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LegacyUser

People, I broke up with my girlfriend of just over 2 years last week. It was not so much a bad break up , we discussed things over the phone at great length but we have decided to meet in person today to discuss things face to face.

She has told all her friends,family we have split and it was my decision so she has been "dumped" as she keeps telling me.

The past 2 days especially i have been enevitably missing her , I knew it would be hard but not this hard. I am thinking now that I have made a rash decision breaking up.

I want to tell her this and to be honest all the pro's outweigh the cons in our relationship. I really dont know what to do. if i tell her its over that will be the final nail in the coffin but if we get back what is worrying me most is the reception i get from her family and friends as they were never my biggest fan to be honest.

I am considering telling her I dont want to break up now but need to have more space over the next while and also that there are a lot of things we need to work on. Things really do have to change , I know i cannot walk back into the relationship I have just come out of but I dont think I have been particularily fair to her by breaking up so quickly and not giving her the chance to do anytyhing about it.

As I said I am very worried about her friends and family it will be extremely embarrassing

Please urgent advice is needed so badly!

Cathmandooo

Is everyone in Ireland breaking up at the moment???

You broke up for a reason, you had your reasons. See how you are apart for a while before trying to mend anything. Cut all contact with her for a while.

Christmas is a hard time to be single and a break up can be pretty life altering if you have been spending lots of time with your partner. Give yourself a few weeks space and then start rethinking it. If she's with someone else by then then all I can say is it wasnt meant to be.

Plus on a side note you'll be hugely in the bad books of her friends & family for messing her around by dumping her and then taking her back.

Whats done is done.

auggie2k

A list of the pro's and con's would be useful - you didn't really explain your reasons for the break up in full.

TheDriver

Cathooo wrote: »

Is everyone in Ireland breaking up at the moment???

You broke up for a reason, you had your reasons. See how you are apart for a while before trying to mend anything. Cut all contact with her for a while.

Christmas is a hard time to be single and a break up can be pretty life altering if you have been spending lots of time with your partner. Give yourself a few weeks space and then start rethinking it. If she's with someone else by then then all I can say is it wasnt meant to be.

Plus on a side note you'll be hugely in the bad books of her friends & family for messing her around by dumping her and then taking her back.

Whats done is done.

Christmas can be a good time to be single also as theres bound to be lots of friends and family around to go out with and have party etc, much better than facing into a bleak October single I would think.
OP, sorry to hear aboutyourbreak up, hope it all goes ok for you.

Cathmandooo

TheDriver wrote: »

Christmas can be a good time to be single also as theres bound to be lots of friends and family around to go out with and have party etc, much better than facing into a bleak October single I would think.
OP, sorry to hear aboutyourbreak up, hope it all goes ok for you.

Sorry I should have said Christmas 'can be' a hard time to be single. As a single person who does have great fun with family and friends throughout xmas I cant help but still feel lonely.

I hope I didnt come across as too harsh, I know how hard it is to break up but I dont think you came on here to be mollycoddled.

Rb

You're looking at things through rose tinted glasses. You had legit reasons for breaking up with her, stick to them and cut contact with her.

axer

Plus it is not really fair on her if you then say - "actually I didnt mean to break up with you" then 2 months down the line you say "actually I did, sorry". Do not change your mind unless you are 100000000% sure. Remember just because it aint easy now doesn't mean you didnt want to break up.

emmmmmmmm.... wrote:

I know i cannot walk back into the relationship I have just come out of but I dont think I have been particularily fair to her by breaking up so quickly and not giving her the chance to do anytyhing about it.

Do anything about what? I think if there wasn't a major problem in the relationship then you would not have broken up with her.

emmmmmmmm.... wrote:

As I said I am very worried about her friends and family it will be extremely embarrassing

It happens everyday. Just look at the amount of threads in this forum about breaking there is every week. That is life.

muboop1

Cathooo wrote: »

Is everyone in Ireland breaking up at the moment???

yes... its crap...