What the ****s she playing at?

LegacyUser

This will be long. My older sister is 28 has 2 beautiful girls and a fiancé of 9 years. He is in the army and travels a lot so I stay with her a lot. About a year ago she met this complete freak online from Scotland who she would tell me about. This guy was mad about her and emailed her all the time and waited for her to come on msn .He would tell her he loved her and she would show me his emails and laugh about him saying he was a weirdo etc. He got her phone number too and she said she must have given it to him when she was drunk.

So she bought a house 2 months ago and moved in and got rid of her internet. She told me she didn’t talk to him anymore but that he kept texting her. I never brought him up she always did.

So last night I was minding her girls when she got a text on her phone-She called down the stairs and said “Read it out 2 me” so I did (it was just her fiancé checking on the kids) But in the inbox I saw messages from that guy too –there was A LOT of them and they were all long ones. Now I shouldn’t have preyed but in these messages he was saying”When will you tell him the truth etc”? I went into her sent messages and what she was sending him was complete lies –Telling him she was pregnant and can’t leave her fiancé cos he could get people to will kill her and that the whole families mad at her already and if she left would lose everything. Said her little ones are in hospital with meningitis and she’s enough on her mind.

I’m so pissed at her, its bull she’s not pregnant cos she had her womb removed- none of the family are fighting with her and her fiancé is the nicest guy ever and wouldn’t hire someone to kill her. And her kids are NOT in hospital they are perfectly healthy.

I don’t know what to do here-I just told her I had to be somewhere and walked out I am just so disgusted I have lost so mush respect for her

Petey2006

Maybe she's telling him extreme things to get him to back off and leave her alone. It sure isn't the ideal way of doing it, but it could be that she doesn't want to just tell him to F off. Do her husband and her get on all right? There's no marriage troubles are there? If there were, then I think there'd be more cause for concern.

How Strange

It's a case of mind your own business really.

Your sister is an adult, she can make choices about what she wants to do and it is none of your business.

You were snooping and you saw something you shouldn't have.

You look at your sisters life and see it all as being perfect but that's you making assumptions. How do you know what her life is like on a day to day basis? Maybe she is bored? Who knows.

You may think what she is doing is crazy but I don't think you have any right to judge her, be disgusted or lose respect for her. You are being a little bit sanctamonious and judgemental.

If you really want to know what is going on ask her. She seems to tell you alot but when you ask her listen to what she says.

Im A Hotmail

Probably just bull****ting to get him off her back..

Saying that, even the fact that she's replying sounds like she's enjoying the attention and she must be giving your man some reason to think she's going to leave her boyfriend..

I doubt this will go anywhere, i wouldn't be worried. Tell her to cop the **** on before her boyfriend gets back and reads something he shouldn't.

dame

She's probably bored and the attention from this guy causes a bit of excitment for her. She'd want to be very careful though.

Next time she brings up this Scottish guy tell her she needs to completely cut off having anything to do with him before he turns up at her door angry at being strung along, or her fiancé finds out and dumps her.

If the only way he has of contacting her now is her mobile phone number then she could easily just get on to her service provider and get him blocked. Better still, she could change her number.

*Lees*

You said her husband is in the army so he's away a lot!! She was probably bored and lonely and got chatting to this guy online and at first probably enjoyed the attention he was giving her!!
She has probably now realised that it's no longer fun and games and she has taken it a bit far and needs to tell him extreme stories to get him to leave her alone because as someone else said she doesn't want to tell him to F off!
I wouldn't be so quick to pass judgment as you don't know exactly what's going on!! Tell her you saw the messages and ask her why she is texting him back!! I know people say that you shouldn't interfere with people's relationships and mind your own business! I know if it was my sister though I would ask her about it and we are close enough for her not to be annoyed or feel as if I was interfering! You seem close to your sister too I wouldn't see anything wrong with saying it to her, especially since she has told you about him before!!

the_syco

Im A Hotmail wrote: »

Probably just bull****ting to get him off her back..

Agreed. Sounds like it's no longer two way contact.