ex issue

LegacyUser

Last year I was involved with a guy who basically took me for granted and didnt spend much time on me, assumed I'd always just be there, etc. I eventually woke up and moved on earlier this year and Im now with a really great guy. However my ex seems to hold my moving on against me and is never really nice whenever we happen to be in contact. I wish we could deal with this maturely like adults (we're both early/mid 20's), but I dont get why he seems to hold this against me, I have done nothing wrong. Im not sure if Im looking for advice, just needed a place to rant.

Storm_rages

don't have much advice other then to say don't worry about your ex!
he sounds like a dick! just be happy with your new guy! You can't make other people be mature and your ex is not!
Its not your fault and its not anything you need to worry about!

Miss Fluff

girlygirl1233 wrote: »

However my ex seems to hold my moving on against me and is never really nice whenever we happen to be in contact.

Why are you in contact then?

ian_m

Make the least amount of contact possible with your x and think about your future.;)

Oryx

girlygirl1233 wrote: »

I wish we could deal with this maturely like adults (we're both early/mid 20's), but I dont get why he seems to hold this against me,

You hurt him, thats all. It may not be mature, but its how lots of people react when they are dumped.
Just continue being nice, and rise above it even if he cant. Hes an ex anyway and what he does shouldnt be causing you any grief.

the_syco

girlygirl1233 wrote: »

I eventually woke up and moved on earlier this year and Im now with a really great guy. However my ex seems to hold my moving on against me and is never really nice whenever we happen to be in contact.

So... ket me get this straight: he was a prat when you knew him, and since you've split with him, he's still a prat? Try laughing at his pratness.

BeardyGit

He's a guy. You broke up with him. Don't expect him to be really nice and mature about this....

Now, leave him alone.

Wibbs

Agree with the others here. Stop contacting him, he clearly doesn't want to be "friends" so let him go. End of problem.

uoluol

He's an ex for a very good reason. If you don't have to be in regular contact with him then avoid him, or simply just don't let him get to you. Why should his pratty attitude bother you? If you really have moved on - it wouldn't.

_Kaiser_

Agree with the majority. The issue is more with the OP wanting to still be "friends" with her ex. Although it seems to be a common theme with women, most guys don't want to know after a relationship breaks down - especially if he was the one dumped.

OP: focus on your relationship with your new guy, and leave your ex alone.

BeardyGit

Kaiser2000 wrote: »

Agree with the majority. The issue is more with the OP wanting to still be "friends" with her ex. Although it seems to be a common theme with women, most guys don't want to know after a relationship breaks down - especially if he was the one dumped.....

It's an easy way to deal with feeling guilty for causing a bit of hurt. It's also incredibly selfish.

Pigman II

Oh go away will you! Wake up and realise you can't dump a person and then expect them to still be nice to you.

Wibbs

Gil_Dub wrote: »

It's an easy way to deal with feeling guilty for causing a bit of hurt. It's also incredibly selfish.

QFT and very common.

his-lil-lady

he made the mistake of taking you for granted, so he should not be holding anything against you.

it was his mistake, and he has to learn from it. if he cannot be mature about it, then it is his problem, not yours.

keep going with your new life...and dont look back.