Problems with friend

Webmonkey

Hi There,

I'm doing a Software Dev course in some college and over last 2 years become great friends with a girl. She great but when it comes to doing work in college she not the best.

Now we were put in groups of 3 this year for a Year Project which is quite large. Basically the group effect hasn't gone a long way.
Firstly one guy in the group has dropped out of college so just 2 of us. Now she has barely done anything for the project and what she has done is not worth while and wrong.

I don't know what to do, just after giving out to her there bout it and she blames me that I don't use what she gives anyway.
Now she has attitude that she won't do anything cause i'll only do it myself anyways.

This is really driving me insane, she not even trying. I told her to try parts at least, even to learn how to do it. Has she? - no.

Now we have a demo thing tomorrow that we must provide and the mark goes to 10% of a subject and the project is marked as part of it.
We know where near finished.

I gave her a list of things to do Friday, she only comes on 10 mins ago there with a lame excuse for not doing it.
I'm fed up with it

This has being going on the past 2-3 months.

Thing is, i've no problem doing project on my own. Id happily do it as then won't be held back by her but how do I go about this now.
I don't know what to do as i'm great friends with her and I couldn't go complain her.


Just wondering if anyone got any advice?

Thanks

drdre

Just do the project but in the mean time contact your lecturer and them him/her about the situation and that you did most of the work

dudara

You really should have gone to the lecturer sooner than this to talk about the situation. They might have been able to intercede and would be aware of the situation when marking.

You should go talk to the lecturer - but from my experience lecturer's will generally have a fair idea of how the labour is distributed in a team, i.e. they will know who the workers are.

Webmonkey

Thanks guys.

Well the class is really small and we know the lecturers almost personally and they know that its me doing the project but she manages to BS so much to make it sound as if she doing something.
Anyways there should be no problem with marks at end, its just i'm unhappy whats going on having it on my mind that she going to get marked for something she didnt do and couldn't care less.

Anyways i talk to my supervisor this week.
I just don't want to hurt her either, as i get on great with her. Its very complicated!

Dizzyblonde

If it's bothering you, tell your supervisor - otherwise when the course is over and she heads off into the sunset you'll be sorry you didn't.
I know of a similar situation a couple of years ago in a software engineering class. One girl had all her projects done by other, older students - all guys, interestingly....;)
Anyway, when the course was finished the person I know who hadn't reported her was sorry.
I know you feel you get on with this girl and I don't want to insult you, but could she be using you?

biko

Do the work now. Talk to the teacher.
If more projects come up, team up with someone else.

Aseth

Why can't you ask your teacher if you could do the project by yourself and not in the group? IMHO it's the best option and if they know you do the most work there shouldn't be any problem

Electric

I had a similar problem in my final year, only I lived with the lazy git! I know you're great friends with her but tbh she sounds like a sponge. You'll do all the work and she'll get a great mark without doing a tap.

You should definitely speak to the lecturer explain the situation and see if they can come up with a solution.

In my case I asked that we be split up so I did my project by myself and got a pretty good mark and she got nothing (which served her right)

I totally agree with the other posters you'll regret not speaking up especially at the end of the year when she heads off into the sunset with a good degree that you got for her!