Meet the parents

LilyFrank

Why has my boyfriend of 1 year not brought me to meet his parents?

Pigman II

Maybe he forget where they live.

dirtydress

^ not helpful

Have you talked to him about it? It does seem a little odd...has he met your parents? dont think anyone here can answer that without knowing your situation, does he get along with his parents? What kind of person is he? Again, talking to him would be the best answer here, only he can tell you for sure.

LilyFrank

He has met mine and thinks they are nice.
No idea what he is like at home.
He is a confident person.

LilyFrank

I have mentioned it.
He is aware that it is bothering me because i have emphasised it more this month.
Does he get on with his parents never thought of that.
I will keep ye posted as to what happens.

él statutorio

Hmmm, being devils advocate here.

Maybe he's also seeing someone else and she is his "girlfriend".... its happens....

star-pants

Hmm odd, do ye live near? (like in the same county etc?)
I dated a guy for 3 months, he never met my friends/family because he was in another county so I used to visit him. I met all his family n friends.

Dated another guy for 5months, same county, he met my parents a few times, only if he was coming over to the house, but I mostly went to his. Just because my mother can be a bit odd with having strangers over as she's not well most of the time.
Might it be something like that?


p.s. aware my time frame is much shorter than yours

Conor108

He might not get on with them, in which case don't push him.

LilyFrank

i am definetly not pushing him on the matter.
i just emphasised it this month because it was christmas and all.
and i have people constantly asking have you met his parents bla bla bla

Stokolan

I used to hate Brining girlfriends hometo my parents.. My father used to quize them about their parents, aunts, uncles grandparents, etc etc.. just so he could see if he knew any of them it bugged the hell out of me. then there was also the factor of both my parents loved a few drinks one more so then the other. Its kinda hard to bring someone home when factors like that come into play.

LegacyUser

... because it's not important to him ?


why does it matter ? do you want to have a relationship with him or his parents ?

what else has he not done that's on your list of things that a boyfriend of 1 year should be doing ?

geminilady

Maybe he is embarrased by them or something

Carrigart Exile

geminilady wrote: »

Maybe he is embarrased by them or something

Have to agree with Geminilady, there could be a checkered history. Also, does he visit his parents at all?

milli

Why is it so important to meet his parents? Is it just because you want to be able to answer all those people that yes you've met them? There's no rush!!
It would be a bad idea to start nagging him and pressurising him into inviting you to meet them - let him do it in his own time.

drand

1) He has some issues with his parents
2) He is ashamed of you
3) He's horsing some other bird up the sh!tter

Helix

LilyFrank wrote: »

Why has my boyfriend of 1 year not brought me to meet his parents?

wouldnt think anything of it

none of my gfs have ever met my parents, or been mentioned to my parents

some people just keep their own business their own

possibly just as simple as that, he just doesnt want you to meet them or them to meet you. theres a fair chance theres nothing more to it than that

MagicMarker

Why does it matter?

Pythia

Ask him directly.
I had a boyf whose parents I didn't meet for over a year and such a long wait was because something funny was going on.

LegacyUser

thinking 2 much wrote: »

... because it's not important to him ?


why does it matter ? do you want to have a relationship with him or his parents ?

what else has he not done that's on your list of things that a boyfriend of 1 year should be doing ?

Or maybe it is important to him? Parents are people too. You bring some girl home and she becomes friends with the family, shopping with the sister, possibly your mum, then BOOM she is gone. Roll on the next one. Can be painfull for the family as a whole.

Let him decide when you should meet them, not some notion you have that you should meet them.

Just a thought.

gamer

maybe he doesnt get on with his family,or hes got something to hide like bloke i know, thrown out cos he was a lying ,cheatin idiot whose hobby was taking drugs and robbing peoples flats.HIS gf broke up with him after her money disapearred from her purse.Either hes got something to hide ,or else theres somethings wrong with his family,or hes afraid they will tell her whats hes really like.ITS up to you to find out, if you care about your health and welfare .MAYBE he,s an ex junkie or criminal ,and prefers you not to find out his backround.
I HEARD a story about a woman who married a nonational,after 9months he came home drunk and tried to KILL her.EVENTUALLY she discovered he had served 10 years in jail,for manslaughter in the uk.After being released he moved to eire to start a new life,and get a wife.ITS up to you to find out his backround if you wish to continue this relationship.
Thats a true story ,im not exaggerating at all.YOU dont have to like his parents,but you should get the chance to meet,unless he has a deep dark secret.

LegacyUser

i didnt introduce my gf to my folks for a year and a half....didnt even tell em i was with someone for most of that ....(she didnt know that bit!!)
The main reasons were i didnt want the hassle of them asking me about her and having any idea of what goes on in my social life!!
it also was a step up in the commitment stakes!!
anyways i had to tell em or she'd dump me!
still goin strong a year later!!

Eric Cartman

maybee they dont like him and girls ? there could be loaads of reasons that are legitimate behind this, i reccomend ASKING HIM, its not like its a question he'll run from, bar you say it in an angry tone itll be fine

gamer

Perhaps you could just ask him why cant i meet your parents.Maybe he,s a saint ,maybe his parents are drunk,or crinimals,deranged,or they dont like their son.I doubt the reason is he doesnt agree with their views on world bank dept in the third world.THE point is there is a reason for this situation ,and he owes you
a thorough explanation,after a year in a relationship.Can you not speak to his sister brother ,uncle or aunt ,does he not have relatives ,besides his parents.
HE cant just say dont meet my family,thats highly suspicious.
OF course he may not feel fully committed to you,so he thinks if you meet my ma, then next year its like,you,ll have to get engaged.1st step meet the parents, next step get engaged ,its a cliche but some men think like that.

LegacyUser

I haven't introduced girlfriends to my parents for well over a year in the past...it depends on his relationship with them.

If he talks/visits them regularly then there's something up, but if he goes months without speaking to them then don't think anything of it.