How long would you wait?

LegacyUser

This has probably been posted before so forgive me if I'm repeating but just a curious question -

How long would you wait before you slept with your other half?

I'm 17, so's he .. with him 3/4 months and just wondering is it too soon? I feel I'm ready but is that enough?

l3LoWnA

As long as you genuinely feel that is what you both want and you've both discussed contraception methods and and happy to proceed I don't see any need in putting a time-frame on it.

As long as you're sure plough ahead!!

But the fact that you even asked that question makes me wonder if you are indeed ready? Are you? Have you doubts? If so, relax and leave it a while, there's no rush and dont feel under any pressure either.

uprooted shane

have to agree with the above! me and my girlfriend went out before, but broke up, then the 3rd time we went out were were going to have sex together for the first time, but decided that it wasnt the right time, then when the time was right for both of us, it was amazing. just talk about it to your other half and just see what the story is, get everything out in the open, and when year both fully ready you will love it!

DRakE

17 is the perfect age.. and if its up the arse theres no risk of babydom

El_mariachi

DRakE wrote: »

17 is the perfect age.. and if its up the arse theres no risk of babydom

A responsible, adult answer there. Well done, your parents must be so proud of you.


Anyway Op, the best time to do it is when your ready, If he is pressuring ya for sex, don't give him any :P

Truth be told, Some people sleep with a person on the first night some wait over a year, just wait till your both ready. Think it through, is this what you really want, IS He a person you want to share this with.

Sex to some people is nothing more than an act of pleasure , to some its about love, Decide what it is to you and think it through. Figure out if he is only after the sex or he really likes/loves you.

after all that if your comfortable go for it, if not don't.

Marksie

DRakE wrote: »

17 is the perfect age.. and if its up the arse theres no risk of babydom

One more comment like that in any PI threads DRaKe and I will ban you.

Reku

As the others have said, the right time is when you BOTH feel 100% comfortable with the idea and both want it. If it's your first time it will probably be awkward, possibly uncomfortable and with much fumbling about and such but getting to share that is half the experience. As such feeling that you will be comfortable around him regardless of how you may both embaress yourselves is something I'd say you should consider, otherwise you may end up changing your mind half way through and regreting the whole thing.
Sex was never intended to be beautiful in it's perfection, it's messy, bits everywhere, all you physical flaws and inadequacies (real and imagined) on show, there can be some shameful noises, etc..., the beauty of sex is in accepting one another for all these and wanting to share them.

angelicsaz

repitition!! whenever the 2 of u are genuinely ready and ur not questionin ur ready!!!!
like i slept with my current bf after less then a week( YES YES I KNOW!!) but ive made guys wait for months too.....

its something ya need to both talk about

Overheal

DRakE wrote: »

17 is the perfect age.. and if its up the arse theres no risk of babydom

please read the charter about useful posting -_-

and FYI - anal penetration is not a guarantee of contraception: in known cases semen has secreted from the anus after intercourse and into the vagina. Pregnancy can occur from anal.

now lets get back on topic.

OP should you discuss this with your boyfriend? Have you?

Marksie

Overheal wrote: »

please read the charter about useful posting -_-

and FYI - anal penetration is not a guarantee of contraception: in known cases semen has secreted from the anus after intercourse and into the vagina. Pregnancy can occur from anal.

now lets get back on topic.

OP should you discuss this with your boyfriend? Have you?

Overheal: leave the moderating to the moderators please.
FYI I was as good as my word.

ghouse

If you think you can wait, well done but be prepared. Make sure its safe sex, planned or not!

"That's the problem with teenagers, they're stupid."

LegacyUser

I went out with my first boyfriend for two years before we actually had full intercourse, so I was 19 at the time. We lasted for 6 years - so there is no rush. You can do a lot without actually going all the way if you're not comfortable. When it happens, it happens, if you are both comfortable then go for it. If there are any doubts then there is no rush, it gives you plenty of time to play around and think of inventive ways of enjoying yourself!

Talliesin

Somewhere between five minutes and a few years.

It really isn't about time.

Dudess

OP, you're very young - that's probably why you don't feel 100% ready. 17 may be the legal age but you're still (sorry) a kid. Have you left school yet?

DRakE wrote:

17 is the perfect age.. and if its up the arse theres no risk of babydom

THIS person's a moderator?!

Marksie

Dudess wrote: »

THIS person's a moderator?!

Dudess: he is only a moderator in the forum he moderates. He is a poster in this forum and has been dealt with as such.

Please hit teh report button as it alerts us to such posts

Overheal

Marksie wrote: »

Overheal: leave the moderating to the moderators please.
FYI I was as good as my word.

soz I jumped straight to reply - it was pretty inappropriate and false information at that.

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i waited 3 months