best friends pregnant

bolliwoodi

my best friends just found out she pregnant with her bf of 2 years.The slime has dumped her and said the baby is not his and wants nothing to do with her

When the baby is born can she take him to court over maitenance even if he refuses to take a DNA test can the judge force him to

Cathmandooo

bolliwoodi wrote: »

my best friends just found out she pregnant with her bf of 2 years.The slime has dumped her and said the baby is not his and wants nothing to do with her

When the baby is born can she take him to court over maitenance even if he refuses to take a DNA test can the judge force him to

Yes she can...hopefully she can settle things before it comes to that, plus she shud concentrate on having a healthy baby rather than jumping to court and maintenance issues imo.

Shame on him tho

Overheal

why get his consent }:) I say find some DNA sample of him in the house - a strand of hair or something - and have that sampled for future reference.

Though Im not sure he can be forced...

bolliwoodi

i mean if he refuses to take a test can the judge say"u either take it or ill fine u" or something like that

As we both know he will run away in order not to be linked to the child, hes a complete ****

Cathmandooo

bolliwoodi wrote: »

i mean if he refuses to take a test can the judge say"u either take it or ill fine u" or something like that

As we both know he will run away in order not to be linked to the child, hes a complete ****

Well I know a friend of my sisters is in family court at the moment and he wants nothing to do with the child but has attended. I dont think DNA came into it. Theres a legal advice forum here maybe you can get a more definite answer there. I cant see a judge saying tough luck to her in that situation.

Plus I dont think stolen DNA would work, might prove that DNA belongs to the father but how can you prove that it's this particular man's DNA?

Spud83

It will be a court ordered DNA test. By refusing to take it I'm sure he would fined or even imprisoned. However that’s more a question for the legal people. Can I make another suggestion and maybe see if the mother can talk to the fathers family. They may be able to talk him and make him take responsibility. They might also like to know they have a grandchild, nephew, or niece on the way as he may not have informed them.

Vegeta

I think the judge can force a paternity test alright, one for the legal eagles i suppose

pretty low thing to do

Did your friend ever cheat on him, maybe he doesn't trust her and genuinely thinks its not his?

Marksie

This is not a legal forum bolliwoodi and she should approach a solicitor.

I sympathise with hre position though.

biko

"When a mother requests a DNA test in court it tends to be granted, whereas if a father requests a test it is less likely to be ordered by the court"

More info, don't know how valid this is.
http://medmediacampaign.com/?id=2496&level=4&var=print

Mr. Incognito

that's simply unbelieveable. A one night stand maybe but your bf of two years? Who does he think he's fooling? It's prob just shock.

padser

In fairness to him its possible we don't have the full story. If he says it's not his then maybe he knows something Bolliwoodi doesn't - seeing as she is not an immediate party to this.

In fact if he wasn't the father - it might also explain him breaking up with her.

AARRRGH

padser wrote: »

In fairness to him its possible we don't have the full story. If he says it's not his then maybe he knows something Bolliwoodi doesn't - seeing as she is not an immediate party to this.

In fact if he wasn't the father - it might also explain him breaking up with her.

I agree with this. Women cheat too.

Marksie

None of which answers the OP question.
We have no evidence of cheating.
Deal with the question asked on dont grag it off topic please

JuliusCaesar

There's a brilliant organisation called the Federation of Services for Unmarried Parents which goes by an Irish name which will provide reliable information on all your questions. They can send out a booklet to you or maybe have it on their website. Cherish also have a lot of useful info.

Nevyn

http://www.treoir.ie/
http://www.solo.ie/
http://www.gingerbread.ie/

http://www.citizensinformation.ie/categories/birth-family-relationships/before-your-baby-is-born
http://www.citizensinformation.ie/categories/birth-family-relationships/unmarried-couples



and there is the parenting forum here as well.

Carrigart Exile

Overheal wrote: »

why get his consent }:) I say find some DNA sample of him in the house - a strand of hair or something - and have that sampled for future reference.

Though Im not sure he can be forced...

That's illegal in many countries OH. OP, two things. Firstly yoiur friends boyfriend is probably scared witless but could possibly face up to reality and willingly become the babies dad. Secondly, your friend does not need her pals egging her on to make the relationship between her and 'ex' more confrontational, so its important you keep a cool head for her.

SarahSassy

Carrigart Exile wrote: »

Firstly yoiur friends boyfriend is probably scared witless but could possibly face up to reality and willingly become the babies dad.

Im sure she is scared witless too but she doesnt have the same option to run away / not become a parent.... There is no excuse for his behaviour....

OP, is there any reason he would say (other than being an asshole) that the baby is not his?? I suppose if she is willing to go down the DNA route then she must be very sure.

As Carrigart Exile says I would not be pushing her down the confrontational or even legal route at this stage... Let her get her head around being pregnant and losing her bf of 2 years first. Her health is priority now and going legal would only bring more stress on herself and the baby....

If he is still "scared" in 9 months time after the the baby arrives then I would throw the book at him.

SetantaL, whether it was one night or 700 nights, it makes no difference. You do the crime and you pay the time.... If he was being careful too then most likely THEY would not be pregnant.

Have noticed in a few posts recently that there seems to be justification for fellas not taking responsibility for contraception 'because condoms are nasty' and not nice to use... This is total BS. Condoms may be not nice but trust me its not too nice shoving hormones down your gob on a daily basis either.

SS

PS make sure she keeps details of her costs during the pregnancy - he should be entitled to pay half of her expenses should they end up in court.

maidhc

Vegeta wrote: »

I think the judge can force a paternity test alright, one for the legal eagles i suppose

No need to force a paterntiy test, if he does not consent to one it will be assumed he is the father and an order for maintenance will most likely be made against him. What he doing is neither unusual nor particularly original. It is in his interest to get a DNA test done.