Confused, scared

LegacyUser

As most people who post on PI am a long time poster and very opinionated so decided to go unregistered for this.
Recently my family has been in difficult times, especially my dad. So bad that we are all ashamed of what he did and can’t focus. I have exams in less than 2 weeks and can’t concentrate; I now have to pay for everything myself. Job hunting was house hunting until yesterday, job hunting at the moment and losing faith. I have to be strong for my mum and my siblings, I have grown up overnight!
There is a guy I fancy in my class, really cool. Not the regular lads I would look at or even dare talk to, never really noticed he was in my class until before the holidays. We get on very well, he’s helping me with assignments e.t.c.. Now I have never asked a guy out, and I really like him and I know he thinks am very cute (his words) but I don’t know if that’s the end of it.
Now the thing is do I tell him I like him and ruin our friendship (a few weeks-are we really friends) or do I shut up and continue. This is really eating me up, I think of him quite frequently actually. All my friends know his name and know I am smitten, is this just an infatuation due to the situation with my family and I need a shoulder to cry on… Really confused here guys, all replies would be much appreciated and considered

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JuliusCaesar

hi 1234, sorry to hear about your situation. You have a lot going on for you at the moment. Somevery important family and practical stuff, some more trivial. Maybe you are distracting yourself from the very serious with thinking about this boy?

Direct advice: do nothing till your exams are over!

barbiegirl

Stay strong on the family stuff, ask for help from the extended family too if you can. They probably want to help but don't know how.
On the boy, ask him if he fancies meeting up in a couple of weeks after the exams. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Everyone deserves some happiness.

silasrat

hi,i tink u should invite him to spend some time wit u away from schoolwork or similar tings,not necessarily a 'date' as such,but sometin a little more informal so ye can chill and have fun, my guess is he wouldnt have said u were cute if he wasnt interested in the first place!.... good luck wit ur situations also...........

caesar

Hi,

Dont usually reply to PI because most of the time I feel others generally have better advice to give.

Anyway I thought that I'd try this time. First of all don't give up on the job hunting just yet. If you can afford to try and focus on your exams for the minute, easier said than done I know but you seem to be juggling a lot at the moment. I'm not sure what kind of work your looking for or how your going about looking for a job but if your dropping your cv in places, maybe you could do that bit now and then follow them up after your exams.

On the guy, well you could suggest something innocent enough like going to the cinema. Personally if I told a girl she was cute....I would definitely be interested in her and I'm fairly sure that goes for most guys. Maybe you should just leave things til after the exams though.

Hope this helps