girl i know to see on an online dating site

McSween

thing is i've snogged her friend drunkenly, nothing happened despite me staying the night. it was a uni club quiz night

now we are all in the same uni club, i've never met the girl i like but i recognise her from bebo photos etc. i dont know how friendly they actually are, they are on same course and in same club but she is 26 and the others are 19/20.

im thinking, sod them, ill just ask her but the one i snogged seems to be a bit thick with me cos i asked her about one of the other's nicknames?

btw, this girl came up in a "match" result

ShawnRaven

... of course, you run the risk of the fact that someone could have put her up there as a joke too.

VR!

McSween

i only joined it a few hours ago, but I see no reason why she would be up there as a windup to be honest

McSween

any opinions?

Lux23

I wouldn't contact her she may be very embarrassed.

moco

I don't think I understand the problem.

You snogged a girl one night

You see her friend who you like on a dating website

Am I right so far?

humanji

Talk to her in the club. You've bugger all to lose. But if you can't get up the courage to do that then send her a message on the site. Probably best not to mention you know her, since that could possibly really embarrass her. Also, if she ignores you or tells you she's not interested then you won't feel like a spare next time you see her.

McSween

you are right, i've never met her in person but she is involved with the same club as the girl i've snogged.

3rd last post, i don't see that she'd be embarrassed, she has 3 pics up and I have one up, it isn't an anonymous "advert" of ourselves.

but the thing i am wondering is, would it be too weird cos we know each other's aquaintances? might be an advantage also that she is 26 and i am 30, the rest are 20 max. as i said, we were matched on the site via interests and location, ideal first date etc.

moco

If she's on your match list, you'd be on hers so maybe leave it a wee while to see if she messages you?

McSween

fair enough, thanks for your replies. the other thing to consider is that the exams in the university will be on until just before xmas so she may not be interested in anything before then

MayMay

Sure just say hi, what have you got to lose?

21stone

if you just snogged her and nothing since then thats normal and obviously not that keen on each other since you didnt do it again or date her

so none of her business if your interested in her friend , having said that if your interested in the girl you snogged why not try see her ??

McSween

no interest at all in the one i kissed, i think she only did it to get her numbers up, they had a sheet of paper up in their kitchen with their conquests so far.

the girl on the dating site wasn't out that night and i have never seen her at the club get togethers or anything.

im just wondering if contact is made, (i added her as a favourite) should I tell her I recognise her from the club's bebo page or what? i'm sure she knows what the young ones get up to on their night's out in college aswell.

humanji

Definietely not!!!

Victor

If you can, meet her at the club.

If you don't, just drop her a line and don't say anything about the club.

McSween

i played dumb, i said i see you're doing such and such a course, are you in the equestrian club?

now it has been read by her, but not deleted (it gives that detail too). i sent somebody else a message and she didnt even read it. yet still deleted it.

i'm not having huge success on there. lots of people looking at my profile but that is only cos they have seen i looked at their's.