does he love me?

pixie101

My boyfriend told me he loved me after a few months of being togther i said it since (in text messages) but he does not say it back. does this mean he doesnt love me anymore?

Caryatnid

Possibly. Ask him. How do you expect Boards users to know?

Cathmandooo

Him not saying it by text doesnt mean he doesnt love you. How long ago did he say it? Do you actually love him? as in are you in love with him? People say it far too easily and dont mean it. Never pressure anyone into saying it.

By the sounds of it he has said it once in person but you havent? am i right? Maybe he's annoyed you've never said it in person. Texts dont count.

amazingemmet

If you have to ask on an internet forum if he does the answer is more then likely no.

Wibbs

If he came out with I love you after a few months of knowing you I would be suspicious. Less than two of average going out time and I would be decidedly wary.

People who fall in love too quickly(or think they do) are often equally quick to fall out of love. It's generally a sign of emotional immaturity and insecurity. They have unrealistic emotional ideas about the whole thing. They get caught up in the moment. When that moment passes or they get distracted then they start to drift.

Unless you're 15, or very inexperienced in relationships any less than six months in and I would raise a quizical eyebrow. Now doubtless the romantics who prattle on about the "one" and "fate" and all that nonsense can justify that kind of thinking, but it very rarely lasts in my experience. Or worse, it does.

He also could have said it in a needy way to get a response from you. Now that he got that, if even by texts(?) then he has no need to continue in his mind. maybe that's it. I dare say if you dumped him, he'd be writing I love you in the sky.

In any event, saying it is one thing and too many people get caught up in that chocolate box, moon in june stuff. Doing loving things is the real litmus test. If I was with someone who showed me how they loved, respected and cared for me, it's worth far more than those 3 little words, that are rattled out at the drop of a hat by some.

Talk is cheap. bullshít is free, actions are priceless.

spinandscribble

"People who fall in love too quickly(or think they do) are often equally quick to fall out of love. It's generally a sign of emotional immaturity and insecurity. They have unrealistic emotional ideas about the whole thing. They get caught up in the moment. When that moment passes or they get distracted then they start to drift."

that must be the biggest generalisation i've read on the boards. i dont believe in fate/the one but i do believe in people knowing their mind and being emotional secure enough to open themselves and the right person coming along at a good time and everything just falls together. my bf and i fell in love after a month and we're happily living together a year and a half later. i'd be raising an eyebrow if after 6 mths a couple were still together, seeing plenty of eachother, knew eachother and still didnt know if they loved eachother...

tbh its probably more likely someone would only say it once at the beginning to get someone into bed. op i dont know whats your situation. the only person that knows is your bf.