Different love

LegacyUser

With my g/f a year and half now the other day we had a chat, she said that her love for me has changed since the start of our relationship-from lust to something deeper. Didn't know what to make of it at the time still don't know what she means by it. Does this mean she falling out of love not too sure? Also what are people’s opinions on their partners going through old photographs of ex's. Not her intention to actually show direct photos of her ex's they were mixed up in other photos but she knew this before she went through them with me, bit weirded out by the whole thing to be honest, know I wouldn’t go through photos of my ex’s with her don’t think it’s fair on the other person…Plus I just put on this stupid grin as she was going through them but inside I felt very uncomfortable seeing her hugging and kisses other guys…Not a particularly jealous guy but this was kind of making my blood boil a little…I’m I overreacting to this or is she throwing hints by that she’s not as interested in me as she was before…

Marksie

Talk about misreading the signs.
If somene says i heve moved onto something deeper, it in my book means the exact opposite of falling out of love.

So they were photos of exes in with other photos. Ahem.

Perhaps she shuold burn them just in case you were chacned to see them.

Simple answer:
you have completely misread everything. Re-evaluate

the dee

I agree - the 'something deeper' remark sounds like she's moved from a simple attraction to you into a better kind of deep love. Don't worry about that at all.

As for ex's, it's not nice to see photos, but you're with her now so what does it matter? I don't think she meant anything by it.

Jack B. Badd

What Marksie said. There's a good chance that she feels secure enough in your relationship that she doesn't think you being aware of her previous relationship would be a problem.

How old are you, OP? And is this your first relationship?

Fanny Cradock

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but it would seem like a good idea to ask clarification from your girlfriend, not a bunch of strangers.

Loopy

Agree with Fanny..

Do think from what you have said thought that she has fallen in love as opposed to out of love with you.

The Photos thing bit strange, maybe she just wanted to see how you reacted when she showed you.

ztoical

whats that saying sometimes a pipe is just a pipe? Maybe your girlfriend just wanted to show you some photos - you said they weren't just of her ex's but a mixture....heres an idea she might have wanted to share some stories about her life before meeting you cus your no longer the random guy she's shagging but someone she is in love. She might have thought you'd be interested in seeing photos of her before you meet and didn't think seeing her with old boyfriends would be an issue for you.

From her point of view she might see it as good thing that she can show you these photos as it shows how comfortable and safe she is with your relationship, she didn't think it would make you uncomfortable and shes never going to know unless you TALK TO HER.

AnonoBoy

I agree with all of the above.

'Something deeper' I would take as meaning that she's starting to seriously fall for you.

As for the photos - it wasn't like she introduced you to all her ex-boyfriends or started to tell you how wonderful they were or anything now is it? She was showing you photos and there was photos of guys she's been with mixed up with them. She's not going to self-censor everything she shows you or lie about the guys.

You need to look at it maturely - she's obvious smitten with you and presumes that you're not too insecure that you would get worried about seeing a photo of her with an ex-boyfriend. You need to realise that she's with you - they're all in the past.

If she had the photos framed and hung on her walls then I'd see your point, but she doesn't, so I don't.

Beruthiel

Unreg1212 wrote: »

she said that her love for me has changed since the start of our relationship-from lust to something deeper.

We can all lust after somebody hot that pass us on the street. However, it is only once we get to know them over time that it can grow to something deeper. I'd be happy to hear that.

Overheal

Sounds like a good thing OP. I would not be bothered by the ex-boyfriend material. I'd be surprised if she didnt have a few scant pieces of memerobilia around - one can hardly expect to completely purge someone out of their life. All the same that person became part of who she is. It doesnt sound like she dwells on it or anything: more like she just accepts them as another memory. I wouldnt be worried. In fact I'd be very happy that her love for you is growing deeper: like tree roots - its only getting stronger.

adsgirl

I think she really does mean she has fallen in love with you:)

Could be she was showing you the photos to see how you react, maybe she is unsure of how you feel about her.
Forget about the photos, the girl is in love!!:D

N1njapirate

The best advice I have for you is to look up the word lust, and the phrase 'falling deeper in love' on google.^_^

muppetkiller

Am I the only one who is confused as to how you pulled something negative out of 'from lust to something deeper' ?
Get a beegees Album then ask her how deep is your love lol

McGinty

Hi Op

I would agree with the other posters here, in actual fact it reminded me of a time I said that to a former boyfriend and he thought, like you, I was going of him but in actual fact my feelings had deepened. Also re: photos of the ex, maybe she had a good relationship at the time and it faded so why get rid of the photos, its her past, you are her boyfriend now, enjoy her love, you are lucky, remind yourself of that.

Canis Lupus

muppetkiller wrote: »

Am I the only one who is confused as to how you pulled something negative out of 'from lust to something deeper' ?

Agreed.... My amusement is turning into something deeper....

Talliesin

In the past I've said that people who aren't trying to use English well in their PI posts are exhibiting difficulties that could influence their actual problems and people have doubted me. I think I'm pretty much vindicated here.

OP: For the sake of your relationship, buy a dictionary and a copy of Fowler's Modern English Usage.

Seriously.