:/ he broke up with me

trinitrotoluene

apparently i am too "damaged"

o ty ty you're a real ****ing pal

i feel like lopping off heads am i just crazy or something seriously i honestly thought i could trust him just goes to show that you should never trust anyone ever and i should take up this perfect opportunity to become a lesbian or something

dodgyme

trinitrotoluene wrote: »

apparently i am too "damaged"

o ty ty you're a real ****ing pal

i feel like lopping off heads am i just crazy or something seriously i honestly thought i could trust him just goes to show that you should never trust anyone ever and i should take up this perfect opportunity to become a lesbian or something

you might need to give us a bit more info here.

Oryx

Ranting is often good for you, gets it off your chest.

Just so you know, someone elses opinion of you is just that. Their opinion. Not necessarily fact. I cant tell much from your post, but he could have called you damaged as a get out clause, he could just as easily have said 'I need space'. All it means is you werent going to work out, and hes a coward to blame you completely.

On the lesbian thing, Im sure youre just as likely to get your heart broken. Its life, and it sucks.

All I can recommend is eating sugary foods and tearing up his photos one by one.

cowzerp

trinitrotoluene wrote: »

o ty ty you're a real ****ing pal
i feel like lopping off heads am i just crazy or something

Crazy? judging by this you may just be. more info needed..

trinitrotoluene

well we'd been going out for approximately two years and i've always had a lot of issues with the more intimate parts of relationships due to **** in my past and he's been getting increasingly more agitated with me since i could basically not even kiss him without having like a total panic attack or anxiety attack and he never really knew why but it didn't really seem to bother him too much (well i knew it bothered him and we've talked about it a fair bit although i've never said why) and i recently decided to tell him for some un-known reason (maybe i'm just stupid idk) and it's like maybe 2 days after i told him (that day he basically just went "oh, i gotta leave, bye") he broke up with me and i get that totally can be a reason why--especially since most men are basically obsessed with sex and so on and so forth, but seriously. sensitive much? idk maybe i'm just over-reacting or something but do you think he could've came up with a ****ing better excuse, because i'm all for a little white lie if it means me not being totally ****ing ASHAMED and feeling like i'm 6 years old again. ughhh this is pissing me the ****kk offf.

trinitrotoluene

btw a lot more was said than just "you're damaged" but i'm trying to do him a favour by not making him seem like a total ****in dick

trinitrotoluene

"Wise men speak because they have something to say, fools because they have to say something."

btw that is one of my fav quotes plato ftw

Jimmy Bottlehead

trinitrotoluene wrote: »

well we'd been going out for approximately two years and i've always had a lot of issues with the more intimate parts of relationships due to **** in my past and he's been getting increasingly more agitated with me since i could basically not even kiss him without having like a total panic attack or anxiety attack and he never really knew why but it didn't really seem to bother him too much (well i knew it bothered him and we've talked about it a fair bit although i've never said why) and i recently decided to tell him for some un-known reason (maybe i'm just stupid idk) and it's like maybe 2 days after i told him (that day he basically just went "oh, i gotta leave, bye") he broke up with me and i get that totally can be a reason why--especially since most men are basically obsessed with sex and so on and so forth, but seriously. sensitive much? idk maybe i'm just over-reacting or something but do you think he could've came up with a ****ing better excuse, because i'm all for a little white lie if it means me not being totally ****ing ASHAMED and feeling like i'm 6 years old again. ughhh this is pissing me the ****kk offf.

Guys can get freaked out by stuff - I know it's not nice for you, but it was probably a shock to the system for him. Give him a few more days, and then text him and see if you wanna get back together.

It might be best to see someone about your past - like, in fairness he was a very patient chap if he couldn't even kiss you easily for two years. Not that it's your fault or anything - but it's in your own interests to get better.

It'll work out, just stay strong and focus on geting better.

cowzerp

Good riddance-i'd say you got a lucky escape with this 1.. he is an arsse.

trinitrotoluene

am i bein unreasonable

trinitrotoluene

idk i totally get what you're saying though b/c seriously why do you think i never told him right haha it just really floored me that he could be so freaking idk almost mean about it i guess i mean he could've said something like "oh, well i'm sorry i don't think i should be the best person you should be seeing right now b/c i don't really know how to handle it" but nnnnnnooooooo he just made himself out to be an idiot and it just upset me ;-;

cowzerp

Listen! your not meant to keep posting just for the sake of it, put all your points in 1 post! i think you may have just scared him off, your coming across a little out there.

trinitrotoluene

oh, i'm sorry

Jimmy Bottlehead

I know, but men are oftentimes idiots (including myself). If he thinks he can deal with it, then give out to him for what he did, give him a hug and work on being happy both as a couple and also as an individual.
If he honestly doesn't think he can, then it's his loss. You'll get a guy who truly loves you, and will accept whatever happened.

Santa Claus

cowzerp wrote: »

Good riddance-i'd say you got a lucky escape with this 1.. he is an arsse.

I think that's a bit harsh on the guy. If the OP couldn't even kiss him without having a panic attack then I'd say he was more than patient being with her for 2 years.
Sounds to me like the OP needs to see a counsellor with a view to talking about/getting over the issues from her past

LegacyUser

I took the liberty of reading your public profile and I would applaud the guy for making the brave but no doubt correct decision. Maybe the way he said it was insensitive but that doesn't make his decision any less correct.

Wibbs

Santa Claus wrote: »

I think that's a bit harsh on the guy. If the OP couldn't even kiss him without having a panic attack then I'd say he was more than patient being with her for 2 years.
Sounds to me like the OP needs to see a counsellor with a view to talking about/getting over the issues from her past

Agreed. 2 months and I would say he was insensitive, but two years? Not so much. There was a serious lack of communication on your part as to why even kissing caused a panic attack. It's not the kissing and other stuf that's the problem, it's the lack of engagement with him as to the reason why. Basically you left it too late. I'd say he was very patient. I'd also agree that seeing a mental health professional over this is a very good plan, as this will get worse before it gets better and it's not going to get better on it's own.

Nevyn

I don't think it is that surpising that a person didn't want to date a 16 year old high school drop out. Forget about him and work on you and your own life and what you are going to do with it, including seeing a counselor.

Santa Claus

Thaedydal wrote: »

I don't think it is that surpising that a person didn't want to date a 16 year old high school drop out.

That's abit harsh Thaedydal, I mean some of the most sucessfull people out there didn't finish high school/secondary school.

I wouldn't see level of education swaying my decision on whether to go out with someone or not !

LegacyUser

I don't think it is that surpising that a person didn't want to date a 16 year old high school drop out. Forget about him and work on you and your own life and what you are going to do with it, including seeing a counselor.

Harsh, but fair. I tried to slightly sugar-coat my first response but this makes the point succinctly.

Nevyn

Santa Claus in those cases they went and work and/or got other qualifcations and didn't
sit on thier ass at home.

Date of Birth:
August 7, 1991
Age:
16
History:
trinitrotoluene is what the acronym TNT stands for, it is the main component of dynomite. also a poison
Real Name:
bonnie king
Biography:
i am a folk musician, and piercing addict who just happens to be currently not in school right now. healthy. i hope to go back in a few years when i'm all sorted out and go for a degree in social work.
Location:
halifax, nova scotia
Interests:
body modification, folk music, medicine, lecturing, sleeping
Occupation:
is sitting at home on my ass considered a job?

spinandscribble

two years? you were only 16 so i dont think its unreasonable that he wasnt getting sex but you couldnt even kiss him? im surprised you guys didnt break up earlier.

somethings wrong here however. if he was willing to stick around for two years and it clearly wasnt just a sexual thing then i've have to wonder what his motives for being with you were. if he loved you or cared about you he would be trying to help you now you've admitted your problems, not running away.

Santa Claus

spinandscribble wrote: »

if he loved you or cared about you he would be trying to help you now you've admitted your problems, not running away.

Thing is, you can only help those who WANT to help themselves !

Overheal

trinitrotoluene wrote: »

you should never trust anyone ever and i should take up this perfect opportunity to become a lesbian or something

OK my friend wishes to say:

Chiaki wrote:

"I know that fcuking feeling... I'll be lesbian with you. Its all good. PM me "

:rolleyes: PS I think that was a genuine offer.

Doodee

trinitrotoluene wrote: »

well we'd been going out for approximately two years and i've always had a lot of issues with the more intimate parts of relationships due to **** in my past and he's been getting increasingly more agitated with me since i could basically not even kiss him without having like a total panic attack or anxiety attack and he never really knew why but it didn't really seem to bother him too much (well i knew it bothered him and we've talked about it a fair bit although i've never said why) and i recently decided to tell him for some un-known reason (maybe i'm just stupid idk) and it's like maybe 2 days after i told him (that day he basically just went "oh, i gotta leave, bye") he broke up with me and i get that totally can be a reason why--especially since most men are basically obsessed with sex and so on and so forth, but seriously. sensitive much? idk maybe i'm just over-reacting or something but do you think he could've came up with a ****ing better excuse, because i'm all for a little white lie if it means me not being totally ****ing ASHAMED and feeling like i'm 6 years old again. ughhh this is pissing me the ****kk offf.

maybe he broke up with you cause you *ARE* unable to use a full stop.

JuliusCaesar

Doodee wrote: »

maybe he broke up with you cause your unable to use a full stop.

in that case, or spell........... your = ownership; you're = you are

Doodee

good catch

Carrigart Exile

They got together when they were 14, they are now 16, I am sure they will both have loads more relationships before they settle down. OP like several on the board have said, seek counselling to help you out of where you are now and until you are ready, I would avoid intimate relationships and instead concentrate on having a laugh.