bi triangle

LegacyUser

well this is prob going to be a long one, over christmas I was invited to a friends party we will call him O. I have known O for ages and is like one of my best friends, we get on really well and do lots together. Well anyway at O's christmas party to cut a long story short there was a lot drunk and I awoke beside O's flatmate P.
I didnt really remember that much but we did end up talking a lot we didnt do much else apart from kissing and cuddling. I gave her a few bites and we talked more about the stuff and how we are both bi. Then we were kinda wrecked so just went to sleep. She had to get up for work I was at this point dying a death she said that I could chill in her bed. Slept there for a bit went into town came back to my mates house she was there slight air off tension. Took my bus home.
Later that week I was bored so O invited me for a night out, it was cool we went out then when queue up, O tells me " I want to talk to you about something" I was like "fire away" "nah man later" so we get into the club having a cool night then he asks me straight out "So whats this about u hooking up with guys" At this point I was super pissed at P and cause I had already explain I am 80% sure O is gay but not really ready. So i just told him "yeah happened once nothing major" But he was super hurt that I had told P and not him. Tried to explain the whole thing of it wasnt really that big a deal so never needed to share it, only came up cause P told me she liked girls. Somehow O managed to make this go on all night. Very annoying. Aswell as some odd questions like "you like guys with big muscles?". Walked back to his house both wrecked listened to some music on his laptop whilst in bed. He has a double bed so we are both in in.
Fastforward to 5am and I awake with O got his arms around my shoulder and his leg around mine. "Hey O" at this point I was somewhat uncomfortable he tells me "you know u can tell me anything" I say "yeah ure like my best friend" he reforces it "you know that dont u" I respond "yeah thanks, im wrecked" then just go to sleep.
The next day somewhat odd but we both act fine talk the usual **** look on break.com then I go home with the 80% turned to 100%.
We dont see each other for a bit then go out together on the 30 just a chilled quiet one with friends off ours. I ask him if he knows wether his flatmate likes me or not and then he says "i think she isnt into you" kinda hurt by rejection but **** happens, then he tells me the most confusing thing ever "yeah i heard u are txtin her flat out" I reply pretty puzzled "that would be hard considerin I dont have her number where did u heard that" but he changes the subject I let it blow over .When we get another chance to be alone the others getting in drinks I say "well lad what was all that about u straddling me on ur bed?"
"you know what I really dont know"
Then we just joke about it and the whole thing is fine and cleared.
Move to new years the is a party in O's I get over earlish with him and soon meet up with his other two flat mates the tension between me and P is horrible. I decided **** it drink through it, so just drink while them 2 go up stairs and get rdy for the party or some other crap me and O play guitar hero. More people come and the tension lifts somewhat and I talk to them and then start a drinkin with the whole group goes on pretty good. After that it is somewhat off a blur I remember kissing P a few times. O pulls me aside a few minutes later and tells me yeah P told this to Q(the other flatmate) "yeah P said she kisses you and stuff but wouldnt sleep with you and doesnt want anything more from you" I was tanked and so like a toddler just nodding along. Zoom to 3 o clock its just me and P there kissing a bit and talking about stuff both off us a pretty drunk I ask her if she likes me cant remember the answer I almost sure she said something positive then I tell her what O has been telling me. She told me he tricked the info out of her I was like no big deal but u wouldnt believe the situation I was in last week. We make more I really want to go to bed with her but some other female friend is already there. SADFACE ON ME.
Try sleeping on there sofa on but its a 2 seater after watching everything from on demand I go into O's room and get in beside him and another of our friends. Every1 just sleeps all 3 of us get up at 10am, well I get my ass dragged out. Skull being scrapped out from the inside. the 3 of us get breakfast then come back some friends head home offer me a lift but I say no. Ends up me O and P tension it would seem has returned but in a much milder form. I get bored of it we are all watching a film then O goes to make coffee I lean in and kiss P. We sit beside each other for a while then she lays her head on my shoulder and eventually we start cuddling and kissing and watching crap movies and tv. Making very small talk we do this for like 5hrs then nethier of us moving just stroking each other. Then O said hes headin home I pack up my stuff and then get all nerivous about how to leave things O heads on to the car I pull out my moblie phone. P says "I dont know my own number," in the same sentence she said something like "ill just get ur number off O or something" but I could like see her phone in full view but I kinda took this as the soft its not gonna happen thing I kiss her goodbye and leave. I get into the car and me and O talk **** for a while then he asks me "so whats up with u and P" I return with " I dont know I like her but I not sure what see makes of me" he picks me up with " oh yeah remember what I told u last night" yes way to twist the knife O "but u where like together for the whole day". Then I heard it from other friends shes not into seeing ppl. So at this point my head is kinda wrecked cause I've got a fair few accounts telling me its not really gonna happen then the whole number business seemed Odd the threw me somewhat.
for those that made it this far thanks for reading So what exactly is my best plan of action and do you think she was just playing along or what, is it a case she isnt hard enough to tell me straight?

Femelade

That was the most confusing thing i have ever read..
Why dont you give O and P proper names , because to tell you the truth i didnt know who was female , and who was male....including you...

Marksie

Femmy: I agree with you on the confusion. I am still trying to piece it together

OP perhaps the best advice would be to say step away and sort this out in your head.
It seems so convoluted that you are in a tangle over it.

Personally i would just walk away from P.

LegacyUser

ok well ill try to summarise

O=oran

P=paula

Me=23 year old male

bottomline, into Paula she seemed to reflect the feelings then went kinda odd when I asked her for her number, Getting reports from my friends telling me she isnt into me which backs up the phone number thing but friends have also told me other things which where completely untrue such as the txting stuff.

any clearer?

justsomebloke

ok by my understanding

OP = boy who is bi and likes P
O = boy and maybe bi curious and wants to try it on with OP to see
P = female and bi and doesn't really want to screw either O or OP
Q = next letter in alphabet and doesn't really matter in story as they seem to be the smart one and knows when not to get there head wrecked.


OP by the look of it P is just using you for a bit of emotional comfort at the moment I really wouldn't look to much into it and so it is time to move on

Poppers1888

I thought P was a guy???

Mr. Incognito

Okay.

seriously that was like a fecking rubix cube. Here's what you do- avoid talking to anyone through friends. Ever play chinese whispers?

The whole sexuality thing has nothing to do with anything. This isn't a triable, it's a staight line, between you and Paula. Call round and ask her whether she likes you or not. Seems like it was just a casual thing though so I wouln't get the hopes up mate.

How Strange

sorry OP, I had to give up. I tried to re-read it after other posts and the names but still gave up.
Seems like a very complicated situation (if the complicated post is anything to go by).

LegacyUser

well it would seem that O's interested in being with you, but to be honest i'd question wether what O's telling you about what P's being saying about you is the truth.

yeah i heard u are txtin her flat out

sounds like he's stirring ***t to me. And if he's doing it to you, god only knows what he's saying to her about you.

The only way you're going to know for sure is to get her number off O and ring her yourself and find out, cut out the middle man O, he obviously has his own agenda.

juuge

Just go to confession and be done with it.
Oh no don't, you might confuse the priest.

the_syco

O wants to f**K the OP, and the OP wants to be with P.

Sounds like O shares an apartment with P, and may have said something to put P, to put her off the OP, so that O can f**k the OP.

My advice: leave O alone, and see can you get in contact with P through other friends, or to see with O told P about OP.

LegacyUser

Yeh someone got it, thanks for the replies btw I think ill keep it at arms length for the time being, weirdly enough I got a txt from P not major just heres my number type thing, replied with a crap joke

King of Kings

dump them all - they sound like eejits.

o - because he seems incapable of of telling you (his friend) the truth
p - cos she sounds like she enjoys the attention and it a head wreck.

also that story was the most long winded one yet. You really could have summarised.

travel or join a club.
don't get that drunk if the consequences upset you.