continue waiting ?????

LegacyUser

i was seeing this really great guy for a couple of months. he wanted to go to austrailia and i really encouraged him to go. he said he would go for three months. since he left he has continually changed his mind. said he was coming home and then changed his mind. he really wants me to wait for him and says he is "definetly coming home in january. i find it very hard to believe him....my heart wants to but my head tells me to cop on... when listening him chatting about it , its clear he loves the lifestyle and he was offered a permenant job etc.... i dont want him to come back and sacrafice his big chance in austrailia and resent me for it in the end... iwould love to see him and hang out and have a good time and all as we got on very well but feel this huge amount of pressure..... should i just finish and he will stay there or what should i do.....i cant go there for a number of reasons although he has suggested it..... but if he says he is staying longer than january , i will feel so foolish for waiting for him this long.... iknow the decision is his but.............
any advice.....
from
very confused person.

smilingeyerish

TBH, forget about him, Australia is amazing, no one would wanna come home early from there, not even for a girlfriend back home.sorry.talk to anyone who has been there and most people would agree its very hard to leave.

dazberry

Something similar happened to me when I was a lot younger - US instead of Australia and 8 months instead of 3 (I had 2 years left of college and couldn't follow) - but the end result was that I ended up heart broken and really screwed up about the whole thing because it was dragged out over a long period of time.

Without going into anymore detail - the best advice I can give is DO NOT put your life on hold. If he returns in a years time and wants to see you again - and you're interested cool, if you're not - well you haven't wasted the year - and if he doesn't come back - its no-longer a big deal.

D.

lolli

Hi,

If you meet someone else then you should move on. You were not together very long so are you sure he's committed? Did you discuss it before he left? He could be over there meeting other girls. You should go out, have a good time and move on.

Best of Luck

l3LoWnA

To be honest, you should finish it - for both of your sakes. Even if he came home now to you, you'd probably never forgive yourself wondering if he had missed opportunities. Also, he may have regrets himself if he comes back and everything couldgo pear shaped anyways. If he stays on, you'll be waiting like a fool.

He thinks you'll wait for him forever. He's having his cake and eating it too. Honestly, finish it, and go out and find yourself a new man to kiss under the mistletoe!

If it's meant to be, it'll happen whenever he decides to return home. Other than that, go out and enjoy yourself and stop waiting around for this guy who isn't sure what he wants himself by the sounds of it.

Best of luck.

Mighty_Mouse

my heart wants to but my head tells me to cop on

Listen to your head.
Why don't you just get on with life?
Meet other blokes, etc etc
If he comes back & you're still single, well and good.
If not, nothing lost.

Plus fact is you were only seeing him for a couple of months. Thats way to short a time to be making a commitment like you are.

Finally, do you honestly think he's "waiting" for you ?