Confused

LegacyUser

Meet a guy a few years ago on a work course; we hit it off really well although nothing happened between us. We’ve kept in contact on and off over the past few years. Last year we arranged to meet, we don’t live in the same county so we decided to go away for the weekend, all was booked and ready to go, the day before he cancelled, said he wasn’t feeling well and then I didn’t hear from him again for about 2/3 months at which time I was seeing someone so didn’t want to start anything again with him.

That is over a year ago and the relationship I had with the other guy is also well over. I’ve never forgotten the guy I met so decided to contact him again the other day, he did reply and said that he would contact me again…..so far nothing, patience is not a virtue that I posses and I hate being ignored, I would rather someone be honest even if it means hearing what I don’t want, at least then I would know.

It’s not always me who makes contact first and it is definitely not my imagination that he was interested.

Just wondering if people think that him cancelling last year (with in my opinion a weak excuse) and the lack of contact this time means that he has changed his mind and is no longer interested? I do know that it is highly possible that he now has girlfriend and that’s fine if he does I just don’t understand why people can’t be honest and up front, it would make life so much easier.

Beruthiel

Unreg2007 wrote: »

Just wondering if people think that him cancelling last year (with in my opinion a weak excuse) and the lack of contact this time means that he has changed his mind and is no longer interested?

I would think so. If at this point, he was really interested, he'd have done something about it.
Forget about him and get on with your own life.

K_P

I agree with Beruthiel. For whatever reason he's not interested and rather than have a slightly awkward talk with you about it, he'd rather leave you hanging.

Move on and forget about him.

Cathmandooo

Also agreed that you should move on and forget him. Although I'll throw it in that he might have really wanted to go away with you but maybe he was too nervous in the end, he might have built you up in his head too much and totally chickened out, I've seen it happen before! Is he very shy?

Even so, move on as quick as you can!

LegacyUser

Ye I kinda agree that I should just forget about him.

As for him being shy, from what I know of him no he's not shy but then again he could be very different in person, if it was shyness, I would have been fine with it, it was how he dealt with the situation that annoyed me. He sent me a text saying he didn't think he could make it wasn't feeling well and that was the end of the communication from him for about 2/3 months. No apology, nothing!

Cathmandooo

Unreg2007 wrote: »

Ye I kinda agree that I should just forget about him.

As for him being shy, from what I know of him no he's not shy but then again he could be very different in person, if it was shyness, I would have been fine with it, it was how he dealt with the situation that annoyed me. He sent me a text saying he didn't think he could make it wasn't feeling well and that was the end of the communication from him for about 2/3 months. No apology, nothing!

Well then I think you know what to do. He doesnt sound like someone you want to be with. Sometimes you just need an outside perspective and that's what we're here for!