Please Help!!!

LegacyUser

Hi all

I need to hear your opinion on a course of action, so my dilemma...

I was at my sister's birthday party in Cork over the weekend. It was a big family occasion, including her husband's family also.

It was the first time I had met any of his side of the family. This where it gets tricky...It turns out his sister is a FOX! I just thought she was the most beautiful girl I had seen in an age. We got chatting for a good while over the night, and we got on great. She's very bubbly with a great sense of humour...and she's really smart as well......god i could go on all night! She is 23 ish , and I'm 25.

ANYWAY...this is where i need your help...is she forbidden fruit!? I mean...she's my sister's sister in law! Is this too close for comfort to be messing about with this girl (if she was interested of course!).
I keep thinking about how awkward it would be to be meeting each other at family occasions in the future, if we ever got together and it didnt work!!!

I'd appreciate what ye think,

Thanks

dudara

She's not a blood relation, so there is no issue there. I'd say go for it. It might be worth asking your sister if she thinks it would be OK, just in case there might be any issues.

milkerman

She's fair game if she isn't related by blood, just be mindfull of the other family connection and treat her well. Even if it doesn't work out you will be able to meet this girl in future without difficulty if you play it straight.
Your sis might be able to give you more info to help you snare this gal.

Ishindar

fair game but also respecfull to say it to your sis

randylonghorn

Henrythe5th wrote: »

ANYWAY...this is where i need your help...is she forbidden fruit!?

Why would she be? Actually, it's not totally uncommon for 2 brothers to marry 2 sisters, or whatever, having met in similar circumstances. Probably happens less than it did, but only because we all travel more / live further apart than we used to.

Henrythe5th wrote: »

I keep thinking about how awkward it would be to be meeting each other at family occasions in the future, if we ever got together and it didnt work!!!

This is the only real issue, tbh ... it's up to you to decide whether she is worth some element of risk.

And yes, probably a good idea to at least drop a hint of your interest in your sister's ear if you decide to follow up.

padser

Def fair game.

Don't see any need to tell your sister unless it actually goes somewhere.


In fairness how often are you likely to be at family affairs that involve your sisters husbands sister??? Its taken this long for the first one so go for it!

Cathmandooo

Yeah go for it, and have a little word to your sister.

The issue of bumping into her at family events can be avoided. I dont particularly like my two brothers' in-laws and successfully avoid them. Plus both of those familys live very close to me.

Treat her right anyway so there's no problems with you and your brother in law.

smashey

Go for it. I know of one situation like this where the brother of the bride ended up marrying the groom's sister.

Lux23

No she isn't at all but I would take it easy, you will bump into her a good bit so take your time. You don't want to rush in and have her turn you down, that would be uncomfortable for decades to come!

Reku

dudara wrote: »

She's not a blood relation, so there is no issue there. I'd say go for it. It might be worth asking your sister if she thinks it would be OK, just in case there might be any issues.

Definitely agree with this, but would add to ask both your sister and her husband (is his sister afterall so should show the same respect to both of them), might seem a little weird to them but doubt they'd have a problem with it. Just make sure to never put them in the middle of things if you start arguing with your sister in law.

diamondp

defo go for it.My 2 sisters went out with 2 brothers, the situation is very common.

Megatron091

randylonghorn wrote: »

it's up to you to decide whether she is worth some element of risk.

I was in a very similar situation and ended up going out with my Brothers wifes sister for a number of years and when it ended it was extremely arkward.. Now i am not trying to discourage but be very wary it can turn out very difficult for both families..

LegacyUser

cheers everyone for their advice so far... im kinda happy that u all think its cool to do!

yeah ill start firing hints to my sister when im talkin to her about her sis in law... just to get a suss on the situation. I know for a fact she's available anyway

all the same, as one of you said above....i dont wanna be like "sis, can i get her number off you?" - dont wanna be too pushy etc... after all....theres probably a HUGE chance that she wouldnt touch me with yours!

ill keep ye posted on developments as they happen...

once again....thanks guys!!!

seraphimvc

Henrythe5th wrote: »

I keep thinking about how awkward it would be to be meeting each other at family occasions in the future, if we ever got together and it didnt work!!!

OP,this is could be the only thing bothers you.i have this case in my family,my uncle(father's brother) and my aunt(mother's sis)...turned out not that well obviously...then we need to be careful to say anything in front of each of them(like that was a pain about my aunt 's wedding)...nothing really bad tho,just we have to be careful sometimes:) other than that,go for it!

good luck ,OP *and careful*

davyjose

My two uncles (brothers) are married to sisters - never seemed weird to anyone in my family!

LegacyUser

Go for it...my uncle was married to a woman who's brother was married to my uncle's sister...if you can follow that

We all thought it was quite sweet when we heard that was the case....always Uncle X and Auntie X to us as kids.

Make sure you don't fcuk her around though...could cos a lot of bad feeling for a lonnnng time

Good luck!

Victor

I think it was my great, great, grandfather was widowed young and married the deceased's sister or cousin, not sure. Apparently it freaks out my uncle.

Go enjoy yourself, but don't mess her about.