4 Climaxes, 2 failures

LegacyUser

had quite an active weekend but worried. id sex with a girl 6 times, a girl who im attracted to and who can turn me on with a kiss. out of the 6 times, i climaxed 4 times but went soft (during actual intercourse, which really shocked me!) twice. the 4 times i did climax i had to try pretty hard to just enjoy the moment because the first time with this girl i kept going soft before i could even penetrate, this was only the 2nd time with her so this was racing thru my mind, we didnt need to use a condom this time so that was a big obstacle out of the way but i just cant come to terms with actually going soft during intercourse, its freaking me out and making me feel really strange and question everything.

its definitely not like me to have problems staying hard, in fact, i used to have the problem of going too early but this time i was having trouble even feeling like climaxing. when i first start kissing this girl i start to get turned on but once it begins to go further i start to worry about my performance.

i googled and saw similar topics with suggestions of going to a sex therapist and everything, which has freaked me out more and then of having to take viagra, im only 21, not 70!

please help!

stratospheres

twoconfused wrote: »

i just cant come to terms with actually going soft during intercourse, its freaking me out and making me feel really strange and question everything.

when i first start kissing this girl i start to get turned on but once it begins to go further i start to worry about my performance.

OP I'm no expert, far from it actually, but I think this could be the brunt of your problem!
I know its easier said than done but you need to try to relax!

Overheal

you're just stressing out, and worrying about it will only affect your performance. You need to relax and just take it one moment at a time. If you're thinking 5 seconds ahead of yourself, than youre doing it wrong

AARRRGH

Nerves or alcohol. Don't worry about it.

Can you get boners normally, when you're alone by yourself? If you can you know there's nothing physical going on.

I bet this problem will go away all by itself. So just relax.

Ishindar

gota agree lol. u need to relax and get in the zone.

how are you?

2 rules:

1.dont drink befor

2most important stop looking at porn it wrecks your sex life.you dont get the same instant gratification that porn gives you

davyjose

how are you? wrote: »

most important stop looking at porn it wrecks your sex life.you dont get the same instant gratification that porn gives you

What???? Sex is about a thousand times better than porn. I'd agree with the other lads. Performance anxiety is the key here. Guarantee in a few weeks this wont be an issue.

WhiteWashMan

wouldn'y worry about. It happens. Just enjoy your time.

If you were getting it every single time, then youre in trouble.