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Friend has lost her mother

  • 02-12-2007 4:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    A very close friend of mine has just lost her mother. They were very close and she is obviously devasted. Unfortunately I am away and can't be with her and when I have talked to her on the phone, I never know what to say. I was wondering does anyone know of a poem, song or something I could give her to let her know I'm there for her but maybe would help her through this difficult time?


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  • #2
    coolmoose
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    http://www.poeticexpressions.co.uk/

    this site should have somehting that you might find appropriate to your particular friend


  • #3
    Shellie13
    Closed Accounts Posts: 346 ✭✭Shellie13


    an odd text about any thing can really let someone know you care...don't hae to directly address the issue just knowing you're hinkin about her can provide enormus support!


  • #4
    Overheal
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    Oh wow.

    Funny you should post this today of all days. It was this Sunday 1 year ago when my Stepmom died.

    Rather than get into it though (may do tomorrow - the actual calendar anniversaire) I will say that when it happened and I needed to attend all the funeral arrangements (especially the 24 hour, open casket Wake... you Irish people are curious, sometimes!) all I really wanted was to know my friends knew I was in a bad way: just having them there for what turned out to be just a lonely hour in my corner of the house where we scant talked about anything was comfort enough.

    I don't know the circumstances of your friend's mom's death but mine was an unusal and tragic occurence: sometimes, there isn't a poem or hallmark card out there that is really going to cover it.

    Just let her know your thoughts are with her. You're not expected to say anything. In fact I was more comforted by the fact that I wasn't the only one who didn't have a fcuking clue as to what to say - so in that regard the silence was Golden.


  • #5
    l3LoWnA
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 890 ✭✭✭l3LoWnA


    want2comfort wrote: »
    A very close friend of mine has just lost her mother. They were very close and she is obviously devasted. Unfortunately I am away and can't be with her and when I have talked to her on the phone, I never know what to say. I was wondering does anyone know of a poem, song or something I could give her to let her know I'm there for her but maybe would help her through this difficult time?

    Personally, and you might find this hard, but I would appreciate all the more if you just sent a plain sympathy card but penned a few sentences (from the heart) yourself. Not a rhyme or verse, but just how much your thoughts are with her and you wish you could do anything to comfort her.....etc.....I don't know really, but that's what I would do. It's a horrible helpless feeling when you're so far away from a friend when a loved-one dies so I know what you're going through. A card with a short letter written from yourself would be nice though....


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