sex in a new relationship

how are you?

for the past 3 months i have been going out with this amazing girl.we are both in college and cant stop seeing eachother.we havnt had sex yet casue we both live at home and she isnt mad into anywhere outside the bedroom.e always talking about how we cant wait to have sex.we decided we would go away for a weekend after xmas.that is the date for when we are going to do it.

my problem is that we are building this up to be somthing huge and its getting us a bit nervous.iv had loads of sex in a previous relationship but she has only ever did it once and she said she didnt enjoy it at all.
i dont want our weekend to be a nerve wrecking anti climax.


any ideas?????

MagicMarker

If she's only done it once then chances are she may not like the 2nd time either. It takes time for a girl to get used to it.

It's great if you want to go away together, but I wouldn't expect anything spectacular from it. If you can try and fool around a bit beforehand.

How old are you two? Not doing anything in 3 months just because you both live at home is a bit of a cop out to be honest.

patrickc

as magic said, but try not to even discuss the sex part of the weekend away before ye go, and just relax and go with the flow when your away

Dord

You should try plan something along with the weekend away, maybe visiting a local attraction or something like that. Some other event that will take some of the focus off the sex. Try pick something that you both will be looking forward to.

And the main thing to remember, relax.

Enjoy your weekend away!

Joe Robot.

NotWormBoy

On the plus side, you've shag all to live up to. Think positive man!

how are you?

yeh hopefully all will be fine.i still think though that she will expecting something that wont materialise.she doesnt know much about sex.we are both 19 but i feel like a pervert with her cause im so used and experienced with sex!its gonna take a while befor our sex life is up to what i would like!

ill keep you all posted!

ryoishin

Just make sure shes comfortable and nature will look after you. After its done you ll be wondering what the big deal was.

Mulan

Go easy here tonto.
Remember that progression is the name of the game.
As you prob. know there's a bucket of stuff you can get up to before full sex. In my opinion its the best part!!

Enjoy

Regards

How Strange

Don't make having sex for the first time the object of the weekend. Plan some other stuff too maybe during the day. But take the pressure of both of you. Maybe it will be mind blowing or maybe it won't but by putting all the emphasis on it then you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I'd suggest lots of kissing and cuddling first, don't just pounce on her as soon as you get in the room. Let her get comfortable as well and then start slowly.

Remember its about the two of you taking the next step in your relationship not about having earth shattering sex and you don't have to compete with films, girls or lads magazines.

Miss Fluff

how are you? wrote: »

iv had loads of sex in a previous relationship but she has only ever did it once and she said she didnt enjoy it at all.

Can you be 100% sure of that? I would not be at ALL surprised if she is in fact a virgin and thought she would say she has done it once rather than be embarassed and tell you the truth. Especially if you have had "loads of sex" in the past. Be certain first of all that she does want to have sex, actually ask her if she's ready. If that's the case then a lack of a bedroom is no excuse whatsoever. You'll build up to this huge weekend to "do the deed" and I can guarantee it will be anti-climatic. When fooling around next time, if you are both ready and protected then go for it. Encourage your folks to go to midnight mass and invite her around:p

Marksie

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Encourage your folks to go to midnight mass and invite her around:p

Actually truth being stranger than fiction Miss Fluff, me and my first did something very similar. We got her mum to go to church and then got down and dirty.
It was during this that her Uncle turned up (with house key) to pick something up.

So OP make sure you will be undisturbed.

Try taking a step back here and stop building it up. It is a natural process and should flow naturally.
Calm yourself down and dont worry about how many times you or her have had sex.
EVERY woman is unique and different in many respects. Dont see your "experiemce" or her "inexpoerience" as a barrier. Juts go with what happens and take it slowly