Bored with GF

LegacyUser

Hey

Me and my gf have been together nearly 3 years. The relationship is good, as is the sex.

Lately I have been thinking about threesomes etc, but she won't hear any of it.

I really want to do it and have for a while, but she wont. I want to do it, but dont want to do it behind her back.

What do I do? As time goes on the more I want to experiement a bit.

MagicMarker

Well either respect her wishes and forget about it or decide how much you want to be with your girlfriend.

Tell me something, do you want introduce a man or woman into your bedroom? What i'm saying is, do you just want to shag a different girl?

biko

Try other sex games first and see if she like them? She may never go along with a threesome, just fyi.

LegacyUser

Either male or female - one time for her one time for me. Still, with basically giving her a free chance to sleep with someone else she doesnt want it.

Dinxminx

I know a lot of people who wouldn't risk a threesome whether it be because the idea of it does nothing for them or because of insecurities.

Also, would you mind if it was a threesome with another guy or would it have to be another girl?

Latchy

You shouldent pressuriese your girlfriend into doing somthing she is not comfortable with ,respect her wish's . If your that desperate ,end the relationship and look for sombody else who will .

Marksie

Why go to such an extreme straight away?

What is it that is causing you to want a threesome, and by this i take it its the male fantasy of FFM rather than MMF? and of interest how would you feel if she said yes but MMF?

Is it a genuine MUTUAL, desire to explore sexuality with your partner. Or is it simply to sleep with someone else.

The title of your thread is bored with g/friend and you want to experiment. There is plenty in fact an endless amount of experimentation that can be done within the confines of a 1:1 relationship without bringing anyone else into it. In fact while threesomees can be fun or intersting. They do not and cannot compare with experimentation with a partner and learning to understand each other.

and my guess now is you say but she wont do anything what i want.
Well several things... what does she want is one question you should ask? what do WE want is another.
Ma anand geho talks about little rules. If you want your lover to become an ecstatic lover, become one yourself first.
Do you get the concept?

If you wan your lover to really be open to ecstacy, show her how by becoming an ecstatic lover yourself.
It means not thinking of your own wants and desires but hers. In time she will open in return then there is no real stopping you.

But as others have quite correctly said you cannot force her to do something she doesnt want to do.

I HAVE seen the fallout of what has happened when somenoe has gone into it in such a fashion and it isn't pretty. and I have seen what happens when two ecstatic lovers decide to experiment that way, in the full knowledge of what they mean to each other, and that is a different kettle of fish entirely

Lawless_Samurai

Wow I was gonna offer my two cents but Marksie has posted an incredible reply to your thread... If you havn't already read it!

honru

You can't force her into doing a threesome. If this is something you really want to do then your best bet is to leave your current girlfriend and find someone who is also interested in threesomes.

Lil' Smiler

don't be a pr*ck don't do it behind her back

accept she doesn't want to do it and just w*nk thinking about it.

It's the same old if you love her you'll respect her wishes.

Also, so you say you're bored... so what would happen next if you did have this threesome? surely you'd have accomplished something you wanted to, so what's to say you won't be bored after it?