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  • 19-11-2007 12:40pm
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    barbeck23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36 ✭


    Okay, I know that there are a string of the 'relationship in crisis' threads but when it happens, one doesn't know what to do...

    Okay basically I started seeing this girl about 6 months ago. We fell for each other but she didnt want a relationship as she was moving to London in October. She cooled it for a while and realised she couldn't not be in contact with me and we ended up getting really close before she left. As she put it - going through the motions of a relaitonship without calling it one.

    Now she has gone and the first month she was in contact all the time, sending me sweet emails and being very forthcoming with her feelings for me. Then about 2 weeks ago her contact started to slow down and I felt she was backing away. I asked her and she said she had a lot on her mind and that she needed to sort everything out in London. i.e. she hasn't found a permanant place of residence, her job isn't what she expected and she claimmed she was missing me and her friends. That was understandable and then I went out and Thursday night and rang her drunk at about 3am. She was genuinely happy to her from me and we talked for ages, about us and what not. She was of the opinion that I shouldn't think about it too much and to just relax and see what happens. I said I needed to know and it was going to have to come to a head. I am planning to move form Ireland in July and I hinted that London could be one of the places I chose to live.

    Now I havent heard from her since then and I am getting worried. She has been lack in contact before when she was smoking alot of weed and doing drugs on nights out but I dont understand how she can go from hot to cold if she does love me. She said she is in a different frame of mind in London but it's all good. And that she is happy. I get the impression she doesnt want to committ to anything from London but I cant see how it can work, we need to make a decision either way. She claims she cant handle not being in contact but I feel an ultimatam has to come soon. I feel a little used and at a dead end because I love her and I cant move on. I need some kind of movement from where we are at either towards a relationship or nothing at all.

    I dont know whether to put pressure on her now as I get the impression she is dealing with alot in London. (Some people she works with gave her a 'funny' joint and she deosnt trust them) or should I wait and say something> I dont think she thinks it can work but I feel like she wants to keep me on a string until the time is right for us to be together. I love her alot. Advise???


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