Head Wrecked ..

LegacyUser

O.k so….basically started working somewhere and it became evident that there was an attraction between me and my boss. He ticks all the boxes for me, into all the same stuff as me and is sweet and attractive. I never considered that I would go for someone older than me until he came along. Besides what I had felt myself, it had been commented on quite frequently by various other people. There is an age difference, which is irrelevant to me, and we are both single.

A few months into my time there he left his gym and joined mine, we would go the same nights and sometimes go to gigs. I have left that job about 6 months ago and still see him on a regular basis (generally we go to gigs together). Nothing has ever happened between us, which I could understand when I was working with him but I would have thought if anything was going to happen, it would have by now. He used to be quite shy around me and recently has relaxed a lot, which I think is due to the fact that I don’t work with him anymore.

I like him so much that nobody else interests me. I was seeing someone for a short while in August as I figured I needed to get on with it and over him but my heart was not in it and all I could think of was him.

My head is wrecked and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t feel that I can tell him how I feel as I have just built it up so much in my head at this stage. Should I just try to move on and forget it ?

Drift

You could just ask him on a date?

Or you could suggest going somewhere after one of the gigs or getting dinner beforehand to make it into an evening.

Overheal

I think its hazardous to bottle up feelings like that so long - you need to start letting it out. Talk to him, warm up to him, etc.

MagicMarker

It's threads like these that annoy me!!

OP: All you have to do is ask him!! You should have done it 6 months ago when you left the job! Instead of sitting on your arse waiting for the man to make the move.

Ring him tomorrow, ask him out. It's so so simple.

Beruthiel

head wrecked wrote: »

A few months into my time there he left his gym and joined mine, we would go the same nights

Now why do you think he did that?
I mean, apart from having a neon light attached to the top of his head, I'm not sure what else you are waiting for.
Ask him out to dinner. Today!

Femelade

well maybe he thinks the age difference would be a problem..you've got to let him know you are interested..men can be a bit slow..

LegacyUser

Ok...point taken thanks guys. I'll let you know how I get on...

diamondp

Go get him girl. dont forget were not in the dark ages now so its very acceptable for a girl to make a move on the boys. and please do let us know how you get on.