Need some hugs

babyguinnessfan

Last night I broke up with my boyfriend. I posted on here some time ago when I had found out that he had been meeting his ex on the sly for walks and chats. We got through it and he promised that he would not contact her again. Well guess what?! He has...and last night after some Spanish inquisition style interrogation from me he admitted that he still has feelings for her....AND he has cheated on me in the past (not with her) during our 6 year relationship. So, thank you to all who posted the first time and I so regret not having listened to my instinct and broken it off there and them. He got a second chance but no way in hell is he getting any more of me. So I finished it. I'm delighted that I did not cry or anything - I was very calm about the whole thing and just told him that I was not going to compete with anyone else for him and that it was over. Escaped with my dignity at least. But now I need some hugs cos I am close to tears in work.
Thanks.
PS If anyone has an apartment to let in Cork I'm your woman!

togster

Hugs:)

How Strange

babyguinnessfan, sorry to hear that. Hugs

Don't beat yourself up about not listening to other posters about breaking up with him. Maybe you just weren't ready for it and would've regretted it. You needed to go through the whole process including confronting him before getting to the break up stage.

More hugs

Lil' Smiler

The B**tard!!!!!!!!!

Can't stand cheaters, can't stand them at all!!!

Well done you though! Good woman, wish I had the balls to break up with my ex the first...and second time he cheated on me!

Ah yeah you'll start to feel a bit down now and then but remember that you're a much better person than him and i'm sure you have friends and family by your side who will be so proud of you for ending it for those reasons!

K_P

I remember your first thread about the walks and chats. Well done on keeping your composure when finishing it and even though I know it's absolutely no comfort to you now, you're much better off without him in the long run.

*hugs*

kev_s88

that totally sucks.what a d1ck!!!


hugs, hugs and more hugs

Cathmandooo

Sorry to hear about it but well done for keeping your dignity! Couldnt have done it better He's a fool anyway Round up your girls and have some fun you deserve it!

Hugs

Silverfish

You poor mite


This is one of those things unfortunately that you had to come to a decision on yourself, no amount of advice from other people was going to force it.
But, now you know you've done the right thing, and the way is now clear for someone to treat you properly.

Have a hug.

IRISH RAIL

Keep the chin up and put a big smile on your face
your free from this ass now he gives the good guys a bad

r3nu4l

The poor guy...no , I'm only joking, hugs to you!* IT's a har thing to do to break up with anybody but you now have some self-respect. It's probably not over by a long-shot, he will probably come back asking from another chance. At the end of the day it will be your choice whether to keep the relationship as "over" or to try again. Take time to be yourself for now.


*Do e-hugs count as cheating...if they do then please don't tell my wife

Lawless_Samurai

babyguinnessfan wrote: »

I finished it. I'm delighted that I did not cry or anything - I was very calm about the whole thing and just told him that I was not going to compete with anyone else for him and that it was over. Escaped with my dignity at least. But now I need some hugs cos I am close to tears in work.
Thanks.

Fair play to ya!!! You really did leave with your dignity and the whole not crying or anything.... Brilliant!


HUGS & KISSES because you deserve it :):D

Blackpitts

well done.

hugs from me

P.s. Unfortunately i'm in dublin

/ BIG HUG

You did the right thing which always takes guts to do

Dragan

Sounds to me like the dude didn't deserve you to be honest.

*hugs*

Sephiroth_dude

*hughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughughug*all for you ;-)

NextSteps

Dragan wrote: »

Sounds to me like the dude didn't deserve you to be honest.

Dead right. Hugs!

Reku

Yup, have to agree with Dragan, sounds like he didn't deserve you. If he's been with you 6 years while still having feeling for his ex who he still meets up with regularly I'd really wonder what he was at.

Don't feel bad about not following your gut and breaking up sooner, you clung to hope, nothing wrong with that, sometimes it pans out, sometimes it doesn't. *hug*

You left him, keeping your dignity in the process so just gather some gal pals for a girly night and let the healing & moving on begin. Hopefully your friends can help keep your mind from dwelling on him.

Miss Fluff

Multiple hugs to you accross the world wide interweb and more for again when you're done. (hugs) He's a pr1ck, you're well shot x

Henry Ford III

Congrats! You did the right thing. Best of luck to you.

Femelade

well done, time to move on with your life, have some fun etc...

*big squeezy hug*

*Page*

*big hugs*

star-pants

*HUGs* for you
- it's a horrible feeling but least now you know everything & can start to move on with things pet

Saibh

*hugs*

Nerin

Hug

wildgazelle

Big hug!u did the right thing"Warning, Pain is just part of the game":)

babyguinnessfan

I just wanted to say thank you all so so much for all of your messages - I left work yesterday because I just could not concentrate on anything and felt sick to my stomach. But I'm better off in here than at home. I know that I am going to be much better off without him. And this is going to be the best diet ever - feel sick at the thought of eating anything! I'll come out the other side and I'll be alright and meet a fabulous guy who will love me and want me. Oh god, starting to ramble...my mind is a mush.
Anyway - thank you all so much again - ye have this morning easier. I have been squashed by hugs. xx

bronte

Ah that's crap op, you're a wise lass for ending it though, you really don't need anymore of this crap.
It'll take time to feel okay again, you've just done something very brave and You're understandably a bit wobbly.
It will get better, and you'll look back on this moment and feel proud of yourself.
Major, major hugs!

Marksie

Just take some time for yourself OP. Have a pampering session or even retail therapy.

all the best
mark
*hug*

fuzzywiggle

Well done. You won't look back. And hey, the single life is a lot of fun! Believe me! *hugs*

star-pants

babyguinnessfan wrote: »

I just wanted to say thank you all so so much for all of your messages - I left work yesterday because I just could not concentrate on anything and felt sick to my stomach. But I'm better off in here than at home. I know that I am going to be much better off without him. And this is going to be the best diet ever - feel sick at the thought of eating anything! I'll come out the other side and I'll be alright and meet a fabulous guy who will love me and want me. Oh god, starting to ramble...my mind is a mush.
Anyway - thank you all so much again - ye have this morning easier. I have been squashed by hugs. xx

Good girl yourself!! Realising that you will come out the other side is sometimes half the battle. You're right it's better to be busy than sitting around thinking, lord knows I did it for long enough.
But mind you take care of yourself too - I didn't care and let myself not eat or sleep for near 3 wks because I just couldn't - I wasn't in a good state after, and it took a while to get myself back on track health wise.
Just know that you're a fab person, perhaps this wasn't the right path for you-but you will learn things & move on pet. And a decent guy is out there somewhere for you, but he'll only be there when you are ready

Mahooooooosive HUGS

traceybere

Loads of hugs

Your better of without him girlxxxxxxx

CathyMoran

You should be very proud of yourself - massive hugs. The best thing that you can do is make a better life for yourself.