Can't stay hard!!!

LegacyUser

ok what the f**k? i just spent a night with a beautiful girl that Im madly attracted too and I just couldnt stay hard! the first time we tried I had to fumble around in the dark for what seemed like about a minute to find a condom which totally put a damper on it but it got a bit hard again so i put the condom on but not hard enough to go in so at that stage i think i just lost all confidence and it went soft! we tried again another few times over the course of the night but it just wasnt happening, it went hard when she was just using her hands, no condom and i was about 2 climax but it just went f**king soft again!!

this is not like me, i usually get a little stiff from just hugging a girl i think is hot. i was getting hard no problem, it was just keeping hard, as soon as it seemed like we were going to do anything it would just get soft again and think the way it happened the first time, made me worry the 2nd, then that made me worry the 3rd and on and on.

the reasons i can think of are that like a lot of other times ive spent days with a girlfriend, i find i get wind, like i need to go to the toilet, but i cant until the girl leaves or im on my own. i even felt i had to go to the toilet before we met but i was anxious before meeting so couldnt again. usually ive no problem going to the toilet and have a healthy diet and usually go properly in the morning, that morning i didnt because i was anxious about meeting up with her so i felt the whole day and on into the night, i was owed a visit to the loo, but it wouldnt come, id sit down and some wind would come out but nothing else, even though i knew it was there. im never constipated, so its not that, its just nerves i think. so this led to me having a bloated tummy when i was in bed with her which was uncomfortable. the thing is though, other times ive had the same thing with a girlfriend but have still been able to perform ok but i still feel myself that it definitely had something to do with it moreso this time.

the other thing is I have some scarring on my body from an op when i was younger and would usually keep a tshirt on when sleeping with someone, but i felt ok taking it off with this girl but again, i was still thinking about this when doing stuf.

im worried the next time i see this girl im just going to be thinking back to this where i couldnt stay hard which will effect me again and i wont be able to do it again.

id consider myself fine in that department, i masturbate quite a lot, pretty much every day and have never had a problem.

this is the first time i havent been able to stay hard for anything, when i was first with my ex, i had the same problem but only as we were about to have sex, but she was able to use her hands and id climax no problem, i was close this time when the girl was using her hands but i just started thinking the worst and it went soft again.

just wanted to get some views on this and what should I do??? Viagra??? would it help?? any negative side fx? im in the 20-25 age bracket and i thought viagra was geared more to older men but any advice wud be nice,thx

Victor

I suspect its all nerves - especially with the bathroom thing.

However, if it does persist, mention it to your GP.

Bottle_of_Smoke

If you're fine on your own it's gotta be psychological - have a chat with a professional

LegacyUser

You're not alone, have the same problem!

I'm interested in seeing more replies....

LegacyUser

Me too, i had a couple of hot girls in bed recently but just cant keep it up.Its horrible. Once again fine when on my own....but when it comes to bein with a girl i just cant do it....i go soft too soon. Im also v interested in any advice. Im 28 btw so surely too young for Viagra

Dord

Its all psychomological

You just need to relax.

finkaboutit555

HI,
I've had this problem now and again, The exact same way hard-soft-semi-soft-hard-ish!!!

Most of the time I find it is due to stress from work or whatever the hell else is goin on in my head!!
Just relax its all you can do.

Also if you drink coffee alot this can also give you anxeity attacks whic will also mess you up..

You also said that fire off one most days, Maybe a rest is in order..
Croke Park is a great pitch but even its gets time of to repair itself..Know What I Mean.

Just Relax.. It Happens..

the_syco

Softi3 wrote: »

ok what the f**k? i just spent a night with a beautiful girl that Im madly attracted too and I just couldnt stay hard!

You got nervous.

Softi3 wrote: »

i find i get wind, like i need to go to the toilet, but i cant until the girl leaves or im on my own. i even felt i had to go to the toilet before we met but i was anxious before meeting so couldnt again.

Butterflies in your stomach.

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You just gotta relax, and instead of concentrating on getting yer man hard, concentrate on her body, and you'll find it easier to f*ck her.

mysterymeme123

hey, it sound like some of the symptoms associated with an enlarged prostate. this is very very common. i am not saying this is what it is but it may be . if you get the urge to wee very frequently then head to the doctor .its not a serious issue at all so relax

Gibbins123

my first boyfriend had that problem. it was because he was nervous as it was his first few times. have never seen him at his best as we broke up a couple of months later. So hopefully hes alright these days.

It was totally nervousness. even doing it in a bed made him nervous. So guys, if its your first few times then its just nervousness. So maybe for first few times in bed, make it all about the girl. pleasure her in every way you can think of, apart from actual intercourse. Then a few times later, you'll be comfortable with hers and your naked body. And it will all go well.

Worrying that it will go soft...will ensure that it will go soft! If someone tells you that going soft on the first few times is a possibility, ignore them. As worrying about it will make it happen!

And if you do go soft, don't spend aaaages trying to get hard again. I found it bloody hard work, sore wrist and i'd be so tired as its late in the night. and it never works.

Once it goes soft, leave it.
Pleasure the girl.
Perhaps morning wood would be another opportunity.