so well!!0 -
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My post was written (as I suspect the initial post was) with a tongue-in-cheek aspect. It thought this was obvious - maybe it wasn't.
That aside, I am a solid believer in stay-at-home parenting. I am not a mega rich snob who can easily afford to have a single income setup. My wife and I have planned for *years* to ensure that we would be able to have one parent stay at home when we had children. Compromises were made to ensure this, and coupled with astute financial management, we have achieved our goal. I'm (quite rightly) very proud of this, and I am unshakeable in my belief that this has had a very positive influence on our children.
If you are able to hand your child(ren) over to another person to care for during the day, Kudos to you - I would simply not be able to do that.
As parents, my wife and I are the people best suited to the tasks of raising our children, and ensuring their emotional, developmental and day-today needs are met. Handing them over to an industry known for it's low wages and lack of regulation - not on my watch.
To me, it would simply be an admission (however slight), of failure as a parent.
I understand that sometimes it's necessary. I wouldn't dispute that for a minute. But on the other hand, I know of plenty of people who could manage a stay at home situation (at least financially), if they really wanted to. Alot of the time, the financial angle is used as a crutch by people as a self-justification for both parents working. In many cases (and I stress again, not all), if people really wanted to ensure that one parent stayed at home, they'd find a way. It's the same vein as breastfeeding - we all know it's the best way, and in almost every case, it's feasible - yet the vast majority of babies are bottle fed. We are dictated to by social constraints and fear of failure. You're a parent, start acting like one.
As for bragging about my kids - I consider this a job-perk of being a father. It is the right of every parent to be proud of their children.
If people want to attack me for anything is say, that's OK this is a discussion forum, it's what it's here for. I'm in my 10th year of posting to this site, I can handle criticism.
Finally - Godwin!
Jaden,
No one here would say for a second that you shouldn't be proud of the fact that you and your wife are in the lucky situation of being able to have your kids at home all of the time. I'm sure that many of the working parents on this forum here are probably envious of you for that.
However, I really don't think it's helpful in any way, shape or form to imply that people are "failures" somehow because they have to place their child in care outside of the home. I am, to all intents and purposes, a single parent. My daughters Dad lives 2 hours away and works a 6 day week. I made a decision to go to college in September to do a degree in Midwifery, and for me to think that you think I'm a failure somehow because I've had to place my child in childcare so that I can get ahead in my own life and provide a better future for my daughter in the long run is extremely insulting. Your statment "You're a parent - start acting like one"... seriously, WTF? My recollection of my childhood is of having my Father working fulltime, and my mother went back to work when I was 9. How is it that working outside the home somehow detracts from your status as a parent? Someone has to put food on the table. To do that, people have to work. There is no irresponsibility in that whatsoever - a child can have respect for their parents who are working fulltime just as much as they can have respect for a parent who stays at home. Different strokes for different folks, but you can't for one second say that working outside of the home means that you aren't acting like a parent.I wasn't going to enter this debate... but the above shocked me...
Numerous research shows that children fare better if at home with a parent (if the parent is happy to be at home), second best is a childminder with small group care, third is a grandparent and lastly a creche. One of the ways they fare better is in vocabularly, others... less cortesone (stress), better relationships in school and beyond etc.
I wasn't going to enter the debate as it is so hugely contentious (and I have been misquoted quite a few times by journalists). But to claim that a creche is superior to being minded at home, by a parent who has chosen to stay at home and enjoys minding the child is ludicrous.
SarahMc,
Could you provide links for this "research" please? Otherwise they are just empty statements.
Who claimed that having a child in a creche was superior to looking after them at home? It is possible for a child to be in a creche and benefit from it. My daughter is with a childminder (creche too expensive) and since she started with her in September her vocabulary has come on in leaps and bounds. She is interacting with children both younger and older than her and it has really benefited her.My son puked on my head today, right in the middle of a shopping center.....i'm very proud of his aim and timing
lol Shelli.... When my wee one was about 6 months old, I was dancing with her, I held her up above my head and she managed to puke right into my mouth. It was joyousthemadchef wrote: »This thread could have been a lighthearted "here's what my little rascal can do" and it seems to be turning into creche verses maternal home care issue.....what a shame.
You're correct, themadchef.
Come on everyone, let's get back to bragging about our children 0 -
OK if we are all bragging, I have a 16yr old son (leaving cert - not studying) but he is a slob. Goes to school, trains soccer (Player of the Year 3yrs in a row, just to throw that in there)& GAA and is my built in babysitter FOC :):)
14yr old daughter - babysits elswhere and gets paid (16yr old never complains about that), Goes to school, trains rugby and goes shopping with her babysitting money - no bother.
10yr old son - slob. My 'Little Man Tate', and another treasure - again soccer (another Player of the Year U9s) and GAA.
And then we come to my 7yr old son - where do I start!!!!!!!!
Well he was born and old man - walked around the furniture at 5 months - had to buy shoes for him at 7 months so he could go in the garden to kick the ball. I am still wrecked from running after him. He will be the next Messi................he too plays soccer (a level up no doubt ie U8s:D - and yet again ANOTHER Player of the Year :D) and GAA. I must admit to being very nervous when I see him with a hurley . I love him to bits.
So thats my 4 - proud of them all, they are all mannerly (for the most part) and considerate and look out for each other. I can't ask for much more:):) 0 -
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Our five wonderful children are a credit to us. I was a stay at home mom cos I couldn't do anything else. my first little princess was singing and dancing around our hearts from day one. She is now very successfully. Has a great job in advertising sales for a radio station which uses her extensive talking skill to their full. She is very happily married and best of all has managed to give us two fantastic grand kids. one boy and one girl. No 2 was a son who once kicked a neighbors car and we had to pay to get it fixed. thankfully, his life of thuggery ended there. He is now married to a wonderful girl and has his own business. The next little man sadly didn't stay with us very long. He died of cot death at 6 weeks. Then we had another girl who often very deep and hard to figure out whats going on in her head. however, she is honest and kindhearted. She lives at home with us and her little girl who is our first granddaughter and a pure joy and makes our house a home. She has not had much luck in love and been badly hurt in the past but I think she has at last found her soul mate. The third girl is our butterfly who is the funniest person I know. She also lives at home and is great company and always can cheer me up when I am down. My baby is, as everyone knows my achillies (is that how to spell it) heel. He can break my heart with one look but I am very proud of him and know that he will be a great success when he grows up.. whenever that may be. He is 21 now so he would want to get started. For those of you who are still reading this I love my family so very much and have often said that I would kill for them.. and I think I would. thankfully it hasn't come to that yet!!
That is really nicely written and made me smile 0 -
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