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Broke my own heart

  • 14-12-2007 1:46am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So I have been involved in an online relationship. I don't know if anyone will understand when i say that we loved eachother.
    We were so close and would confide in everything, she knew my deepest secrets and problems, and still loved me. I had a history of depression, but she still loved me.
    She gets down every now and then and her thoughts are quite dark. We talked every day, every single day.
    Until this evening she mentioned she was down about something, and said she wouldn't tell because she knew I would turn away if she did.
    My thoughts were I didn't want to ignore something that would potentially be of serious issue, I couldn't ignore it, and play pretend.
    She still wouldn't tell me, so I ended it. And immediatley thought myself harsh. I sent her messages, but she has logged off.
    I don't know what to do, she is a girl who is stubborn I think she will not reply.

    Can anyone tell me, have I been too harsh, or am I just being pitiful?


Comments

  • #2
    pepper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 691 ✭✭✭pepper


    so u dumped her because she didnt want to tell you something personal and possible depressing, she may have been trying to save you from being low and feeling bad for her

    dont try force peoples secrets out of them

    yes you have been harsh- and nosy- and a lil selfish


  • #3
    Pigman II
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,921 ✭✭✭✭Pigman II


    Yeah you went to far dude. You shouldn't have forced her into admitting her secret that she was a guy.


  • #4
    pepper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 691 ✭✭✭pepper


    Pigman II wrote: »
    Yeah you went to far dude. You shouldn't have forced her into admitting her secret that she was a guy.

    ROFL:D

    but you did go to far it wasnt your business but you picked and picked at it and now its over


  • #5
    Jesper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 820 ✭✭✭Jesper


    If you were that close you were only asking out of concern.. not being nosy. you did not go to far. I would imagine whe will relax a bit soon and come back to you


  • #6
    pepper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 691 ✭✭✭pepper


    Jesper wrote: »
    If you were that close you were only asking out of concern.. not being nosy. you did not go to far. I would imagine whe will relax a bit soon and come back to you

    Jesper no disrespect or nothing

    But the man DUMPED her because she didnt want to tell him something personal-Thats v selfish and spoilt and he went way too far


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  • #7
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    Why did you act on impulse?
    What was the reason for you doing this i dont believe for one minute that it was you could pretend to ignore it. and that in itself is no reason to end it all.

    Was it a case of you beleived that you could tell each other everything and when she didn't you felt affronted because you do?

    Look at the reason why you reacted and made this choice.

    All you can do now is send a message telling her why you reacted like that.
    Buit one thing does strike me, it is not the action of somene who looves someone else. In loving someone you at times step back, do not force them to say things, but just accept and support.

    Your actions are more consistent with an obsessional stance. A desire to know everything. I am not saying you didn't love her, but i am saying that in some aspects it was a controlling love


  • #8
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    whyamIdoingthis wrote: »
    She still wouldn't tell me, so I ended it. And immediatley thought myself harsh. I sent her messages, but she has logged off.
    I don't know what to do, she is a girl who is stubborn I think she will not reply.
    Just try contact her again today. Keep trying.
    Don't pry again.


  • #9
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    did you ever meet her in real life?


  • #10
    Zombrex
    Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    whyamIdoingthis wrote: »
    She still wouldn't tell me, so I ended it.

    You ended what exactly? The AIM session or the online relationship.

    TBH I am very skeptical of online relationships, having been in one myself that went pear shaped when we actually spend time in the "real world"

    If you genuinely care about this girl (or think you do) you need to meet her in the real world. Until then its really just a game, and that isn't fair on either of you.


  • #11
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    tbh wrote: »
    did you ever meet her in real life?

    No I haven't, but I am visiting in February.
    I say am. because she has replied to my message, that I sent apologising, and just wants to move on and forget about it...
    I am so grateful! I will change my ways, that is for sure. I can't believe I behaved in such a way. I had no right to pry.

    All of you had valid points, thanks for listening everyone! :)


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