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Distant Friend? Advice?

  • 26-12-2007 6:50pm
    #1
    Dub25
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    My best friend has become increasingly distant over the last 6months and i'm worried about her and basically looking for advice on what to do.

    She is extremely busy with college that much i do know but it's like she retreated into herself. She isn't returning my texts or calls, when she does and i explain that i'm worried i'm told that her phone isn't working that well and that she's been up the walls with college. I don't think she's been going out with college friends or our other friends as i haven't heard. I've asked her to come out with the rest of us but she either pulls out at the last minute or says she can't cos of college work. I do know there is a history of mental health issues in her family and this is making me increasingly anxious?

    I just wondering if any one has advice on how to go about either finding out whats wrong or helping her in some way.PLease!


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  • #2
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,316 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    She could be doing sh|te in class, and has copped onto the fact that either she cops the f**k on, or she'll fail.


  • #3
    geminilady
    Closed Accounts Posts: 273 ✭✭geminilady


    Yeah it does seem something is up or she might be just really stressed out. Maybe send her a text like how you keeping/happy christmas hope ur keeping well or something along those lines?? Has she been in touch with any of your other friends? sorry for not being much help! Best of luck though


  • #4
    Dub25
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭Dub25


    Thanks! i've been sending her those kind of texts constantly. None of our other friends have heard anything from her, i'm really worried.
    And she's not the type of person that would welcome "surprise" visitors to her door, if that makes sense.

    I suppose i should just keep sending daily texts.


  • #5
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Apart from the college bit - that sounds like how I've been for a good few months. I had been broken up with and my world crumbled,(other stuff happened too) I cared less and less about things. and I was pretty down - I pulled away from my friends after a while because I just felt so sad - that I couldn't be aroudn them because I didn't want to depress them or lean on them more than I already had. I also just didnt have the energy to be my normal happy self.
    I shut off from a lot of my friends, and nearly lost one or two because of it.

    But you probably shouldn't push her either (I know you're not) however the daily txts are good, I know I pulled away from people and I felt so goddarn lonely it hurt - some of my friends pulled away from me too (only fair) and it made me feel a bit worse, so knowing that someone still cared that much does help. She'll appreciate it.

    It may just be that shes struggling in college and stressed and cant deal with people right now, but just keep up what you're doing hun. Suggest maybe a quiet coffee/tea together, whenever she's free or something. She just might not be in the form for groups of people or 'going out'. I only started going out persay this month, after what... 5months of keeping to myself.
    Just be there for her hun - it's all you can do for now.


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