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Dating 2 women

  • 29-11-2007 6:50pm
    #1
    summerwine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭


    Hi there!

    I have been single for about 2 years and happy being so. Until I meet the right person! I recently met someone, the spark is there and I really like her company but the only problem is that we have only met up twice in the last 2 months (maybe even three!) and I am doing all the contacting!

    I recently met another woman, she is much more willing to meet up and does the contacting but there is less of a spark. (I’m def not a shallow person and that doesn’t bother me at all).

    The problem is that I hate dating two women at once. Its not only dishonest to myself but to the other women. However, if I keep holding out in the hope for the woman that I really, really like. I’m afraid I will lose both of them.

    Any advise for me?


Comments

  • #2
    decies
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,531 ✭✭✭decies


    None of those situations sound ideal to me.
    What age bracket are you in by the way?


  • #3
    summerwine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭summerwine


    I'm 28. Buy the way I haven't dated the second girl (woman i'm less attracted to) although I would if I wasn't holding out for girl no.1


  • #4
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    It's not fair on G2 if you are stringing her along waiting for G1.
    You should ask G1 pronto where your relationship is going and end it with G2 before we see her here in PI crying her eyes out...


  • #5
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,253 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Our American brethren seem to be able to do this all the time. Seems to work for them. I dunno, I would find it weird. I think I would probably take it easy with both. The less available woman I would let her do all the contacting for a while. If she doesn't, you know where you stand. The nicer girl I would be much more careful with. If she's getting attached that's bad if you can't or don't want to reciprocate. Of course you may find more of the spark for the other woman if ms unavailable disappears. You never know. Tread carefully.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #6
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    summerwine wrote: »
    I'm 28. Buy the way I haven't dated the second girl (woman i'm less attracted to) although I would if I wasn't holding out for girl no.1
    I'm sorry to say, but from the sounds of it, you're not dating anyone at the minute.


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  • #7
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    Ok - my tuppenceworth......

    #1 - Dont hold out for girl number 1. I am often quite backward when coming forward when it comes to dating but I would not expect a guy I wanted to see again to do all the running.. She probably is taking it slow and just seeing how things pan out but is not willing to invest any time / effort. Maybe there is a big spark on your side only. !?!?!?!??

    #2 - If she asks you out why not give it a go for an evening? You dont owe #1 anything so you are free to go out and see how it goes with #2. If you dont want to see her again then tell her...

    TBH, # 1 sounds like a bit of hard work... Are you sure the spark isnt only there cos she is hard to catch???


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