So lonely

LegacyUser

Maybe it's the time of year but I've been feeling so down recently. I moved to Dublin a few months ago, apart from a guy I've been dating for a few months I don't know a soul. Literally friendless....I moved here for work but it's been so lonely (I can't bug the guy I'm seeing to meet me every day, I only really see him twice a week at most but that's okay because it's early days and I don't want to be too dependant on him) that I'm half considering moving back home....I have loads of friends, family at home and was so happy there. I'm miserable in Dublin, the only thing keeping me here is this guy who I do really like....I don't know what to do, I'd love to get out there and meet new people but I don't know of any clubs or societies I could join, I'm not particularly great at anything like sports etc....what I wouldn't give just to go for a few drinks or a coffee with a couple of girls around my age (I'm 26) but I don't know where to look...are there any friend sites similar to dating sites etc? Surely I'm not the only person in this city who feels alone? I'm just so down in the dumps and sitting in doing nothing about it isn't going to get me anywhere. I'm naturally a very friendly, sweet and outgoing girl (so people say!) yet I feel like I'm not even half the person I used to be right now...I have to do something about it before I get any worse....does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation? Thankyou.

metaoblivia

Hey Lonely Lady, I know how you feel. I live in the US and recently moved from Florida to Boston. I don't have many friends here, and I actually just spent all the holidays alone. I've been working on my thesis, so I haven't had much time to go out and meet new people, but my schoolwork is finally done and I graduate in a week.
One thing that's helped me is joining a gym. I keep active and 4-5 times a week, I'm out and around other people. I've also joined up with two volunteer groups here in Boston, and I'm set to start working with them in mid January. This way, not only will I meet new people, but I'll also become more familiar with my new community and I'll be using my skills to do things that I enjoy and help other people.
Also, just getting out and exploring the town can help. When the weather's nice, I like to go downtown, see some of the historical sites, museums, go to bookstores, coffee shops. You never know when someone may strike up a conversation. And even if no one does, it's fun to just get out of the house and do stuff on your own.
Good luck and chin up!

JuliusCaesar

http://newintown.meetup.com/662/ sounds exactly like something you need! There are a lot of web-based clubs like this around; and yes people do use the dating sites to meet new friends, not just boy/girlfriends. There's also something called the Lunch Club, but I *think* might be a bit older......look them up anyway!

Colonel_McCoy

Why not take up tag rugby ( I know you are not sporty) alot of females are playing nowadays?
Move into an apartment\house with people of similar age?
Join a social committee at work?
Gym is also a good place to meet people.
Night course?

lu22*

hello there!!
im 24 in Dublin, recently moved out of the town i grew up in and even though i see my friends all the time i find it hard too... what sort of things are you in to? cant see why two lonely girls cant meet for a coffee... pm me if ya want a chat, your not the only one out there whose feeling the blues... and im not a weirdo !!!

DubLegs

Why not try the ladies lounge - think they having drinks soon!

sawyer yum yum

Lonely Lady wrote: »

Maybe it's the time of year but I've been feeling so down recently. I moved to Dublin a few months ago, apart from a guy I've been dating for a few months I don't know a soul. Literally friendless....I moved here for work but it's been so lonely (I can't bug the guy I'm seeing to meet me every day, I only really see him twice a week at most but that's okay because it's early days and I don't want to be too dependant on him) that I'm half considering moving back home....I have loads of friends, family at home and was so happy there. I'm miserable in Dublin, the only thing keeping me here is this guy who I do really like....I don't know what to do, I'd love to get out there and meet new people but I don't know of any clubs or societies I could join, I'm not particularly great at anything like sports etc....what I wouldn't give just to go for a few drinks or a coffee with a couple of girls around my age (I'm 26) but I don't know where to look...are there any friend sites similar to dating sites etc? Surely I'm not the only person in this city who feels alone? I'm just so down in the dumps and sitting in doing nothing about it isn't going to get me anywhere. I'm naturally a very friendly, sweet and outgoing girl (so people say!) yet I feel like I'm not even half the person I used to be right now...I have to do something about it before I get any worse....does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation? Thankyou.

i sooooooooo know how you feel, i feel like such a looser cos i'm so lonely. I'd love to meet up with new people too. What general area are you in Dublin

Karen_*

There's loads of us in the same boat! Visit the ladies lounge forum on this board. There's drinks on Friday and plenty of us interested in meeting up for coffee or other events.

Clare Bear

Girls please visit the Ladies Lounge and look at the Meeting New Friends thread...you're not alone, there's a lot of us a bit lost at the moment. We're meeting on Friday for a few drinks...please come, it will be fun and it's not a massive big group on Friday, just a few girls that want to meet new people. Hope ye come. Chin up girls, I know what it's like x

G86

Do we have a new recruit for friday then??!:D

ladylaughs

Makes me wish I lived in Dublin!!! I want to meet new ppl and make new friends!!!! Sounds great you should go out Friday!!

funloving

when I used to live in Dublin I felt the same at the start but then I began to go outwith my work mates and sometimes with my bf's friend.
In Dublin there is plenty of things to do...i like the language classes and there I met people...
Why don't you ask the people you work with if you can meet up with them?
Many people feel lonely but generally they don't ask others anything..most of them wait for an invite or something!!!!

Anyway I understand you, i feel very lonely these days because im a full time worker plus i am studying for my exams so I don't have any time to meet friends etc...

shinny

Here's a link to the ladies lounge....http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1011

The sports guy

I just put my hand in my sock and talk to socky!!!!:(

jdivision

Just to say that it generally takes six to nine months to start getting used to somewhere new when you haven't lived away much before. You'll get there in the end, don't worry. Dublin's a great place once you've made some friends. Some of the points above are excellent. As for not being great at sport, don't worry about that. There's plenty of teams catering for people who are beginners/very casual players.

x in the city

I am in dub since sept and know fook all. went into town once to meet a lad from uni, i work out in dub24 and just spent all my time at home it seem,

dublin is abit of a joke really......!

the sticks all the way:)

Marksie

The sports guy wrote: »

I just put my hand in my sock and talk to socky!!!!:(

One more comment like that and you will be banned

How Strange

x in the city wrote: »

I am in dub since sept and know fook all. went into town once to meet a lad from uni, i work out in dub24 and just spent all my time at home it seem, dublin is abit of a joke really......!
the sticks all the way:)

Eh, that's abit of a contradiction. You sit at home all day and then say Dublin is a joke. You've only gone into town once.

Why not volunteer your time - meet people and do something good at the same time. Or take up a sport. Do an evening course.

I moved to Dublin yonks ago but knew no-one at the time. Now I have a few good friends but I also love Dublin. It's a great city and there is so much to do here if you get off your backside and start looking.

You only get back what you put into something.

jdivision

x in the city wrote: »

just spent all my time at home it seem,

dublin is abit of a joke really......!

the sticks all the way:)

If you went to "the sticks" and spent all your time at home, you'd probably think it was a joke.