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some advice - virgin boyfriend

  • 20-11-2007 10:36am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Wondering if anyone could give me some advice or just me know if i need any? Been going out with my boyfriend for five months now. He's 23 and i am 19 everything great etc. We're at point where we wanna sleep with each other but the other night he casually mentioned that he was a virgin, knocked me for six mainly cos I'd not have guessed. Said I am 1st he's serious bout and wants it to be me. Whilst I'm flattered also a lil nervous as Im not very experienced - have had a few very brief sexual encounters but more experienced than him SO just wondering if there's anything I should do to make it more special/good etc. I had bad first time so that's why I don't want same for him, any suggestions from male perspective?


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  • #2
    seamus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    First piece of advice - don't be drunk. A glass of wine or two over dinner is fine, but hammered is not.

    Other than that, there's not really a whole lot that you can do to make it a horrible experience :)
    The first couple of times, sex is an awkward affair. It doesn't come naturally to most of us. Perhaps rather than him attempting to go on top, pumping away and getting sore muscles and out of breath, you take the initiative and go on top - aside from making him less uncomfortable/self-conscious, you'll be able to control both of your pleasure and he'll have better control over himself.


  • #3
    Kaldorn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 299 ✭✭Kaldorn


    "Been going out with my boyfriend for five months now"

    what the hell where you doing for five months????....a quick peck on the cheek down the lane? you are 19 not 15 and he is 23..this is wierd,I am not much older than him and i couldnt keep up with my partners at that age!..ah bless i suppose its cute...my advice is to let him do all the work and you sleep on the wet patch!


  • #4
    Cathmandooo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,324 ✭✭✭✭Cathmandooo


    I've had a similar situation, (although i never waited that long!) all I say is give him a chance to lead the way too, if you take full control it can be quite intimidating to the guy and his confidence (which is probably already rocky) will be shattered, but still give him a nudge in the right direction ;) He'll want guidance rather than being dictated to!


  • #5
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Kaldorn wrote: »
    my advice is to let him do all the work and you sleep on the wet patch!

    My advice to you is to read this forums charter with regards to unhelpful comments.
    Consider this your warning.
    B


  • #6
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Don't be afraid to tell him what you want done to you so he won't have to guess.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    kellymars wrote: »
    Wondering if anyone could give me some advice or just me know if i need any? Been going out with my boyfriend for five months now. He's 23 and i am 19 everything great etc. We're at point where we wanna sleep with each other but the other night he casually mentioned that he was a virgin, knocked me for six mainly cos I'd not have guessed. Said I am 1st he's serious bout and wants it to be me. Whilst I'm flattered also a lil nervous as Im not very experienced - have had a few very brief sexual encounters but more experienced than him SO just wondering if there's anything I should do to make it more special/good etc. I had bad first time so that's why I don't want same for him, any suggestions from male perspective?

    Wow, Similar story here! Cept I am 19, she is 23, and we are both virgins! Also, 9 months............................................
    We broke up for a brief period because we were going to fast without sex! (sounds weird, but we spent alot of time together, went on holidays abroad together!) This put huge strain on the relationship! She has been on the pill for a while now, but shes still not ready, dunno if I will make christmas. Been so patient, never rushed her.


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