gf wants a ffm threesome

IamBeowulf · 11-12-2007 1:07pm #1

Any tips / suggestions on how to arrange it? Were in our mid 20s if that matters

biko · 11-12-2007 1:10pm

Easiest would be to advertise for a stranger on one of them sites.

Lux23 · 11-12-2007 1:14pm

biko wrote: »

Easiest would be to advertise for a stranger on one of them sites.

Can't think of anything else you can do, you occasionally see straight couples hanging out in gay bars trying to pull a woman but I don't think they are too successful especially as they haven't grasped what lesbian actually means.

milod · 11-12-2007 2:18pm

I wish I had the same problem, but if I did, I'd try the swingers sites - just google Irish Swingers and go from there. Gumtree also have a couples/singles section.

As you can see I've done the research, just waiting for the go ahead from her indoors

Nevyn · 11-12-2007 3:13pm

I think that you first start by figuring out what it is you both want from this fantasy come true. Talk about what you would like to happen, then about what you would not like to happen, be they physical interactions or emotional interactions. Sit and make some very clear and explict ground rules about such interactions and talk about how you will communicate that to the woman you wish to invovle.

What about her would be a deal break for both of you ?
Not just looks but personality and attitude.

I would suggest resolving all that before heading to the frount lounge or placing an ad looking for a Bi female playmate.

Mr. Incognito · 11-12-2007 3:14pm

Is this not posted on After Hours already?

IamBeowulf · 11-12-2007 3:14pm

SetantaL wrote: »

Is this not posted on After Hours already?

I was told to repost it in another section

Aura · 11-12-2007 3:23pm

Make sure you are both being completely honest with each other about every aspect of this.
How would you feel for instance if you were to bump into this person again on the street?
Why not try it further away from home first to see how you both handle it.
Fantasy can sometimes be just that but hey if you're both up for it enjoy!

kraggy · 11-12-2007 3:26pm

OP, though you may be hyper right now about the prospect of fulfilling that fantasy that many men have, you need to be very careful.

If you are going out with your girl for a long time and you want to keep it that way, this could potentially ruin all of that for you.

No matter how carefree, liberal and easygoing either of ye are, it will to some extent wreck at least one of your heads. Almost guaranteed.

As was said above, you need to organise some ground rules. What happens if your girlfriend likes the idea in theory but when she actually sees you kissing, giving oral, feeling or even having intercourse with the girl suddenly becomes uncomfortable with the whole thing? Your relationship will have taken a hit.

The same could be said for your thoughts on what she does with the girl. You may like the though of it right now, but if there is the slightest hint of fondness in your girlfriend's eyes when she looks at the girl, you too may feel insecure.

Couples have gone through with it in the past and enjoyed it and were even stronger after it. But many have broken up too.

All I can advise is, be careful. And if you decide not to do it, don't think of it as an opportunity missed. Think of it as a sacred decision that saved you both from potential hurt and gave you a chance to last for as long as you both wanted it. Not for as long as you could or might have lasted after said threesome.

Aura · 11-12-2007 3:34pm

True kraggy.
In fairness I agree that there are very few couples who can make the transition from fantasy to reality and personally I think a fantasy shared can be just as arousing but then again different folks, different strokes.

OP just talk through it all very carefully together and give each other time to consider the ramifications.

Miss Fluff · 11-12-2007 3:39pm

Under what circumtances did she suggest it? Were you in bed and she said she wants nothing more than for you both to f8ck your/her friend/neighbour/postman/doctor etc? Has she a specific third party in mind? How did it come up? Man/woman? Is she/you happy with hooking up with a randomer and taking it from there? All very well saying your GF wants a 3some, to what extent have you discussed it? Have you said you'll take the bull by the horns (way-hay!:p) and go and actively arrange it yourself? As a surprise

And have you established any ground rules? Your post is very random tbh. I take from it you are looking for links/volunteers but can't be sure.

Hail 2 Da Chimp · 11-12-2007 3:42pm

Get my friend Marie drunk, she's always up for a bit of fun when she has a few drinks on her!

IamBeowulf · 11-12-2007 3:53pm

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Under what circumtances did she suggest it? Were you in bed and she said she wants nothing more than for you both to f8ck your/her friend/neighbour/postman/doctor etc? Has she a specific third party in mind? How did it come up? Man/woman? Is she/you happy with hooking up with a randomer and taking it from there? All very well saying your GF wants a 3some, to what extent have you discussed it? Have you said you'll take the bull by the horns (way-hay!:p) and go and actively arrange it yourself? As a surprise And have you established any ground rules? Your post is very random tbh. I take from it you are looking for links/volunteers but can't be sure.

At first it was a during-sex thing. Then she told me she got off thinking about being with me and a girl at the same time. We discussed it in-depth and she would like to do it.

LegacyUser · 11-12-2007 3:57pm

www.adultfriendfinder.com
www.alt.com
www.irish-swingers.com
www.swing4ireland.com

Hope that helps and good luck. Doing things like that with a partner you care about can really help grow and deepen a relationship

Aura · 11-12-2007 4:03pm

well nobody can tell you if you should or shouldn't do this but do take the advice given aboard. Sometimes the reality of such fantasies can be much different but only the two of you know your limits in this regard. But only if you're both 100% honest with each other and aren't doing something just to please someone you love because it'll backfire if that's the only reason, trust me.

IamBeowulf · 11-12-2007 4:05pm

Thans Aura. Trust me its something Id love as well. To share our bodies with one another and another girl will be fun:) Just the arranging it...getting the girl...that's the trick...

Nevyn · 11-12-2007 4:06pm

Off topic and unhelpful posts will get you banned from this forum.
Read the charter and abide by the rules while posting.
Have a nice day
Thaedydal.

IamBeowulf · 11-12-2007 4:09pm

Thaedydal wrote: »

Off topic and unhelpful posts will get you banned from this forum.
Read the charter and abide by the rules while posting.
Have a nice day
Thaedydal.

Was that directed at Aura? She was just helping...

kraggy · 11-12-2007 7:01pm

IamBeowulf wrote: »

Was that directed at Aura? She was just helping...

Think it was directed at Hail/chimp's message above

Deadevil129 · 11-12-2007 8:50pm

Make sure it's something you definately want. I had a mmf threesome with my boyfriend and one of his friends a few months ago. it was a lot of fun, but we probably enjoyed it so much because we put up such strict ground rules beforehand. It's not something we'd do again, not because we didn't like it but because we agreed beforehand that we didn't think it's be too healthy for our relationship to make it a regular thing. It was just a once of thing, to have some fun with no strings attatched.

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